Popular Post Bouvre Posted October 22, 2018 Popular Post Share Posted October 22, 2018 to people who haven't been around me much, namely my family, and distant friends. A large number of you know, some don't. Either way Coming out in high school as gay was emotional and I was full of worry about people's responses. I feel in a similar situation, like I'm young all over again and realizing the world hasn't even fully opened up yet for me. The fear, patterns of anxiety over what my parents will think, are all back and horribly palpable. Plus, I barely even know how to makeup yet. Wish me luck. 17 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tengu Posted October 22, 2018 Share Posted October 22, 2018 You’re doing what is right for you. Try not to think about what others think, it’s irrelevant anyway. Good luck, you have support. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bouvre Posted October 22, 2018 Author Share Posted October 22, 2018 3 minutes ago, Tengu said: You’re doing what is right for you. Try not to think about what others think, it’s irrelevant anyway. Good luck, you have support. I'm more afraid of what they might do than what they think, but you're right: I feel like my whole self is being expressed and it's pretty amazing. Thank you <3 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ric Posted October 22, 2018 Share Posted October 22, 2018 good luck 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scoobdog Posted October 22, 2018 Share Posted October 22, 2018 From what little I've seen, I think you ready for this. It's time for you to do what you need to be whole. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Codename: Jackass Posted October 22, 2018 Share Posted October 22, 2018 I believe in you. Not much coming from a fuck like me, but you've got the strength to do this. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vamped Posted October 22, 2018 Share Posted October 22, 2018 Live your best life! Good Luck! >.> I dunno how to do make up either so ... when you find out lemme know 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fuggstop Posted October 22, 2018 Share Posted October 22, 2018 Can i quit being a girl? Too much competition lol J.k. Youre gonna be so beautiful! Makeup is easy.. just foundation eyes and lips really. I would say watch some makeup tutorials but they go wayyyy overboard. Just find some foundation and lip stick u like...just a little eyeliner. Thats all i use but i barely wear makeup and a lot of women dont. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Naraku4656 Posted October 22, 2018 Share Posted October 22, 2018 just learn this song and you'll be fine 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bouvre Posted October 22, 2018 Author Share Posted October 22, 2018 24 minutes ago, Vamped said: Live your best life! Good Luck! >.> I dunno how to do make up either so ... when you find out lemme know I love that phrase, live your best life. My housemate says it all the time. And will do <3 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
garbagepailcat Posted October 22, 2018 Share Posted October 22, 2018 Best of luck! Also, have fun with your makeup journey! 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bouvre Posted October 22, 2018 Author Share Posted October 22, 2018 19 minutes ago, fuggstop said: Can i quit being a girl? Too much competition lol J.k. Youre gonna be so beautiful! Makeup is easy.. just foundation eyes and lips really. I would say watch some makeup tutorials but they go wayyyy overboard. Just find some foundation and lip stick u like...just a little eyeliner. Thats all i use but i barely wear makeup and a lot of women dont. I use concealer for the stubble on my lip and chin, but yeah: foundation, lipstick, and eyeliner is all I really feel a need to do for now. I would like to figure out how to wing eyeliner tho Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cidz Posted October 22, 2018 Share Posted October 22, 2018 55 minutes ago, Bouvre said: Plus, I barely even know how to makeup yet. Wish me luck. Thats whats youtube for. So easy to learn how now. Anyway good luck. Hope u get a good dr. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bouvre Posted October 22, 2018 Author Share Posted October 22, 2018 15 minutes ago, Cidz said: Thats whats youtube for. So easy to learn how now. Anyway good luck. Hope u get a good dr. A good dr? For reassignment? I'm not actually sure if I'll get reassignment. Would like to have breasts at least, though 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kudasai Posted October 22, 2018 Share Posted October 22, 2018 Best of luck to you 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
