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The whole #metoo thing makes me think about it

theres just been lots of times things have happened. Like anytime there’s a group of drunk girls and somebody tells them that I have a big dick. Then it’s open season to sexually misconduct me.

Back when I was in some relationships w/girls their friends and them would touch or pinch me all over. If I said it hurt they’d laugh and say I could take it.

one time that same girl apparently signed me up for a 3some where her and her friend were going to dress up as cops for Halloween and use strap ons on me. I wasn’t told about it until all 3 of us were alone in the bedroom together. Nobody asked me and both of them just started touching & kissing me. Honestly all I wanted to do was hang out and they were super pissy when I didn’t want to do the 3some.

on a porn set a female director was handling my cock to show my costar how to set up the blowjob shot, and out of nowhere the director put my dick in her mouth. I didn’t react but my costar actually gasped which prompted the director to stop, stand up, and exclaim “director’s privilege!” Then we continued filming.

theres more I could go on about. 

But I don’t know who to tell my story to. I feel like everyone would get angry w/me if I brought it up. I’ll just tell u guys I guess. 

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29 minutes ago, Poof said:

The whole #metoo thing makes me think about it

theres just been lots of times things have happened. Like anytime there’s a group of drunk girls and somebody tells them that I have a big dick. Then it’s open season to sexually misconduct me.

Back when I was in some relationships w/girls their friends and them would touch or pinch me all over. If I said it hurt they’d laugh and say I could take it.

one time that same girl apparently signed me up for a 3some where her and her friend were going to dress up as cops for Halloween and use strap ons on me. I wasn’t told about it until all 3 of us were alone in the bedroom together. Nobody asked me and both of them just started touching & kissing me. Honestly all I wanted to do was hang out and they were super pissy when I didn’t want to do the 3some.

on a porn set a female director was handling my cock to show my costar how to set up the blowjob shot, and out of nowhere the director put my dick in her mouth. I didn’t react but my costar actually gasped which prompted the director to stop, stand up, and exclaim “director’s privilege!” Then we continued filming.

theres more I could go on about. 

But I don’t know who to tell my story to. I feel like everyone would get angry w/me if I brought it up. I’ll just tell u guys I guess. 

I'd tell you to be open about yout story and to name names

but that didn't work out well for Anthony Rapp since he's most likely been blacklisted by hollywood for exposing Kevin  Spacey >:s, seems this whole metoo movement only applies if you're a cis girl who was molested/wronged by a man

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1 hour ago, mochi said:

I'd tell you to be open about yout story and to name names

but that didn't work out well for Anthony Rapp since he's most likely been blacklisted by hollywood for exposing Kevin  Spacey >:s, seems this whole metoo movement only applies if you're a cis girl who was molested/wronged by a man

I don’t believe in all this naming of names in the first place.  I just want the world to know that women can be creeps and rapey too

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1 hour ago, mochi said:

I'd tell you to be open about yout story and to name names

but that didn't work out well for Anthony Rapp since he's most likely been blacklisted by hollywood for exposing Kevin  Spacey >:s, seems this whole metoo movement only applies if you're a cis girl who was molested/wronged by a man

Thinly-veiled misogyny, gotta love how you always try to interject your views into other people's dilemmas.

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3 minutes ago, KreiaDidNothingWrong said:

Do we even know if Anthony Rapp is blacklisted?

I just google searched it and it doesn't seem like it. It's just mochi's interpretation.

I don't want this to stray away from poof's topic, but sometimes I just have trouble ignoring mochi's crap.

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1 hour ago, stilgar said:

Well, that is just fucking awful. I really wish people could learn to keep their hands to themselves. 

That’s the thing. I don’t think it’s a big deal, but by the rules of #metoo, it’s like as bad as rape.

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16 minutes ago, KreiaDidNothingWrong said:

"what do you mean you don't want to be our experiment?" -the threesome girls

That's my guess anyway

More like sitting in silence while we watched some Halloween movie. It ruined the whole night

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You know, you could start your own movement instead of trying to damage one because it doesn't cater to you.  I'd join.....I was raped by 3 women when I was drunk and coked up......They took pic of me passed out with my dick in their mouths, did things to my fanny, and then showed these pics to the entire neighborhood.  I never felt a need to shoehorn that into the #metoo movement.

