Naraku4656 Posted January 6, 2019 Posted January 6, 2019 movies and doing nothing are only fun for so long
Mini_ghost420 Posted January 6, 2019 Posted January 6, 2019 you don't just let them be introverted. that extrovert stuff isn't fun for us it's just stressful. fun is subjective. you can do it gradually. and make compromises. like if we hang this week we can just chill but next week we're going out 3
katt_goddess Posted January 6, 2019 Posted January 6, 2019 Work with them on their level. Sometimes it's not so much being introverted as it is not being comfortable around others. Once they are 100% comfortable around you, they are more likely to do other things with you. Also, bookstores and coffee are very good places for introverts. We rule those places. 6
Naraku4656 Posted January 6, 2019 Author Posted January 6, 2019 trying to do that. i'm not an extrovert by any stretch but i do things where there are going to be people. going out it's usually to places they like, which isn't a big huge deal or anything. but i'd like to eventually do stuff i like to do, but they don't want to because the places i go are usually more crowded
tsar4 Posted January 6, 2019 Posted January 6, 2019 26 minutes ago, Naraku4656 said: movies and doing nothing are only fun for so long https://introvertdear.com/news/extroverted-behaviors-that-annoy-introverts/ 2
Mini_ghost420 Posted January 6, 2019 Posted January 6, 2019 4 minutes ago, tsar4 said: https://introvertdear.com/news/extroverted-behaviors-that-annoy-introverts/ ^ very well said
Phillies Posted January 6, 2019 Posted January 6, 2019 you wouldn't like hanging out with me and waifu
tsar4 Posted January 6, 2019 Posted January 6, 2019 4 minutes ago, Mini_Ghost said: ^ very well said Been dealing with this stuff for a long, long time. Never was very "chatty" for chattys sake. But at a party or a bar in a deep one-on-one conversation, I was happy. A friend took me to a bar (2nd incarnation of a famous/infamous bar in Chicago "O'Rourke's" https://www.chibarproject.com/Memoriam/O'Rourke's/O'Rourke's.htm see the pic.) where I got into this deep discussion with a gentleman about philosophy, religion & politics. Everything was polite & good-natured and it was probably the 2nd or 3rd best time I ever had in a bar. A few weeks later, the bar closed and I was really disappointed. 1
Vamped Posted January 6, 2019 Posted January 6, 2019 I dunno. Ill usually go just about anywhere if Im around people I like. I mean I wont get up and sing karaoke but ill be on the side talking shit and cheering you on 1
Still Me Posted January 6, 2019 Posted January 6, 2019 1 hour ago, Naraku4656 said: movies and doing nothing are only fun for so long I do what I want....they can come with me or not....I don’t care....I’m still gonna go regardless
TrigunBebop Posted January 6, 2019 Posted January 6, 2019 You don't. If someone is really introverted then they would much rather not do much extrovert stuff. 2 1
Cidz Posted January 6, 2019 Posted January 6, 2019 go out to places when its not very busy. like if you both are able to go out in the middle of the week on a weekday. maybe in the mornings where there arent many ppl. personally i enjoyed shopping most during those times, early morning weekdays theres hardly anyone around, i didnt have to feel like i was getting in anyones way. things were on the shelves and not the floor. or late at night maybe an hour before a store closes. since working with the public ive gotten a lot better dealing with crowds. but i still have anxiety sometimes, and sometimes its hard for me personally to be around alotta ppl. theres alotta fun things you can do too besides shopping the whole weekday thing includes just about anywhere. the zoo, museums, um... plays? 1
Mini_ghost420 Posted January 6, 2019 Posted January 6, 2019 8 minutes ago, stilgar said: Tell them you will buy them food. that wouldn't really work. people tried that with me and I just informed them that I had food in the fridge
NaBarney Posted January 6, 2019 Posted January 6, 2019 (edited) 4 hours ago, Naraku4656 said: trying to do that. i'm not an extrovert by any stretch but i do things where there are going to be people. going out it's usually to places they like, which isn't a big huge deal or anything. but i'd like to eventually do stuff i like to do, but they don't want to because the places i go are usually more crowded It sucks but there's nothing you can do, they're just going to be Like That and you'll grow to resent them for all the times they made you take them home when you were just starting to relax and hang out w your friends somewhere for only like 30 minutes and it'll make you crazy Edited January 6, 2019 by Da_big_Nabowski
Naraku4656 Posted January 6, 2019 Author Posted January 6, 2019 2 minutes ago, cyberbully said: Alcohol. thought of that. they don't like to drink
cyberbully Posted January 6, 2019 Posted January 6, 2019 1 minute ago, Naraku4656 said: thought of that. they don't like to drink Pee in their butt brush their teeth some other wildly odd IB response. 1
SwimModSponges Posted January 6, 2019 Posted January 6, 2019 Coke is probably a good idea, nose candy would do wonders for their social life.