midnight Posted October 22, 2018 Share Posted October 22, 2018 I wasn't always an accepting person. Matter of fact, I disliked everyone. However, once I met my wife, and had kids, my perception changed. I have had my fair share of dirty looks and people not accepting me. All because I have long hair, a long beard, full tattoo sleeves, and a black wife. I accept everyone now, except those who can't accept. I developed a Fuck You attitude and it has not failed me yet. Never. EVER, be afraid to be who YOU are. If people can't accept it, that is their loss. You're a good person. If anyone sees anything other than that, then they are the ones with the problem. Not you. 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cidz Posted October 22, 2018 Share Posted October 22, 2018 3 minutes ago, Bouvre said: A good dr? For reassignment? I'm not actually sure if I'll get reassignment. Would like to have breasts at least, though Well not necessarily. But if you wish to go on hrt and maybe other stufg. I just wish for u not to have to get a dr thats rude or gives u a hard time. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bouvre Posted October 22, 2018 Author Share Posted October 22, 2018 2 minutes ago, Cidz said: Well not necessarily. But if you wish to go on hrt and maybe other stufg. I just wish for u not to have to get a dr thats rude or gives u a hard time. Oh, would definitely do my research and get recs. <3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bouvre Posted October 22, 2018 Author Share Posted October 22, 2018 8 minutes ago, midnight said: I wasn't always an accepting person. Matter of fact, I disliked everyone. However, once I met my wife, and had kids, my perception changed. I have had my fair share of dirty looks and people not accepting me. All because I have long hair, a long beard, full tattoo sleeves, and a black wife. I accept everyone now, except those who can't accept. I developed a Fuck You attitude and it has not failed me yet. Never. EVER, be afraid to be who YOU are. If people can't accept it, that is their loss. You're a good person. If anyone sees anything other than that, then they are the ones with the problem. Not you. I'm not crying youre crying 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bouvre Posted October 22, 2018 Author Share Posted October 22, 2018 9 minutes ago, Kudasai said: Best of luck to you Thank you Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
midnight Posted October 22, 2018 Share Posted October 22, 2018 Just now, Bouvre said: I'm not crying youre crying People read too much into other folk's sexual orientation. I have a different outlook. And I am serious. I mean, do we dislike certain people because, let's say they root for the Yankees and not the Dodgers? Do we hate people who like Ford and not Chevrolet? No. We do not. However, we as a society have deemed it ok to hate people because of their skin color, or their religious preferences, or their sexual orientation, or how they identify themselves as far as gender. It makes no sense. No one's preferences in anything, is anyone else's business. As long as the person is a good person, who and why should anyone care? I'd rather be friends with someone who is transgender or Muslim, or a different ethnicity, than someone who is a ''normal'' asshole. Stay strong, Bouvre. You have friends. Don't steer from your course!! 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fuggstop Posted October 22, 2018 Share Posted October 22, 2018 40 minutes ago, Bouvre said: I use concealer for the stubble on my lip and chin, but yeah: foundation, lipstick, and eyeliner is all I really feel a need to do for now. I would like to figure out how to wing eyeliner tho Well yah for the wing theres definitely a YouTube vid that can help make that easy. I saw a trick once but forgot it. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mix Posted October 23, 2018 Share Posted October 23, 2018 (edited) I can't imagine the anxiety that goes along with coming out and your doing it twice....damn Good luck....and sorry about the seal vid I posted....my sister said that wasn't an appropriate way to show support ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ Edited October 23, 2018 by Mix 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mini_ghost420 Posted October 23, 2018 Share Posted October 23, 2018 lol I knew you were trans a long time ago <3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jackiemarie90 Posted October 23, 2018 Share Posted October 23, 2018 Not all girls where makeup. But if you ever have questions I can try to help. Best of luck to you. <3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bnmjy Posted October 23, 2018 Share Posted October 23, 2018 Partial hydrogenation is such a bad thing to do. Stupid joke. Good luck! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stilgar Posted October 23, 2018 Share Posted October 23, 2018 4 hours ago, Bouvre said: to people who haven't been around me much, namely my family, and distant friends. A large number of you know, some don't. Either way Coming out in high school as gay was emotional and I was full of worry about people's responses. I feel in a similar situation, like I'm young all over again and realizing the world hasn't even fully opened up yet for me. The fear, patterns of anxiety over what my parents will think, are all back and horribly palpable. Plus, I barely even know how to makeup yet. Wish me luck. I wish you all the luck in the world my friend. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ginguy Posted October 23, 2018 Share Posted October 23, 2018 Good luck. It isn't much, but maybe it helps? 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NaBarney Posted October 23, 2018 Share Posted October 23, 2018 Hoorae bae! 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StarPanda Posted October 23, 2018 Share Posted October 23, 2018 Hot Best of luck man wish you the best. You are one of my favorite people here, you can come out as whatever you want. We would all still love you 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