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4 hours ago, Poof said:

I don’t believe in all this naming of names in the first place.  I just want the world to know that women can be creeps and rapey too

But the way you let the world know is by naming names...

Sure, We can all agree in the abstract sense that women are capable of it, but nobody is going to change their perspective from "oh, it could happen" to "yeah, it does happen" without actual examples, without people coming forward with their stories. Otherwise scummy people just continue their scummy behavior.

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8 hours ago, Poof said:

The whole #metoo thing makes me think about it

theres just been lots of times things have happened. Like anytime there’s a group of drunk girls and somebody tells them that I have a big dick. Then it’s open season to sexually misconduct me.

Back when I was in some relationships w/girls their friends and them would touch or pinch me all over. If I said it hurt they’d laugh and say I could take it.

one time that same girl apparently signed me up for a 3some where her and her friend were going to dress up as cops for Halloween and use strap ons on me. I wasn’t told about it until all 3 of us were alone in the bedroom together. Nobody asked me and both of them just started touching & kissing me. Honestly all I wanted to do was hang out and they were super pissy when I didn’t want to do the 3some.

on a porn set a female director was handling my cock to show my costar how to set up the blowjob shot, and out of nowhere the director put my dick in her mouth. I didn’t react but my costar actually gasped which prompted the director to stop, stand up, and exclaim “director’s privilege!” Then we continued filming.

theres more I could go on about. 

But I don’t know who to tell my story to. I feel like everyone would get angry w/me if I brought it up. I’ll just tell u guys I guess. 

I wish it was easier for you to put this out there without any blowback, but our country sucks so much at letting people speak up safely about these issues. Do you have some place where you can vent anonymously just to see what the response to it would be like? If it's just here, we'll always have open ears.

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3 hours ago, Gogo Yubari said:

You know, you could start your own movement instead of trying to damage one because it doesn't cater to you.  I'd join.....I was raped by 3 women when I was drunk and coked up......They took pic of me passed out with my dick in their mouths, did things to my fanny, and then showed these pics to the entire neighborhood.  I never felt a need to shoehorn that into the #metoo movement.

You don’t get the point

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26 minutes ago, SorceressPol said:

I wish it was easier for you to put this out there without any blowback, but our country sucks so much at letting people speak up safely about these issues. Do you have some place where you can vent anonymously just to see what the response to it would be like? If it's just here, we'll always have open ears.

I usually rant and rave to u guys. I have some anonymous social media accounts. But im not going to do anything anyway

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Just now, Gogo Yubari said:

And that point is?  I said I agree with you....I too have been violated by women......Wanna tell me how in your case it's any different?

I just want women to be aware that they do it too ALOT so that they stop acting like it’s only men.

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Often times when I hear something akin to this, I feel disgusted. Sure, women get victimized, but women do the damage, too. Like all these stories you hear where a woman wanted something from a man, he refused, and she cries "rape!" Or going out of their way to inhibit someone to have their way with said person. Seems like a lot of women are used to getting what they want without ever having to face any sort of negative consequence. Like it's all a game to them. 

 

Lately, I have been coming to terms with the fact that I was raped when I a kid. But honestly, it boils down to power to me. Any sort of leverage to make things happen leads to this sort of shit, regardless of the perpetrator's gender. And, for whatever reason, people like to throw victims under the bus if it doesn't fit their narrative of the world, more often than not referring to men as magically being the only ones capable of sexual abuse, rape, and misconduct. 

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i brought this up in a conversation the other day with a female friend. just pointed out the number of articles i'd seen recently about middle aged female school teachers being arrested for sexual misconduct with male students and mentioned that maybe the issue we should be looking at is one of human nature and power dynamics, not necessarily specifically men and power dynamics. 

i thought she was going to lose her fucking mind...

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Mass gender generalizations aren't good, but in this case, I think you're misinterpreting the movement.

Women didn't do this to you. Sally did, or whatever her name is, and there is no cultural evidence to support that women are wholly aggressive, nor are they often placed above men in the workplace. It's more pointed towards the cultural identity of the aggressive male than just the humans with a penis.

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Man, so sorry you had to go through that, Poof, that is fucking disgusting.

