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i  dont  know  this   is sexural  herrhassment  thing but

I have a coworker in his 60s  that keeps pointing out female customers to me and body parts of said  female customers ie their breasts, nipples upset breasts, butts, and their legs and we work in the public eye   so I told my boss about it 
This does make me feel uncomfortable when he's pointing  out female customers to me it makes me worried because me being there and told this put me  in jeopardy  at work if a customer ever heard that

did  i do  the rigth thing yes or no

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4 minutes ago, ghostrek said:

look   keep  this up  i am  going to the admin

You say these things like it matters.....And you're kinda putting a big hole in that whole not being a rat thing.

But go ahead....The fact that you wish to report me for suggesting that a man who has no interest in women may be gay kinda points directly to your homophobia. There is nothing wrong with being gay....But I'm not the one struggling with my sexuality at "30" something, so I can't possibly know how hard this is for you.

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Just now, 1pooh4u said:

oops, my mistake, I can't read 😬

What I said still stands, you coulda been like, "Dude, please stop.  I don't like conversations like this"

well   people did  but  it dose not  work  with this guy

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Snitches get stitches 

Seriously tho should have just told him to his face not to do that in front of you and be done with it. Or just walk away when he tells you, different ways of avoiding it. He will see you are not Interested in girls body parts and leave you alone 

 

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If the guy is being this blatant about things, he's probably already been talked to about toning it down. If he does things like this especially because he knows it makes people uncomfortable, only someone who he thinks has seniority over him will get him to knock it off. He's old enough to know better but probably doesn't care so going to a supervisor was likely the best thing since telling him anything directly would have just made him more aggressive towards you. 

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4 minutes ago, katt_goddess said:

If the guy is being this blatant about things, he's probably already been talked to about toning it down. If he does things like this especially because he knows it makes people uncomfortable, only someone who he thinks has seniority over him will get him to knock it off. He's old enough to know better but probably doesn't care so going to a supervisor was likely the best thing since telling him anything directly would have just made him more aggressive towards you. 

more aggressive you say

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33 minutes ago, ghostrek said:

more aggressive you say

Meaning that if he's just being a jerk occasionally now whenever the mood hits him and there's a set of boobs nearby to point at, he might decide to be really rude about things all the time just to see you react. If he feels he has seniority over you either by years worked or just plain age, he might think he's allowed to be rude to you. So someone who is the boss of him is better for dealing with it than you. 

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1 minute ago, katt_goddess said:

Meaning that if he's just being a jerk occasionally now whenever the mood hits him and there's a set of boobs nearby to point at, he might decide to be really rude about things all the time just to see you react. If he feels he has seniority over you either by years worked or just plain age, he might think he's allowed to be rude to you. So someone who is the boss of him is better for dealing with it than you. 

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3 hours ago, katt_goddess said:

If the guy is being this blatant about things, he's probably already been talked to about toning it down. If he does things like this especially because he knows it makes people uncomfortable, only someone who he thinks has seniority over him will get him to knock it off. He's old enough to know better but probably doesn't care so going to a supervisor was likely the best thing since telling him anything directly would have just made him more aggressive towards you. 

OR, he'll find out Ghost ratted on him and he makes things more difficult for him.  I mean this is a truck stop in Curbstomp, Ohio.....Methinks HR is probably a large, toothless woman named Princess.  Truck stops have a reputation for a seedy element.....Can't wait until he rats on Bruce and the boys sparking a j outside and they tune him up.  Maybe he should start cleaning up at another venue.

Keep on placating the giant man child....This is going to work wonders for him.

At least he'll never procreate and multiply, and that's a good thing.

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5 hours ago, lupin_bebop said:

Why are you being a fucking snitch?

[Nah....I would, too. It's supposed to be reported.]

