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I’m iffy about it though. She says he’s wonderful, and I trust her opinion, but it sounds like we’re in very different places in life.

He is recently divorced with two young kiddos. I just had a lunchable during my break, so...

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Yeah .... Im sure he's wonderful and all but being a single parent and trying to date is hard. 

And I know if I didnt have a kid I probably wouldnt be potentially trying to be a step mom some day

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7 minutes ago, Vamped said:

Yeah .... Im sure he's wonderful and all but being a single parent and trying to date is hard. 

And I know if I didnt have a kid I probably wouldnt be potentially trying to be a step mom some day

Exactly. I’m definitely not ready to step into any sort of parental position. I can barely take care of myself most days...

And apparently it was pretty messy with his ex, so I don’t think I want to put myself in the middle of all that...

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Depending on what you wanna do being a sometimes parent isn't so bad. The irritation children supply can always be offset by, "I'm not even biologically compelled to like this asshat." 

I used to be firm about the no kid thing, but now I'm just whatever about it. I mixed kids in with adult jackassery but now I realize that most kids aren't calculated assholes, they're just being silly kids. When they are asses though, the simple act of saying no can feel great.

But whatever you wanna do. There are positives and negatives about both situations. Just remember if you do you're dating the guy, not his kids.

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pfft, waddya talkin' 'bout, this is a potential life hack....some other broad does the heavy lifting and gifts you with two fresh rugrats just in time for you to hit snooze on that baby clock......in the end, it's all upside, they're rentals....

 

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What are your thoughts on blind dates generally? (leaving aside this particular setup)

It just seems like such a weird concept to me I dunno how I'd even handle it.

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1 hour ago, GreatBallsOfJizz said:

But whatever you wanna do. There are positives and negatives about both situations. Just remember if you do you're dating the guy, not his kids.

Right. And this is something I keep telling myself, too.

But it’s not just the kiddos, it’s also the ex. Sounds like things aren’t good there, and I don’t think I want to willingly place myself in a potentially drama filled situation.

It’s a lot of hypotheticals, I know. And again, doesn’t reflect how he is as a person. But it would all be a packaged deal and that’s kind of a lot...

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1 hour ago, Mix said:

pfft, waddya talkin' 'bout, this is a potential life hack....some other broad does the heavy lifting and gifts you with two fresh rugrats just in time for you to hit snooze on that baby clock......in the end, it's all upside, they're rentals....

 

I thought that was what the nephew was for! I can hang out with the kid, then give him back at the end of the day. And no crazy ex-wives!

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1 hour ago, Cau said:

So which one of you is the blind one?

Or is she planning on poking out you two's eyes before the date?

I mean, I am pretty blind. Hence the glasses

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1 hour ago, Admin_Raptorpat said:

What are your thoughts on blind dates generally? (leaving aside this particular setup)

It just seems like such a weird concept to me I dunno how I'd even handle it.

Not a fan, honestly. But then again, I’m super shy and socially awkward, so dating in general has never been easy for me... 😕

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8 minutes ago, renjifan said:

I thought that was what the nephew was for! I can hang out with the kid, then give him back at the end of the day. And no crazy ex-wives!

They're still technically family....can't really risk fucking up with them....gotta give them back how you got 'em

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34 minutes ago, renjifan said:

I mean, I am pretty blind. Hence the glasses

Maybe have her introduce you to a seeing eye dog instead.

That sounds more fun than a date imo.

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1 hour ago, renjifan said:

Not a fan, honestly. But then again, I’m super shy and socially awkward, so dating in general has never been easy for me... 😕

i suppose that's why we're here instead of... networking or something

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35 minutes ago, Mix said:

They're still technically family....can't really risk fucking up with them....gotta give them back how you got 'em

That kid hit me with a pillow the other day and yelled, “Chair shot! Yah!”

If that’s what my brother is teaching him, I’m not too worried about what he’s gonna learn from me 😂

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41 minutes ago, Cau said:

Maybe have her introduce you to a seeing eye dog instead.

That sounds more fun than a date imo.