I get the whole "maybe it isn't metoo", but tbh, I would call it a #metoo thing; you were molested and assaulted without consent and that is just wrong.

Idc male or female, it is wrong, and you shouldn't have to go through something like that, and I'm sure there are similar instances within the community that this has happened.

Your voice is heard here, I hear it loud, and I'm with you.

I wish we could do more, but this is a step and it took the guts to share it. 

And yeah, females are just as guilty as males, I feel like there hasn't been as much exposure as far as "high profile" cases go...the most I heard was Melanie Martinez and Lena Dunham, so that may be why there's more of a stigmatism there, plus society in general.

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13 hours ago, Poof said:

The whole #metoo thing makes me think about it

theres just been lots of times things have happened. Like anytime there’s a group of drunk girls and somebody tells them that I have a big dick. Then it’s open season to sexually misconduct me.

Back when I was in some relationships w/girls their friends and them would touch or pinch me all over. If I said it hurt they’d laugh and say I could take it.

one time that same girl apparently signed me up for a 3some where her and her friend were going to dress up as cops for Halloween and use strap ons on me. I wasn’t told about it until all 3 of us were alone in the bedroom together. Nobody asked me and both of them just started touching & kissing me. Honestly all I wanted to do was hang out and they were super pissy when I didn’t want to do the 3some.

on a porn set a female director was handling my cock to show my costar how to set up the blowjob shot, and out of nowhere the director put my dick in her mouth. I didn’t react but my costar actually gasped which prompted the director to stop, stand up, and exclaim “director’s privilege!” Then we continued filming.

theres more I could go on about. 

But I don’t know who to tell my story to. I feel like everyone would get angry w/me if I brought it up. I’ll just tell u guys I guess. 

I think someone's been browsing my porno history a lol too much lol

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2 hours ago, nameraka said:

i brought this up in a conversation the other day with a female friend. just pointed out the number of articles i'd seen recently about middle aged female school teachers being arrested for sexual misconduct with male students and mentioned that maybe the issue we should be looking at is one of human nature and power dynamics, not necessarily specifically men and power dynamics. 

i thought she was going to lose her fucking mind...

You come across as saying that men aren't the problem when all this shit is what happens when you live in a patriarchal society that doesn't want to change. It can't be brushed aside and acknowledging that helps if you're a man(I'm assuming because your friend freaked out) bringing up female sexual predators. There are a lot of misunderstandings that can happen because when consent and sexual assault are brought up, mens' rights trolls come out of the woodwork and bork any real conversations trying to be had about this.

51 minutes ago, diphenyl oxalate said:

Mass gender generalizations aren't good, but in this case, I think you're misinterpreting the movement.

Women didn't do this to you. Sally did, or whatever her name is, and there is no cultural evidence to support that women are wholly aggressive, nor are they often placed above men in the workplace. It's more pointed towards the cultural identity of the aggressive male than just the humans with a penis.

I have no idea who you're replying to. Anyways, I don't really know much about the human aggression stuff, but I do know that there are women who treat people different from them like zoo animals and believe they're entitled to do anything to them physically without worrying about retaliation. I see this when white women are fascinated by black hair or our body types, in gay clubs where straight women go there to act like idiots, and at nerd conventions where my girl friends had to act as bodyguards for a male friend because multiple women slipped their nasty fingers into the back of his leotard.

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I can see how hard it would be to come clean about assault. You want to open up about someone and make people more aware of your situation. At the same time, the unwanted attention and scrutiny might possibly make things harder for you.

When I was taken advantage of by my ex, I was mulling over whether I should report him to the school therapist/campus police or stick my neck out and place myself in further scrutiny. The consequences of ruining him over it would pale in comparison to whether people took me seriously or if they'd act like it couldn't have been assault. It would have possibly also outed me as bi or at least bicurious to my relatively religiously conservative family. 

2014 truly was hell on earth. It kills me that I didn't tell many people about it, but circumstances are strange. Apologies if I ended it up making it about myself by the middle, but I figured my input might be able to conceptualize the pros and cons of keeping it bottled up. 

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13 hours ago, Poof said:

The whole #metoo thing makes me think about it

theres just been lots of times things have happened. Like anytime there’s a group of drunk girls and somebody tells them that I have a big dick. Then it’s open season to sexually misconduct me.