midnight Posted October 23, 2018 Share Posted October 23, 2018 @Bouvre, sorry this got out of hand. Nothing but respect for you. I’ll continue this with fuggs in df. I won’t reply to her anymore on your thread. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rogue_Alphonse Posted October 23, 2018 Share Posted October 23, 2018 You know where I'm at! And you know my gf relates! Also, this may seem overwhelming right now, but as it progresses it will get better and it'll fly by like coming out as gay did. Plus, you have an astronomically large group of people of all walks and talks who support you! (Plus you're cute in a dress.) 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Doom Metal Alchemist Posted October 23, 2018 Share Posted October 23, 2018 This may be fishing for too much personal information, so forgive me and just let me know if it is, but I am curious... Do you no longer consider yourself gay? Just a transwoman who is straight? What does your husband think about this? If you're going to dress like a woman and wear makeup, and possibly get breast implants, is he ok with being married to you as a woman as opposed to you as a man? Again, forgive me if I'm prying too much. But good luck to you on your journey! 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bouvre Posted October 23, 2018 Author Share Posted October 23, 2018 4 hours ago, Mix said: I can't imagine the anxiety that goes along with coming out and your doing it twice....damn Good luck....and sorry about the seal vid I posted....my sister said that wasn't an appropriate way to show support ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ I thought the seal was beautiful, and so I took it accordingly. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KimopoBotar Posted October 23, 2018 Share Posted October 23, 2018 I sincerely hope that humanity reaches a point where people won't have to come out because it won't be a big deal. We're not there yet, sadly. But I believe we'll get there. As long we have people like you who make this pivotal and difficult decision we will keep making tiny bits of incremental progress. So congratulations, but more importantly thank you. Because even if you made this choice entirely for yourself and that wasn't a factor (which is how it should be and how i hope it was because this is your choice and no one else's) you're still helping push humanity's progress just a tiny bit further by letting people know they know a trans person. That's important. So thank you. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bouvre Posted October 23, 2018 Author Share Posted October 23, 2018 24 minutes ago, Doom Metal Alchemist said: This may be fishing for too much personal information, so forgive me and just let me know if it is, but I am curious... Do you no longer consider yourself gay? Just a transwoman who is straight? What does your husband think about this? If you're going to dress like a woman and wear makeup, and possibly get breast implants, is he ok with being married to you as a woman as opposed to you as a man? Again, forgive me if I'm prying too much. But good luck to you on your journey! I will always be gay because why not? Also being trans isn't a binary thing. I identify somewhere in a grey area: my pronouns are they and them, but refer to myself as a woman, hope to be called miss when addressed formally, and my name is Ellie. That being said, I don't experience dysphoria the same way others do. Not all trans folx do. And I may never get surgery at all. But even if it's a problem with my spouse, which it hasn't been yet, so be it. I will never not love him, but if I'm the person he no longer wants, then I will go my way, he will go his. Also, ask questions as long as you're courteous and genuinely curious! Being trans isn't as black-and-white as it may appear, and I'm still figuring things out myself. But this particular moment in my life has been a long time coming, I just haven't said all that much directly about it 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bouvre Posted October 23, 2018 Author Share Posted October 23, 2018 Thinking back on the slow process of self-realization, I recall the moment when I received my wait-list notification for NYU's poetry MFA program. The e-mail began with the greeting "Dear Ms." I'd absentmindedly checked off Ms. instead of Mr. in my application, but I really liked it a whole lot. I think it didn't really hit me until much later because I was elated to be waitlisted by freakin' NYU, and just losing my mind with the hope to be admitted. 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Distortedreasoning Posted October 23, 2018 Share Posted October 23, 2018 good luck. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
