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I don't understand how some of you are 30+ and still virgins


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I'm not here to ridicule you, I'm legit confused.  Like in my adult life I've fallen ass backwards into sex several time...Not looking for it, not even thinking about it but before the night ended I just wound up in a vagina.

I mean I feel like you have to actively refuse sex to not have had it....It's not that difficult a thing to find.  Sometimes it finds you.  

Now I do understand you few who just don't want it....It's a choice and I respect that.  But haven't you at least been offered it, even if you don't want it?

Like I don't give a shit about Ghostie....I'm pretty sure he just doesn't want it.....But Sponges, he was pure until like maybe 8 years ago (Don't remember the exact timeline, just know it was around when my son was born).....How did it take that long.

And Doomer.....I'm not too sure about Doomer...I don't want to make any assumptions, but I mean being in a band pretty much means you've been around at least one drunk chick who threw the pussy at you.

I'm no Adonis, hell...I'm not even sociable....But I have just ran into a cheap thrill on accident.  Why does god hate you.

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Well for me, all I do is work and come home and don't go anywhere, so for people like that I can completely understand them still being a virgin.

I luckly found someone from the boards that I was able to fuck and live with for many years before she left me, otherwise I'd still be a virgin too.

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that life is totally not for me, but i guess i can understand it. i have a couple friends who are 30+ virgins. at some point, they just kinda give up on trying (and yes, sometimes they even actively avoid it out of whatever irrational fear), and focus on themselves. honestly, it would probably be a lot simpler life if i never found my way into anyone's panties. a lot less fun, but simpler. both these dudes seem pretty happy with their lives, have decent-paying jobs and all the toys a grown person should be allowed, and have lived on their own for several years. maybe they actually cry themselves to sleep every night, who knows. 

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Abuse when they were children, extreme hang ups, way too picky (unrealistic standards) extremely poor self image and self esteem (very apparent in one particular virgin here) learning and socially crippled (you know who) and plain ole no one wants to fuck them..probably because irl their personality is so off putting.

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Just now, Lady_Hitaki2222 said:

Abuse when they were children, extreme hang ups, way too picky (unrealistic standards) extremely poor self image and self esteem (very apparent in one particular virgin here) learning and socially crippled (you know who) and plain ole no one wants to fuck them..probably because irl their personality is so off putting.

Go back to stalking on your @Lady_Hitaki22 alt

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2 minutes ago, 𝙍𝙤𝙜𝙪𝙚𝘼𝙡𝙥𝙝𝙤𝙣𝙨𝙚 said:

Go back to stalking on your @Lady_Hitaki22 alt

Who is that happyhippie person threatening you? U aren't gonna pretend thats me r u

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1 hour ago, Perfect Cell said:

I'm not here to ridicule you, I'm legit confused.  Like in my adult life I've fallen ass backwards into sex several time...Not looking for it, not even thinking about it but before the night ended I just wound up in a vagina.

Yeah, looking back I had literally hundreds of vaginas thrown at me.

I mean I feel like you have to actively refuse sex to not have had it....It's not that difficult a thing to find.  Sometimes it finds you.  

And 64% of the time you're too goddamn scared. 21% of the time you don't realize it until the opportunity passes , and 15% of the time you try but fuck it up horribly and get mad at yourself for trying.

Now I do understand you few who just don't want it....It's a choice and I respect that.  But haven't you at least been offered it, even if you don't want it?

See above.

Like I don't give a shit about Ghostie....I'm pretty sure he just doesn't want it.....

I don't know. If he does want it he isn't trying, and honestly he may just be better off that way? I don't know, part of me just wants him to put in the effort and get it done so he can see how much of a not big of a deal it is, but part of me thinks he's better off just imaging it.

But Sponges, he was pure until like maybe 8 years ago (Don't remember the exact timeline, just know it was around when my son was born).....How did it take that long.

Six years ago, and I was only 23. See above. With the added complication of massive brain damage when I was 16 that fucked me over socially for a really long time. Like, seriously unable to understand social etiquette. Like, tongue-fucking my high school "girlfriend" in the ear during class and punching myself and screaming that I was a bitch when called on it. Goddamn, flashbacks. Anyway, that's why I didn't get laid in high school and was afraid of trying in college. 

And Doomer.....I'm not too sure about Doomer...I don't want to make any assumptions, but I mean being in a band pretty much means you've been around at least one drunk chick who threw the pussy at you.

I'm no Adonis, hell...I'm not even sociable....But I have just ran into a cheap thrill on accident.  Why does god hate you.

"Life is life." We're all just flowing through our 4-dimensional paths, brother.

 

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I don't know how they are such either. I had sex first time at 18, and that was while still being semi-closeted gay in Alabama. Before that, I had girlfriends in high school which wanted me to have sex with them, but I never did because you know not into that...

A lot of those Christian puritan girls are some of the horniest people on the planet btw.

What I surmise is that it is a mental block of some kind that prevents it, either fear of what could possibly happen or not living up to expectations or a conscious choice (though this is much rare in the current day).

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6 hours ago, CAC said:

Well for me, all I do is work and come home and don't go anywhere, so for people like that I can completely understand them still being a virgin.

I luckly found someone from the boards that I was able to fuck and live with for many years before she left me, otherwise I'd still be a virgin too.

Actually this is me. I literally work and go home.

Also I'm fat, like really fat and that thing about beauty on the inside doesn't mean as much as you want it to.

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3 minutes ago, DBZ4ever said:

Actually this is me. I literally work and go home.

Also I'm fat, like really fat and that thing about beauty on the inside doesn't mean as much as you want it to.

fat, indeedz 

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Personally... I don't really care about sex. It's not something I need or feel like I am missing. Call me asexual if you must, but eh... It's not a big deal imo. I'm sure the sexual assault and harassment I suffered in the past has something to do with it, but honestly my life is just fine without sex. I don't feel like I'm missing anything or there is a lack of anything in my life.

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9 minutes ago, PenguinBoss said:

I was a homebody as a teenager and have only become more of a shut-in as timed has moved on.

Also, I feel like there is inherently something wrong with any woman that would want to sleep with me.

"I DON'T WANT TO BELONG TO ANY CLUB THAT WILL ACCEPT PEOPLE LIKE ME AS A MEMBER." - Groucho Marx

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social  rejection in high school      and  keeping to my self all the time of that social rejection                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                

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I dunno, man. I'm the same way as you, where I would often just luck into sex back in the day. And I've only been in one relationship that you could actually call a relationship. But after high school, I had a dry spell that lasted about nine years. So I can see both sides of it.

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1 minute ago, Skiles said:

I dunno, man. I'm the same way as you, where I would often just luck into sex back in the day. And I've only been in one relationship that you could actually call a relationship. But after high school, I had a dry spell that lasted about nine years. So I can see both sides of it.

Nine years isn't a dry spell. That's not even a slump.

That's just good old fashioned bad luck, bro.

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11 minutes ago, DoubleDoink said:

But you're cute. How has no one put the effort out into making you pop??

I mean tbh I threw my ass around in college and slept with some people then but my sex life plays out like a slapstick comedy show.

I'm at the point where I'm not embarrassed about it cause I'm more interested in what the next exciting episode will bring. 

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6 minutes ago, GunStarHero said:

I mean tbh I threw my ass around in college and slept with some people then but my sex life plays out like a slapstick comedy show.

I'm at the point where I'm not embarrassed about it cause I'm more interested in what the next exciting episode will bring. 

i'll give you an exciting episode. :RoboWink:

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