How's your relationship with your father?

[Insipid]

So father's day is coming up. Let's share our daddy issues. Be as sappy or depressing or neutral as you want.

I'm not gonna overshare with details, but I haven't spoken to my father for nearly 12 years now. He last called me on my birthday only to talk about himself. I don't really care to ever speak to or see him again.

[André Toulon]

It was weird at best and definitely dysfunctional.

My earliest memories of him are my mom dropping me off at his house and him being gone most of the time...I would snoop in his room while he was gone and that was the first time I saw weed, roach clips and crooked scissors. He liked the gold Listerine, which I became enamored with that smell...so much so I still use it today. He would take me to go play Pac-Man but mostly I was just at his house alone or he'd drop me off at my aunt's.

My next set of memories comes from when he visited after we moved to the south....I remember 2 visits....the first, my mom apparently found a roach he had left in the fish bowl (it was decorative) and they argued about it for a long time....but they are hilarious when they argue...most kids would be traumatized but I think it's mostly where I developed my sense of humor. The next time he came, it was during Christmas and I got a Nintendo and a tape recorder....I waited for them to argue and I hid in the hallway and pushed the tape recorder into the room with them....I then listened to it daily to laugh and even played it for my friends.

I went back to visit him alone when I was 13-14 ish. This was when Street Fighter 2 hit arcades. He lived next to the mall...it had the arcade and the Magic Johnson Theater....he gave me money and that's what I did every day....don't really remember he and I hanging out, but he bought me Street Fighter 2010 for NES. I had to have it. That and the new game I had just discovered in the arcade had the same name and they were both made by Capcom....even though the back of the box looked nothing like SF2, I was still optimistic that I would somehow get to play what I had been playing in the arcade when I got home.

Last time was at his funeral...I was 16-17.....I have no idea why, but I lost my shit....we didn't really have much of a relationship other than he gave me money, but I was super sad over it for like an hour....then I finally found weed.

Tldr. Meh

Edited June 14 by André Toulon

[The_annoying_one]

My dad passed away last February.

He most definitely had his demons, but I try not to dwell on that anymore. 

[Gemini]

My dad passed away back in 2017. We had a really good relationship before he died.

I still miss him.

[Still Me]

indifferent.

My entire family, immediate or extended, aren't the close type so we occasionally speak but not at great lengths.

[Dusty Shackleford]

We don't dislike each other so...

[UwPp]

Didn't know who my dad was until I was in 4th grade. He was never around growing up. My gma thinks I should give him a father's day card and I laughed. We coexist if we're in the same room, because him and my mom date or whatever. But that's about all. 

[[classic swim]]

I could speak ill on him but I turned into him in a lot of ways. We’re both failures except he was the more successful failure.

[ghostrek]

In real life, I'm named after my father, and put it this way if any of my relatives call me by my real name which is the same as my father I would take it as a fucking insult

[André Toulon]

Nah...just keep going

Edited June 14 by André Toulon

[katt_goddess]

The reason I could take a punch before I entered kindergarten and the reason I needed a cane when I got to college is long dead. 

I told him what he'd die of and got beaten for it. Then again, he'd beat me just for existing most of the time. The first born is supposed to be a boy after all.

He was told that the next time I show up in the area, it would be for his death. He died one day after I was brought back to the old stomping grounds of exactly what I told him of decades earlier.

His soul is currently banned from the main house and stuck in the red garage because f him. 

 

[mthor]

My father taught me how to make bread and Stingers. He taught me how to bait a hook and gut a fish, and how to draw blood. 

After I moved back up to my home town, we'd go out in the woods to pick blueberries every summer. I hated it. The mosquitoes were horrible, but I'd go anyway, because Dad asked, and because my stepmother worried about him out in the middle of nowhere. (He always had a cell phone, but he never turned it on.) The summer before he died, I'd stop by after work, and, maybe once a week, I'd ask if he was ready to go. Finally, he said, "I don't want to disappoint you, but I don't think I can do it." "I don't really want to go," I said. "I just didn't want to disappoint you, either."

Miss you, Dad.

[Doom Metal Alchemist]

Any daddy issues I might have are pretty minor, overall we have a pretty great relationship.

