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Well, in fact, it's the same problem the situation is that family of coworkers/loved ones of coworkers that are like family to them 
are like to defend each other honor and take their sides against other coworkers without looking objectively on the situation just take the side of family just because they are family 

And yet my family does not get involved and makes me feel that I'm under attack and they(my family) does not defend me or love me because they don't take my side what do I do about this 

Remember when I was posting stuff a few months ago about being harassed at work well the co-worker that was doing  the harassing was trying to get his brother in at my job by getting me fired or to quit my job and another co-worker an older female that was kind of like a surrogate mother to him was taking his side but my family didn't do shit they told me to fight my own battles if I'm outnumbered how can I win without reinforcements 

And now I accidentally started something with a different family of coworkers by accidentally saying group speculation about the patriarch of the family not coming back from a medical leave at the same position due to his medical situation and that pissed them off what do I do to get my family on my side this so I can keep my job although my family doesn't work at the same place as I do mean if they can do what should they do and how did they do it this stuff in my family is seen as deceitful and backhanded an immoral but ever since I was a child I saw families do tactics like this to achieve goals of a member of their family just because out of loyalty I am second tired of shit like this I saw this on all levels of the social Spectrum I mean this is not a high-class or low-class thing this is a thing that I see all families do but mine I'm not saying my family has never sticked up for me they have but the times I am thinking of I was being physically bullied/beaten up on the bus ride home but it was the climax of months if not years of being bullied on the bus ride home
So they have taken my sight before but it takes a lot to take my side and other families this do it automatically no matter what

what can i do to get my Family involved in this ? or is even a good  idea to do that?

 

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9 minutes ago, ghostrek said:

although my family doesn't work at the same place as I do

Wtf do you want your family to do, come to your workplace and beat up your coworkers? You're like 35. Handle your shit. If your job sucks because your coworkers hate you and they aren't going away then find a better job or get used to working with them. Idk what else to say Ghostrek

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Just now, NaBrunswick said:

Wtf do you want your family to do, come to your workplace and beat up your coworkers? You're like 35. Handle your shit. If your job sucks because your coworkers hate you and they aren't going away then find a better job or get used to working with them. Idk what else to say Ghostrek

no not beat them but help them doing something 

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6 minutes ago, NaBrunswick said:

Wtf do you want your family to do, come to your workplace and beat up your coworkers? You're like 35. Handle your shit. If your job sucks because your coworkers hate you and they aren't going away then find a better job or get used to working with them. Idk what else to say Ghostrek

thank you 

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29 minutes ago, ghostrek said:

no not beat them but help them doing something 

At best you can confide in them about what's going on at work and maybe they can comfort you and offer advice, and that's if you're really lucky and have a demonstrably loving, reciprocating family that you're close to like that. They can't come to your workplace and solve your work problems, and you shouldn't expect them to. Figure it out. There's always companies hiring in your field, try working for one if your workplace is too stressful. You have to help yourself ghostrek

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Just now, NaBrunswick said:

At best you can confide in them about what's going on at work and maybe they can comfort you and offer advice, and that's if you're really lucky and have a demonstrably loving, reciprocating family that you're close to like that. They can't come to your workplace and solve your work problems, and you shouldn't expect them to. Figure it out. There's always companies hiring in your field, try working for one if your workplace is too stressful. You have to help yourself ghostrek

ok  can you tell me why other people love ones was geting  involved in on said situations if my loves can't do stuff next to me confiding to them  why other people love ones takes sides that not fair  who said life is fair  becuse it is not  i know that but come on

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21 minutes ago, ghostrek said:

ok  can you tell me why other people love ones was geting  involved in on said situations if my loves can't do stuff next to me confiding to them  why other people love ones takes sides that not fair  who said life is fair  becuse it is not  i know that but come on

No, go get another job ghostrek. There's plenty more dirty shitters out there, and plenty more jobs beyond cleaning shitters, for you to let these people make you this miserable for this long now

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1 minute ago, NaBrunswick said:

No, go get another job ghostrek. There's plenty more dirty shitters out there, and plenty more jobs beyond cleaning shitters, for you to let these people make you this miserable for this long now

ok i will

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5 hours ago, ghostrek said:

Well, in fact, it's the same problem the situation is that family of coworkers/loved ones of coworkers that are like family to them 
are like to defend each other honor and take their sides against other coworkers without looking objectively on the situation just take the side of family just because they are family 

And yet my family does not get involved and makes me feel that I'm under attack and they(my family) does not defend me or love me because they don't take my side what do I do about this 