You’re right, that sounds infinitely better. I’ll ask her if she knows any! 😜

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2 minutes ago, renjifan said:

Thank you! I will! ☺️

i hope  that help  

i am not guy for giving dating advice  trust me  i never been on a date

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1 hour ago, renjifan said:

Lol! Well, thank you! ☺️

U can get on a dating app and put in yer prof u want something serious...no hooking up and yer shy. Then only talk to your top picks, dont settle. Youd have a better single young guy with no kids and a great future in no time. match.com is probably the purest site left

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3 hours ago, GreatBallsOfJizz said:

Depending on what you wanna do being a sometimes parent isn't so bad. The irritation children supply can always be offset by, "I'm not even biologically compelled to like this asshat." 

I used to be firm about the no kid thing, but now I'm just whatever about it. I mixed kids in with adult jackassery but now I realize that most kids aren't calculated assholes, they're just being silly kids. When they are asses though, the simple act of saying no can feel great.

But whatever you wanna do. There are positives and negatives about both situations. Just remember if you do you're dating the guy, not his kids.

Disagree with the last part. If you are seriously interested in dating a single parent, you're courting the kid(s) too. Their kids are always going to come before you and eventually be incorporated into your time together. I would never advise anybody to go into dating a single parent like dating a childless person.

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Eh, give it a shot. Worry about that later if you hit things off. I went on a few dates with guys that were single parents and just focused on my respective dates with them at the time. Wasn't compatible with any of those guys so in the end it didn't matter that they had kids. Just go have some fun and enjoy the moment. 

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3 minutes ago, GunStarHero said:

Eh, give it a shot. Worry about that later if you hit things off. I went on a few dates with guys that were single parents and just focused on my respective dates with them at the time. Wasn't compatible with any of those guys so in the end it didn't matter that they had kids. Just go have some fun and enjoy the moment. 

i agree with @GunStarHero  enjoy the moment

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1 hour ago, renjifan said:

That kid hit me with a pillow the other day and yelled, “Chair shot! Yah!”

If that’s what my brother is teaching him, I’m not too worried about what he’s gonna learn from me 😂

Yeah, you're right....that's pretty sloppy....he's gotta call his shot before, not after he lands it -_-

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41 minutes ago, GunStarHero said:

Eh, give it a shot. Worry about that later if you hit things off. I went on a few dates with guys that were single parents and just focused on my respective dates with them at the time. Wasn't compatible with any of those guys so in the end it didn't matter that they had kids. Just go have some fun and enjoy the moment. 

I'll give it some more thought, I suppose...

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27 minutes ago, Mix said:

Yeah, you're right....that's pretty sloppy....he's gotta call his shot before, not after he lands it -_-

Well he's only 2. He's got time to learn the proper ways of the wrassler.

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22 hours ago, renjifan said:

I’m iffy about it though. She says he’s wonderful, and I trust her opinion, but it sounds like we’re in very different places in life.

He is recently divorced with two young kiddos. I just had a lunchable during my break, so...

I, too, enjoy eating lunchables as a replacement for regular meals.

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4 hours ago, StarPanda said:

Divorced with two kiddos, that's a no

If he was divorced with 2 dogs then I would say to strongly consider 

Oh, I’d have already asked her to set the date up if there were doggos  

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3 hours ago, InsaneFox said:

I, too, enjoy eating lunchables as a replacement for regular meals.

It’s basically the same as meal prepping, right?

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2 hours ago, Distortedreasoning said:

maybe you find out that being a step mom isnt all that bad? idk just trying to come up with something different. 

I appreciate everyone’s input! Trying to weigh out the pros and cons, so definitely helps to get some feedback ☺️

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It’s basically the same as meal prepping, right?

I, honestly, am just addicted to whatever drug they put on the ham and turkey. I’ll fucking do sexual favors for more of that sweet delicious lunchmeat crack.

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1 hour ago, renjifan said:

I appreciate everyone’s input! Trying to weigh out the pros and cons, so definitely helps to get some feedback ☺️

This is still going on? 

I thought we were all kidding :|

This is going to be worse than that time Peter was roommates with Oscar Pistorius 

 

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3 minutes ago, Mix said:

This is still going on? 

I thought we were all kidding :|

This is going to be worse than that time Peter was roommates with Oscar Pistorius 

 

O.O 

Omfg they didnt 

Lmao

 

 

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