I finally moved out of my parents' house into my own apartment last September. Had nothing to do with needing to get away from them, just trying to grow up.

[Insipid]

55 minutes ago, Doom Metal Alchemist said:

Any daddy issues I might have are pretty minor, overall we have a pretty great relationship.

I'm honestly jealous. My daddy issues run deeper than fugg's hooha. 😭 

[ghostrek]

3 hours ago, katt_goddess said:

The reason I could take a punch before I entered kindergarten and the reason I needed a cane when I got to college is long dead. 

I told him what he'd die of and got beaten for it. Then again, he'd beat me just for existing most of the time. The first born is supposed to be a boy after all.

He was told that the next time I show up in the area, it would be for his death. He died one day after I was brought back to the old stomping grounds of exactly what I told him of decades earlier.

His soul is currently banned from the main house and stuck in the red garage because f him. 

 

@katt_goddess wow  i hop you healed  from psychological trauma

[Insipid]

12 minutes ago, ghostrek said:

wow  i hop you healed  from psychological trauma

You can't spell hope but you can spell psychological? 😱

[Raptorpat]

my dad's gonna help me put the AC unit in the window tomorrow because he's a strong grown up

[scoobdog]

It’s been 19 years.  He had daddy issues, but he didn’t pass them on to me.  I miss him the more I deal with the rest of my family.

[Insipid]

My father had daddy issues of his own too. He had quite an argument with my paternal grandfather to the point he said he disowned him. My grandfather then left a voicemail to my mother, divorced to my father, saying that he loved her and to call him. She never got a chance to, as he died a week later. My father broke down in tears so many times at his funeral. He said he hopes I never have to feel what he felt there.

Don't worry, "Dad." I know I won't. 🙄

And that's just the tip of the iceberg. I normally don't give a shit about father's day or think about my father during this time of year. Maybe I'll reveal more of my thoughts, depending on how this thread goes. Or not.

Edited June 15 by Insipid

[PenguinBoss]

He's dead and I'm alive, so it's going pretty good.

[Greeny]

Why? Have you seen him?

[Vamped]

On 6/14/2024 at 4:16 PM, -Kudasai- said:

We don't dislike each other so...

Have you accepted he smashed that lady on your massage tablet yet? 

 

Cause they definitely banged on it 

 

[Vamped]

On 6/14/2024 at 6:55 PM, Doom Metal Alchemist said:

 

I finally moved out of my parents' house into my own apartment last September. Had nothing to do with needing to get away from them, just trying to grow up.

Now all that's left is to get bitches 

[Vamped]

On 6/14/2024 at 4:46 PM, ghostrek said:

In real life, 

Are you saying your government name isn't Ghostrek?! 

.... or 

Spoiler

You got a daddy on the internet? 

 

[Insipid]

@Vamped So tell us about your daddy issues.

[Dusty Shackleford]

16 minutes ago, Vamped said:

Have you accepted he smashed that lady on your massage tablet yet? 

 

Cause they definitely banged on it 

 

I was doing the same thing on it before I loaned it to him so it's cool 

[Vamped]

They donated some jizz and bounced. Then my grandpa was like ..  hey that's not fair I'm gonna take you and randomly show up on this man's door step when I was like ...6ish? to ... I assume make him feel guilty or whatever. So the sperm donor gave me this random bear (and child suppot) that belonged to one of his other kids because it had a hole in the throat ..  and I kinda never wanted to go talk to him again. My mom never said anything bad about him and they were always like if you wanna talk to him you can. I just never did because ..  for what? If he dies, he dies. 

[Vamped]

2 minutes ago, -Kudasai- said:

I was doing the same thing on it before I loaned it to him so it's cool 

So ... was there even any massages happening?? 

[Dusty Shackleford]

Just now, Vamped said:

So ... was there even any massages happening?? 

I'm trained in it so hanky panky too place after the session 

[Vamped]

Just now, -Kudasai- said:

I'm trained in it so hanky panky too place after the session 

Did you train in seedy massage parlor giving out happy endings??! 

[Dusty Shackleford]

7 minutes ago, Vamped said:

Did you train in seedy massage parlor giving out happy endings??! 

I went to school for it and for the record I was only doing happy endings with women I was in a relationship with 

[discolé monade]

resentful, violent, and full of dysfunction.