André Toulon Posted October 23, 2018 Share Posted October 23, 2018 17 hours ago, Doom Metal Alchemist said: This may be fishing for too much personal information, so forgive me and just let me know if it is, but I am curious... Do you no longer consider yourself gay? Just a transwoman who is straight? What does your husband think about this? If you're going to dress like a woman and wear makeup, and possibly get breast implants, is he ok with being married to you as a woman as opposed to you as a man? Again, forgive me if I'm prying too much. But good luck to you on your journey! I'm glad you asked this because I wanted to know as well, but I was just a fly on the wall in this thread because I never know where the line is....Like I would have been real comfortable asking if it were Gunstar because we talk off board, maybe even Poof, but I'm not that in tune with Bourve. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mthor Posted October 23, 2018 Share Posted October 23, 2018 It's not about makeup, it's about that inner glow of strength, and you've already got that. Good luck! 😘 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sawdamizer Posted October 23, 2018 Share Posted October 23, 2018 Everyone has been super helpful here and supportive. I'd hate to ruin the vibe by saying something stupid... So... I'd fuck ya 2 1 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stilgar Posted October 23, 2018 Share Posted October 23, 2018 38 minutes ago, Sawdamizer said: Everyone has been super helpful here and supportive. I'd hate to ruin the vibe by saying something stupid... So... I'd fuck ya Who wouldn't? 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KreiaDidNothingWrong Posted October 24, 2018 Share Posted October 24, 2018 Prepare for your new boobs to hurt a lot 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rogue_Alphonse Posted October 24, 2018 Share Posted October 24, 2018 3 minutes ago, KreiaDidNothingWrong said: Prepare for your new boobs to hurt a lot My gf is going through this currently 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KreiaDidNothingWrong Posted October 24, 2018 Share Posted October 24, 2018 3 minutes ago, Rogue߷Alphonse said: My gf is going through this currently It’s so bad 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Doom Metal Alchemist Posted October 24, 2018 Share Posted October 24, 2018 6 hours ago, Buddyroe360 said: I'm glad you asked this because I wanted to know as well, but I was just a fly on the wall in this thread because I never know where the line is....Like I would have been real comfortable asking if it were Gunstar because we talk off board, maybe even Poof, but I'm not that in tune with Bourve. Dude, I used to go to college with a f2m transgendered classmate. He was always very candid about being trans and his experiences and journey. However, one thing he never did bring up, at least in my presence, and that I never heard any of my other classmates discuss, is did he get a penis. I was always so curious, and especially wanted to know because he was otherwise so candid about him being trans, but I just didn't want to cross that line so I never asked him about it. And then he eventually got married to a biological woman, and now I'm REALLY wondering if he has a penis. But yeah, I figure if he's not going to bring it up himself, he probably wouldn't like me asking. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bouvre Posted October 24, 2018 Author Share Posted October 24, 2018 8 hours ago, KreiaDidNothingWrong said: Prepare for your new boobs to hurt a lot I will try to remember this when I have the financial means for it. In the meantime, non-invasive fake breasts it is Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KH868 Posted October 26, 2018 Share Posted October 26, 2018 So are you heterosexual then? 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mochi Posted October 27, 2018 Share Posted October 27, 2018 Congrats :3 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mochi Posted October 27, 2018 Share Posted October 27, 2018 On 10/22/2018 at 2:29 PM, Bouvre said: to people who haven't been around me much, namely my family, and distant friends. A large number of you know, some don't. Either way Coming out in high school as gay was emotional and I was full of worry about people's responses. I feel in a similar situation, like I'm young all over again and realizing the world hasn't even fully opened up yet for me. The fear, patterns of anxiety over what my parents will think, are all back and horribly palpable. Plus, I barely even know how to makeup yet. Wish me luck. also I could suggest some youtube Makeup gurus to teach you how to makeup if you're actually interested in that 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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