Report what....He's not actually harrassing any women (at least not that the OP indicated), this is a creepy old man trying to get Ghostie to look at them.....Now while I'm not condoning that behavior, how do you even go about this....Wander into the Manager's closet, poop rag and hand and say "Raymond keeps telling me to look at titties"....I mean, he's a grown man.....He can say "I'm not interested, leave me alone, eat a dick Raymond, catch these hands, I'm a flaming homosexual".....Any of these things.

If the guy isn't actually doing anything to the patrons and just making Ghostie uncomfortable, Ghostie can move along....Shouldn't he be mopping or something anyway.....Sounds like a lot of standing around if you ask me.

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4 hours ago, cyberbully said:

Report what....He's not actually harrassing any women (at least not that the OP indicated), this is a creepy old man trying to get Ghostie to look at them.....Now while I'm not condoning that behavior, how do you even go about this....Wander into the Manager's closet, poop rag and hand and say "Raymond keeps telling me to look at titties"....I mean, he's a grown man.....He can say "I'm not interested, leave me alone, eat a dick Raymond, catch these hands, I'm a flaming homosexual".....Any of these things.

If the guy isn't actually doing anything to the patrons and just making Ghostie uncomfortable, Ghostie can move along....Shouldn't he be mopping or something anyway.....Sounds like a lot of standing around if you ask me.

I don't know how the sexual harassment laws work in Ohio, but in California, I'm pretty sure Ghostie's coworker could definitely be punished for sexual harassment in this scenario...  And before that happens, Ghostie is trying to make it known he wants no part of it, to cover his ass. If I were him, I probably would have started with telling his co-worker something like, "I don't think this is appropriate talk for the workplace," if that didn't work, then remind the coworker about the reprocussions (mother fucker I can't spell) of sexual harrassment, and if THAT didn't work, then go to the boss about it. 

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1 hour ago, Doom Metal Alchemist said:

I don't know how the sexual harassment laws work in Ohio, but in California, I'm pretty sure Ghostie's coworker could definitely be punished for sexual harassment in this scenario...  And before that happens, Ghostie is trying to make it known he wants no part of it, to cover his ass. If I were him, I probably would have started with telling his co-worker something like, "I don't think this is appropriate talk for the workplace," if that didn't work, then remind the coworker about the reprocussions (mother fucker I can't spell) of sexual harrassment, and if THAT didn't work, then go to the boss about it. 

Dude is 60, working at a truck stop....I got good money that says sex offender is on his record and they don't give a shit because he works for whatever Ohio's min wage is without complaints.

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14 hours ago, cyberbully said:

Report what....He's not actually harrassing any women (at least not that the OP indicated), this is a creepy old man trying to get Ghostie to look at them.....Now while I'm not condoning that behavior, how do you even go about this....Wander into the Manager's closet, poop rag and hand and say "Raymond keeps telling me to look at titties"....I mean, he's a grown man.....He can say "I'm not interested, leave me alone, eat a dick Raymond, catch these hands, I'm a flaming homosexual".....Any of these things.

If the guy isn't actually doing anything to the patrons and just making Ghostie uncomfortable, Ghostie can move along....Shouldn't he be mopping or something anyway.....Sounds like a lot of standing around if you ask me.

Part of me does agree with this in that, yes, he’s not doing it to patrons. Still, it can lead to that. That SAME part of me also agrees with you in that Ghostdumbass can say something to make it stop. He’s got a mouth, body, brain (somewhat), hands, and feet.

However, another part of me (the owner/managerial part) disagrees and thinks he SHOULD speak up. He works with this guy a lot of days. This is the kind of shit that leads to lawsuits and other shit, especially if not reported. The fact that he is making a MALE coworker uncomfortable tells me:

1. This is more than a “Ooooweee! Look at the nice rack on her” kind of talk. That implies more lasciviousness. What other horrible things are being said

2. This has been going on for some time, which means that this employee has gotten more and more toxic. Why didn’t this stop before? Why didn’t anyone speak up?

3. If he is saying things like this about women behind their back/out of earshot, what is he saying about other groups of people when they aren’t looking? Do I really need that element/liability in my establishment? Is he worth the investment?

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