 

[Mix]

I did not expect this thread to go the route it did.

lmao, dad's ain't shit.

 

[Insipid]

1 hour ago, Mix said:

I did not expect this thread to go the route it did.

lmao, dad's ain't shit.

 

It's ok. I'll cry for you.

[ghostrek]

9 hours ago, Vamped said:

Are you saying your government name isn't Ghostrek?! 

.... or 

  Hide contents

You got a daddy on the internet? 

 

It's a contraction of Ghostbusters and Star Trek I'm not dumb enough to post my real name on the Internet

[Vamped]

2 hours ago, ghostrek said:

It's a contraction of Ghostbusters and Star Trek I'm not dumb enough to post my real name on the Internet

 

[André Toulon]

I never thought I'd see a Tony Baker reference here

[NSAID]

Haha lol ha well haha...at least it ain't mother's day right.? Tbf I never knew my biological father except for one phone call when I was like nine. But it is creepy he was like late 40s at earliest while my mother was 18 when I was conceived. Not gonna get into my step father or anyone else bc I barely talked about that in therapy yet, I'm not gonna unleash here.

[Vamped]

6 hours ago, André Toulon said:

I never thought I'd see a Tony Baker reference here

Prolly not his target demographic here

[Mix]

On 6/16/2024 at 7:49 PM, Insipid said:

It's ok. I'll cry for you.

Don't cry for me Argentina

[discolé monade]

1 hour ago, Mix said:

Don't cry for me Argentina

  trust issues?

[little_girl_lost]

I hafta call my dad every saturday so i can can bitched at for not being married or having any kids.

And if i dont call one week, I'll get guilt tripped for 20 minutes the next week.

[Ric]

It's alright I guess, 5/10

[molarbear]

On 6/14/2024 at 6:55 PM, Doom Metal Alchemist said:

Any daddy issues I might have are pretty minor, overall we have a pretty great relationship.

I finally moved out of my parents' house into my own apartment last September. Had nothing to do with needing to get away from them, just trying to grow up.

Nice man! How has it been?

Any annoying ass neighbors yet?

Got any roommates that do bizarre shit?

If you do have roommates, you may get to experience one of them breaking up with a crazy person! You'll wake up one morning still tired and cranky, having to go to work, only to find a weird folder on your porch with drawings and magazine head cutouts in it and serial killer like writings. You'll toss it inside Dave's room, he'll wake up mad and go  "wtf?" and you'll say "I dunno man, but if I get murdered by your ex.... I will haunt you."

[Doom Metal Alchemist]

1 hour ago, molarbear said:

Nice man! How has it been?

Any annoying ass neighbors yet?

Got any roommates that do bizarre shit?

If you do have roommates, you may get to experience one of them breaking up with a crazy person! You'll wake up one morning still tired and cranky, having to go to work, only to find a weird folder on your porch with drawings and magazine head cutouts in it and serial killer like writings. You'll toss it inside Dave's room, he'll wake up mad and go  "wtf?" and you'll say "I dunno man, but if I get murdered by your ex.... I will haunt you."

It's been pretty decent.

I have a neighbor I'm pretty cool with, not annoying at all.

No roommates. I didn't want any, I figured I'd drive any roommates crazy with my slobbishness (I don't think that's a word).

[mthor]

5 hours ago, Doom Metal Alchemist said:

It's been pretty decent.

I have a neighbor I'm pretty cool with, not annoying at all.

No roommates. I didn't want any, I figured I'd drive any roommates crazy with my slobbishness (I don't think that's a word).

It's not slobbishness. It's an alternative organizational system.

[Doom Metal Alchemist]

4 minutes ago, mthor said:

It's not slobbishness. It's an alternative organizational system.

Love it. Love everything about it.

[André Toulon]

You should invite ghostrek to stay with you

Big ol bachelor pad. No parents or mean brothers.

One is in a rock band, the other is a sci-fi YouTube personality. See what happens when these two hit the town to drag so many cooing spinsters to conquistador island😲

[lupin_bebop]

Meh. He’s an asshole. He used to throw shit at me, tell me I wouldn’t amount to anything, and treats me with passive disrespect and distrust. I pretty much don’t do anything around my family unless I’m being paid to or I absolutely have to.