Naraku4656 Posted August 12, 2018 Share Posted August 12, 2018 (edited) we unbroke up, i have no idea what's going on in my life anymore. anyway, lets change the topic to snakes Edited August 12, 2018 by Naraku4656 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zenigundam Posted August 12, 2018 Share Posted August 12, 2018 2 minutes ago, Naraku4656 said: she would have wanted kids eventually and i don't. neither of us want to break up with the other person but we know that if she came back here she'd eventually be miserable with me. so we mutually ended things. i'm going to grab a drink, curl up, and go die now No, don't break up. Text her back. It's so hard to get a girlfriend nowadays because girls are impossible. You've gotta fix this. 🤦♂️ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JeNewBee Posted August 12, 2018 Share Posted August 12, 2018 Wow Does your family have a bunch of hereditary diseases? Wait did any of this actually happen or you taking the reality show Total Bellas and putting yourself in the place of John Cena? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CAC Posted August 12, 2018 Share Posted August 12, 2018 Well, as long as it's your decision. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mewn Posted August 12, 2018 Share Posted August 12, 2018 RIP Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NaBarney Posted August 12, 2018 Share Posted August 12, 2018 (edited) Edit - Goddamn you, "nevermind" this then Edited August 13, 2018 by Nabloom Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Still Me Posted August 12, 2018 Share Posted August 12, 2018 2 hours ago, Naraku4656 said: she would have wanted kids eventually and i don't. neither of us want to break up with the other person but we know that if she came back here she'd eventually be miserable with me. so we mutually ended things. i'm going to grab a drink, curl up, and go die now Still didn’t think she’s existed to begin with 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KreiaDidNothingWrong Posted August 12, 2018 Share Posted August 12, 2018 Tell her you’re an anti-Natalist lmao Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JeNewBee Posted August 12, 2018 Share Posted August 12, 2018 1 hour ago, Still Me said: Still didn’t think she’s existed to begin with Same Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rogue_Alphonse Posted August 12, 2018 Share Posted August 12, 2018 3 hours ago, Naraku4656 said: she would have wanted kids eventually and i don't. neither of us want to break up with the other person but we know that if she came back here she'd eventually be miserable with me. so we mutually ended things. i'm going to grab a drink, curl up, and go die now Get fixed and act like you're tryna have kids? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Doom Metal Alchemist Posted August 12, 2018 Share Posted August 12, 2018 5 minutes ago, Rogue_Alphonse said: Get fixed and act like you're tryna have kids? That's fucked up. But even if he did that, she'd probably want to adopt or get a sperm donor. Married women who want kids don't typically give up that easy. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kudasai Posted August 12, 2018 Share Posted August 12, 2018 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
discolé monade Posted August 12, 2018 Share Posted August 12, 2018 i keep reading this as 'call girl' 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bnmjy Posted August 12, 2018 Share Posted August 12, 2018 10 minutes ago, discolemonade said: i keep reading this as 'call girl' You hit the nail on the head! 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
discolé monade Posted August 12, 2018 Share Posted August 12, 2018 man. you sure are wishy washy about your women~folk. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Naraku4656 Posted August 12, 2018 Author Share Posted August 12, 2018 40 minutes ago, Rogue_Alphonse said: Get fixed and act like you're tryna have kids? idk whats going on anymore. i don't her i don't want kids, she told me she does. we broke up, then both decided neither of us really wanted to. will we break up again in the future? probably, but idk i'll ride it out for as long as i can Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NaBarney Posted August 12, 2018 Share Posted August 12, 2018 1 minute ago, Naraku4656 said: idk whats going on anymore. i don't her i don't want kids, she told me she does. we broke up, then both decided neither of us really wanted to. will we break up again in the future? probably, but idk i'll ride it out for as long as i can Isn't this the second time this has happened in like, a month Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Doom Metal Alchemist Posted August 12, 2018 Share Posted August 12, 2018 2 minutes ago, Naraku4656 said: idk whats going on anymore. i don't her i don't want kids, she told me she does. we broke up, then both decided neither of us really wanted to. will we break up again in the future? probably, but idk i'll ride it out for as long as i can Oh god, am I reading this correctly, are you back together again? 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NaBarney Posted August 12, 2018 Share Posted August 12, 2018 Breaking up because she says she wants kids someday then immediately getting back together, this is like high schoolers Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Naraku4656 Posted August 12, 2018 Author Share Posted August 12, 2018 6 minutes ago, Doom Metal Alchemist said: Oh god, am I reading this correctly, are you back together again? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Naraku4656 Posted August 12, 2018 Author Share Posted August 12, 2018 1 minute ago, Nabloom said: Breaking up because she says she wants kids someday then immediately getting back together, this is like high schoolers idk what's going on anymore Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Naraku4656 Posted August 12, 2018 Author Share Posted August 12, 2018 7 minutes ago, Nabloom said: Isn't this the second time this has happened in like, a month i lost count Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Doom Metal Alchemist Posted August 12, 2018 Share Posted August 12, 2018 Just now, Naraku4656 said: idk what's going on anymore It's pretty obvious what's going on. She loves you and will say what she needs to say to keep you.... but she is 100% banking on you will change your mind about having kids down the road. I guarantee this. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
