How good are you at knowing someone is into you

[André Toulon]

I suck at it. I was in a group and we were discussing missed opportunities and I stg, I think I probably have way more than my fair share.

It wasn't until I was older that I realized women give hints that they want you to "try" them. I think it's kinda childish but that just because I'm dumb and don't pick up on social cues...well, sexual one....I know when a mfer hates me weeks in advance

At any rate, looking back I have a few I missed and wish I had acted on and some that I'm like "oh shit, she was trying to give me some....thank God I'm an idiot"

[GuyBeardmane]

Had a friend in college named Allison.  I'd always say "show me your boobs" and she would.  Thought it was fun and good.  We played romantic partners in a play together.  Showed me a four leaf clover tattoo right above her vagina and said "It's because anyone who sees this tattoo is about to get lucky."  On my 21st birthday, she said "I'd have sex with anyone if they got me drunk."  It was a decade later that I put the pieces together.

[André Toulon]

55 minutes ago, GuyBeardmane said:

Had a friend in college named Allison.  I'd always say "show me your boobs" and she would.  Thought it was fun and good.  We played romantic partners in a play together.  Showed me a four leaf clover tattoo right above her vagina and said "It's because anyone who sees this tattoo is about to get lucky."  On my 21st birthday, she said "I'd have sex with anyone if they got me drunk."  It was a decade later that I put the pieces together.

I laugh because this would totally be me

[Raptorpat]

hindsight-when-it-no-longer-matters is 20-20

[The_annoying_one]

I can’t remember the last time I thought someone might actually be into me. But yeah, social cues are definitely one of my weaknesses.

I just tend to assume nobody is interested in me. It’s kind of easier that way, if I’m brutally honest.

[scoobdog]

I’m not good at it, and Jacks story makes me jealous I’ve never had anyone hit on me like that either.

[katt_goddess]

I absolutely lack the programming for any of this. 

[Insipid]

This thread makes me feel sad. I don't feel like talking about my experiences now.

But in general, yes, I can tell when someone is into me.

Edited March 17, 2024 by Insipid

[Icarus27k]

My issue is more that I'm surprised when someone is into me. I don't love myself enough to take action whenever someone is. 

[UwPp]

I have no idea when someone is into me. If someone were to tell me they were into me, I'd be surprised and not believe them. I'm a hot mess. 

[[classic swim]]

Cop-out answer but I don’t think about that because I just wanna be left the fuck alone.

[André Toulon]

See, if someone actually said they were into me, I'd be suspicious and wouldn't be afraid at all to milk it because "you gotta be kidding, I'm just a jerk....what about me is appealing" 

But they would actually have to tell me because showing me boobs or a tattoo like guy said would just make me think "here we go with this comfort negro shit again...I get it, I seem so apathetic to everything that you know there's no consequences to opening up to me 

[André Toulon]

6 minutes ago, [classic swim] said:

Cop-out answer but I don’t think about that because I just wanna be left the fuck alone.

Oh, this is definitely retroactively presented...today it doesn't matter. I like solitude.

[[classic swim]]

36 minutes ago, André Toulon said:

Oh, this is definitely retroactively presented...today it doesn't matter. I like solitude.

I’ve had my time in the sun and if I click with someone I click with someone. And I know it’s just mere signals we’re talking about but that also just progresses into them not giving a fuck about boundaries.

Edited March 17, 2024 by [classic swim]

[viperxmns]

Either really bad at it or coping in some cases which is a negative outcome either way

[Gemini]

There was this girl in college who sat right in front of me in my Intro to Humanities class. She was really cute. Well, she was flipping her hair in front of me one time while we were watching a movie in class and she kept putting out signals that she wanted me to ask her out. I actually liked her back, but because I had other things going on at the time, I never got the message she was sending out until after I left college the first time. When I saw her six years later at a party for a mutual friend (read: after I had finally gotten the message), she was married and expecting her first kid. I was, needless to say, crushed.

Edited March 19, 2024 by Gemini
It is what it is. She seems to be happy so I got over it pretty quickly.

[Mode 7]

I usually pick up the signals from the ones that I'm not remotely interested in. It always seems like the ones I like aren't in interested in me and the ones I don't like are seem interested in me 

[nameraka]

I once figured out my high school crush was into me, twenty years too late. (She did pretty much everything but straight up ask me out.)

i'm the fucking worst. 

[MasqueradeOverture]

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[molarbear]

On 3/17/2024 at 6:29 AM, GuyBeardmane said:

Had a friend in college named Allison.  I'd always say "show me your boobs" and she would.  Thought it was fun and good.  We played romantic partners in a play together.  Showed me a four leaf clover tattoo right above her vagina and said "It's because anyone who sees this tattoo is about to get lucky."  On my 21st birthday, she said "I'd have sex with anyone if they got me drunk."  It was a decade later that I put the pieces together.

....What pieces?

[naraku360]

I'm probably pretty good at it. I have very limited patience for beating around the bush, especially when it comes to relationships. Being coy and expecting me to make a move is something I will likely pick up on, but it's a red flag.

[discolé monade]

i'm  not.

i have never gotten any clues. like at all. 

 in fact i don't think i've ever felt someone was attracted to me. 

seriously. 

[PhilosipherStoned]

I'd say I need pointers but nah, shit goes good when it's meant to if you ask me. Only time I've ever been flakey or weird with it I find out the next day the chicks trying to bang the whole city or somethin'...