Remember when I was posting stuff a few months ago about being harassed at work well the co-worker that was doing  the harassing was trying to get his brother in at my job by getting me fired or to quit my job and another co-worker an older female that was kind of like a surrogate mother to him was taking his side but my family didn't do shit they told me to fight my own battles if I'm outnumbered how can I win without reinforcements 

And now I accidentally started something with a different family of coworkers by accidentally saying group speculation about the patriarch of the family not coming back from a medical leave at the same position due to his medical situation and that pissed them off what do I do to get my family on my side this so I can keep my job although my family doesn't work at the same place as I do mean if they can do what should they do and how did they do it this stuff in my family is seen as deceitful and backhanded an immoral but ever since I was a child I saw families do tactics like this to achieve goals of a member of their family just because out of loyalty I am second tired of shit like this I saw this on all levels of the social Spectrum I mean this is not a high-class or low-class thing this is a thing that I see all families do but mine I'm not saying my family has never sticked up for me they have but the times I am thinking of I was being physically bullied/beaten up on the bus ride home but it was the climax of months if not years of being bullied on the bus ride home
So they have taken my sight before but it takes a lot to take my side and other families this do it automatically no matter what

what can i do to get my Family involved in this ? or is even a good  idea to do that?

 

Are you like the work gossip or something? Because shit like that is how you'll always get drama coming your way.

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1 hour ago, DragonSinger said:

Are you like the work gossip or something? Because shit like that is how you'll always get drama coming your way.

He's a snitch and proud of it....he works at a truck stop where the seediest of elements congregate to exchange drug connects, hookers, and black market merchandise.....the fool told on a co-worker for smoking weed. I'm surprised they haven't tuned his ass up when he was dumping mop water out back yet.

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53 minutes ago, André Toulon said:

He's a snitch and proud of it....he works at a truck stop where the seediest of elements congregate to exchange drug connects, hookers, and black market merchandise.....the fool told on a co-worker for smoking weed. I'm surprised they haven't tuned his ass up when he was dumping mop water out back yet.

i never told on a coworker who somkepot

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51 minutes ago, discolemonade said:

you posted this on purpose. 

you are a grown ass man. you need your family to fight your battles at work?

come on man. 

and you knew you were going to get razzed here too. so why?

are you bored?

no   i  am not bored

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Damn bro I think you are looking into this too deeply maybe. Some people take their work life/ culture way too seriously. I mean YES. It's great to treat your coworkers, and company like a family, but some people really do take that shit way too far. Sounds like you might have that thing going on, but I'm never sure what the real deal is with your situation. Seems like you 'make a mountain out of a mole hill' a lot..If you can understand that phrase.

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4 minutes ago, PhilosipherStoned said:

Damn bro I think you are looking into this too deeply maybe. Some people take their work life/ culture way too seriously. I mean YES. It's great to treat your coworkers, and company like a family, but some people really do take that shit way too far. Sounds like you might have that thing going on, but I'm never sure what the real deal is with your situation. Seems like you 'make a mountain out of a mole hill' a lot..If you can understand that phrase.

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1 minute ago, PhilosipherStoned said:

So what really concerns you with this situation? You think your coworkers are judging you too hard again?

no  i just feel under attack all time and my family dose not take my  but i see other familes come togther crush some else just saying some thig

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24 minutes ago, ghostrek said:

i was bruised black and blue all over my body when that happen

Damn. So they fucked you up.. Tell your fucking family. You should have someone that's supposed to be watching out for you. Don't you get SLI or some sort of shit from disability. If they see you black, and blue they should ask you anyway. 

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Pssh. That's a rapid generalization scoobdog, but ya it sounds reasonable as well. So someone has a lot of 'family'  working in this shitter business as a grunt like you? If so they probably arent as sparkling as they want to believe..

@ghostrek I have a friend that's a lot like you seem that's been doing pretty much the same kind of thing.. He's came to me not really for help, but because he knows I'm a friend, and I have my own house. He's told me the same kind of shit. You could be fucked if you hit them back on specialized programs.. My friend packs a hell of a punch too..

Just tell people what happened. Don't lie, don't even try to make it seem better if it was an argument that turned into a fight. Just tell your people what's going on, and let them know you've been trying to figure out what to do the same way you did here.

Also..Don't post shit like that to this god forsaken forum goblin hole if you want to be taken seriously. I'm just saying. These people are trash. 

 

 

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I would so as others suggested. Deal with them, ignore them, or get the fuck out. It wouldn't be the first time I've done it for a better job.

9 hours ago, ghostrek said:

34 but one other guys is in his 40s

You're 34 years old? O.o Holy shit, I need a drink.

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