Back when I was in some relationships w/girls their friends and them would touch or pinch me all over. If I said it hurt they’d laugh and say I could take it.

one time that same girl apparently signed me up for a 3some where her and her friend were going to dress up as cops for Halloween and use strap ons on me. I wasn’t told about it until all 3 of us were alone in the bedroom together. Nobody asked me and both of them just started touching & kissing me. Honestly all I wanted to do was hang out and they were super pissy when I didn’t want to do the 3some.

on a porn set a female director was handling my cock to show my costar how to set up the blowjob shot, and out of nowhere the director put my dick in her mouth. I didn’t react but my costar actually gasped which prompted the director to stop, stand up, and exclaim “director’s privilege!” Then we continued filming.

theres more I could go on about. 

But I don’t know who to tell my story to. I feel like everyone would get angry w/me if I brought it up. I’ll just tell u guys I guess. 

wow  that is  wrong

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47 minutes ago, TrigunBebop said:

This thread is about sexual assault. Making jokes about how the scenarios are similar to plots of pornos you've seen is uncalled for.

How can you prove any of that actually happened in REALITY. Just saying. Women make shit up. That's often the truth. Why trust the internet? I don't.

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1 hour ago, Spindack said:

How can you prove any of that actually happened in REALITY. Just saying. Women make shit up. That's often the truth. Why trust the internet? I don't.

When it comes to reports of sexual violence, only 2 to 6 percent of reports are either found or suspected to be false at the most. The rest of them tend to check out.

The fact of the matter is the vast majority of people who report being sexually assaulted or raped are telling the truth.

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Spindack, certain boundaries do not need to be pushed and you should have the social wherewithal to determine where and when that is the case as it is here.

I have removed your more unfortunate comments. Please choose your words carefully, or better yet - maybe take a pass on this thread.

As a general note to everyone, I will probably remove any subsequent comments to this specific chain, so don't bother replying to me and stick to the original topic at hand.

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57 minutes ago, Spindack said:

 

   Spindack, listen up. This isn't about you being "the villain" it is about people feeling courageous enough to share with peers experiences which resulted in severe emotional and (hopefully not permanent) physical traumas. The last thing that anyone in that kind of position needs is some pile of human garbage trying to score "edgelord" points off of them by making asinine remarks which diminish the very real nature of what they endured.

 

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On 1/14/2018 at 3:41 PM, SorceressPol said:

You come across as saying that men aren't the problem when all this shit is what happens when you live in a patriarchal society that doesn't want to change. It can't be brushed aside and acknowledging that helps if you're a man(I'm assuming because your friend freaked out) bringing up female sexual predators. There are a lot of misunderstandings that can happen because when consent and sexual assault are brought up, mens' rights trolls come out of the woodwork and bork any real conversations trying to be had about this.

I have no idea who you're replying to. Anyways, I don't really know much about the human aggression stuff, but I do know that there are women who treat people different from them like zoo animals and believe they're entitled to do anything to them physically without worrying about retaliation. I see this when white women are fascinated by black hair or our body types, in gay clubs where straight women go there to act like idiots, and at nerd conventions where my girl friends had to act as bodyguards for a male friend because multiple women slipped their nasty fingers into the back of his leotard.

I was replying to the OP.

You knowing women who do certain things is not an accurate representation of an entire gender, nor does it have any substantial cultural context. Macho male aggressiveness is a certified phenomenon, though Me Too is more a movement pinpointing sexual assault in general. When people say "Men" they do not mean every individual man on earth -- they mean this concept of Man that exists that dictates that a man should 'be a man' and do what that entails, which often involves aggression; and is also an image of male dominance in the workplace and influence through power.

When they address individual men (who haven't abused), it isn't to damn them. It's to get them to recognize that this exists and to help combat it.

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On 1/14/2018 at 7:51 AM, Sho Minamimoto said:

You know, you could start your own movement instead of trying to damage one because it doesn't cater to you.  I'd join.....I was raped by 3 women when I was drunk and coked up......They took pic of me passed out with my dick in their mouths, did things to my fanny, and then showed these pics to the entire neighborhood.  I never felt a need to shoehorn that into the #metoo movement.

Yeah, I thought I gave the abridged version here ....

@Poof

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