Naraku4656 Posted January 6, 2019 Author Posted January 6, 2019 10 hours ago, cyberbully said: Pee in their butt brush their teeth some other wildly odd IB response. weirdo
Mini_ghost420 Posted January 6, 2019 Posted January 6, 2019 any answer besides "let them be" is wrong tho, to be honest
Naraku4656 Posted January 6, 2019 Author Posted January 6, 2019 15 hours ago, Still Me said: I do what I want....they can come with me or not....I don’t care....I’m still gonna go regardless that's what i've sort of been doing. i went out with friends anyway by myself
Doom Metal Alchemist Posted January 7, 2019 Posted January 7, 2019 On 1/5/2019 at 5:40 PM, tsar4 said: https://introvertdear.com/news/extroverted-behaviors-that-annoy-introverts/ Quote 3. Unexpected phone calls One of my former bandmates kept video chatting me on facebook or calling me, and I had to tell him, dude, TEXT. Texting is god's gift to introverts. Quote 7. Feeling the need to fill the silence with things that don’t matter while not caring to talk about the things that do matter For introverts, it doesn’t get more annoying than a parade of empty small talk. I fucking HATE small talk. Probably because I don't even know how to do it. Quote 8. Gossip Some people are open books about their lives, so they don’t realize that many introverts are private and feel incredibly self-conscious when others lay bare their intimate details. Yeah, pretty much. I used to be a pretty open book on the anonymity of the Internet, but intensely private irl. Now I'm not so much an open book online, but I'm still comfortable telling you guys I'm a virgin. Quote 13. Not respecting your personal conversations Similar to #8. You tell someone something personal about your life that you think is just between the two of you — and then they bring it up to the group. Now everyone’s all up in your business, making you the dreaded center of attention. Ha. In one of my last jobs, a coworker privately asked me if I was a virgin. If asked, I admit it because I find that preferable to having to foolishly "prove" otherwise. Anyway, his wife worked in the same office as us, he told his wife because blah blah husband and wife don't keep secrets, blah blah, then the next day the whole office knew. Quote 19. The assumption that everyone needs to act extroverted One person’s party might be an introvert’s worst nightmare. But that doesn’t mean introverts are broken and need to be fixed. Introverts enjoy life in their own quiet way — and there’s nothing wrong with that. Fuck, I HATE parties. It's just me all alone in a crowd. I hate that. I mean, it's fine if I'm not expected to be talking to everyone, but at a party you're supposed to be talking with SOMEBODY. Like the entire time.
Vamped Posted January 7, 2019 Posted January 7, 2019 I hate small talk. I dont understand what it accomplishes .... Im soooo tired of hearing "I haven't seen you since last year" at work. FUUUUCK shut up and tell me what you want! How long can we keep talking about the weather or the government shutdown?!
Hornshire Posted January 7, 2019 Posted January 7, 2019 So, there are some things you can do that will make it easier for them: - Have a core group of three to four people that you regularly hang with that can serve as a buffer from crowds.- Plan things well in advance, so they have plenty of time to store up energy for it. - Find events with smaller venues, or areas that can be isolated from everyone else. But to get them to agree to go in the first place (keep in mind that it is likely that they really do not want to go, even if they end up agreeing to) you need to explain what's so important to you about making them uncomfortable. And that's exactly what it is, so you should understand yourself why it's worth you pushing to them to do so. And don't ever suggest that it would be "good" or "healthy" for them.
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