neverkeepchangin11 Posted August 12, 2018 Share Posted August 12, 2018 Mazel Tov Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NaBarney Posted August 12, 2018 Share Posted August 12, 2018 Just now, Doom Metal Alchemist said: It's pretty obvious what's going on. She loves you and will say what she needs to say to keep you.... but she is 100% banking on you will change your mind about having kids down the road. I guarantee this. They've only been dating for like half the summer, I don't think she's banking on anything Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StarPanda Posted August 12, 2018 Share Posted August 12, 2018 You are going down a path of hurting Naraku Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Doom Metal Alchemist Posted August 12, 2018 Share Posted August 12, 2018 (edited) 4 minutes ago, Nabloom said: They've only been dating for like half the summer, I don't think she's banking on anything I don't know if you've been following the whole saga (I imagine you have), but either this girl is madly in love with him or naraku's just making all of this up. Or a third option is this girl is just as 4ever alone as he is, and since she's bagged a bf, she's desperate to hold on because she's worried she won't get many more chances. Edited August 12, 2018 by Doom Metal Alchemist Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fuggstop Posted August 12, 2018 Share Posted August 12, 2018 I shoulda seen this coming. Ive seen this before. Youre gonna wishy wash yourself until your married with kids and miserable. Good luck with that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NaBarney Posted August 12, 2018 Share Posted August 12, 2018 I mean - she tells you she wants to have kids one day in the future, you just say that's cool, tell her you don't want kids or whatever, she should say that's cool, and you move on with your day together. It doesn't have to be this dramatic revelation that sends your relationship reeling, "we can't get married bc she wants kids, why are we together if we can't get married" like holy shit, any given person you are dating at any given time is probably not going to be the person you are dating in a few years, but also they might be, probably not but there is no way to know, that doesn't mean you can't have a nice rest the summer together or w/e. You're just fucking around with someone, it's fine. Stop breaking up, you're barely even together 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Doom Metal Alchemist Posted August 12, 2018 Share Posted August 12, 2018 2 minutes ago, Nabloom said: I mean - she tells you she wants to have kids one day in the future, you just say that's cool, tell her you don't want kids or whatever, she should say that's cool, and you move on with your day together. It doesn't have to be this dramatic revelation that sends your relationship reeling, "we can't get married bc she wants kids, why are we together if we can't get married" like holy shit, any given person you are dating at any given time is probably not going to be the person you are dating in a few years, but also they might be, probably not but there is no way to know, that doesn't mean you can't have a nice rest the summer together or w/e. You're just fucking around with someone, it's fine. Stop breaking up, you're barely even together This is a very good point. TV sitcoms seem to shame male characters for keeping relationships that they "don't see a future with," but with Naraku's lack of dating experience, just going with the flow and seeing what happens even if the end goals aren't common is probably a good idea. If they don't end up married, it's fine, like nabs was alluding to, statistically they probably won't, but you just don't know. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NaBarney Posted August 12, 2018 Share Posted August 12, 2018 7 minutes ago, Doom Metal Alchemist said: I don't know if you've been following the whole saga (I imagine you have), but either this girl is madly in love with him or naraku's just making all of this up. All I remember is - she moves out of state for some reason to do with our country's right-wing immigration laws, they break up She says she hates it there and wants to move back, or does? At some point they declare the monogamy is back on. Then today they break up again bc they differ on one day wanting kids? before quickly declaring themselves monogamous together once more I'm not saying she isn't madly in love with him, but from what all our unreliable narrator has said it sounds like she just would rather have someone to talk to and consider her bf than not right now, if he's cool with riding that wave then ok but this living and dying with every perceived change of relationship status stuff is unnecessarily messy and sad 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Doom Metal Alchemist Posted August 12, 2018 Share Posted August 12, 2018 2 minutes ago, Nabloom said: All I remember is - she moves out of state for some reason to do with our country's right-wing immigration laws, they break up She says she hates it there and wants to move back, or does? At some point they declare the monogamy is back on. Then today they break up again bc they differ on one day wanting kids? before quickly declaring themselves monogamous together once more I'm not saying she isn't madly in love with him, but from what all our unreliable narrator has said it sounds like she just would rather have someone to talk to and consider her bf than not right now, if he's cool with riding that wave then ok but this living and dying with every perceived change of relationship status stuff is unnecessarily messy and sad I agree with most of that, but I think if all she is after is some friendly company, she could easily find it in Cali. Why bother going through this whole rigamorole moving across the country again if she wasn't serious with him? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KimopoBotar Posted August 12, 2018 Share Posted August 12, 2018 Relationships aren't that serious until they are. And when they are, you won't need to worry like this. So just take it as it goes, enjoy your time together, and don't be a dick. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NaBarney Posted August 12, 2018 Share Posted August 12, 2018 And if he's not interested for whatever reason, doesn't get anything good out of it anymore, wants to find someone who he can BUILD SOMETHING with, or whatever, then just end it instead of waiting around for her to decide or whatever has been happening. Idk, idk this has been a boring story arc Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NaBarney Posted August 12, 2018 Share Posted August 12, 2018 1 minute ago, Doom Metal Alchemist said: I agree with most of that, but I think if all she is after is some friendly company, she could easily find it in Cali. Why bother going through this whole rigamorole moving across the country again if she wasn't serious with him? Might just hate it there where she doesn't really know anyone and wants to come back independent of op's existence. She didn't move there because she wanted to, she was ripped away from her friends and life in Wherever and forced to move there because of some vague legal issues relating to her immigration status bullshit she had to put up with 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Doom Metal Alchemist Posted August 12, 2018 Share Posted August 12, 2018 1 minute ago, Nabloom said: Might just hate it there where she doesn't really know anyone and wants to come back independent of op's existence. She didn't move there because she wanted to, she was ripped away from her friends and life in Wherever and forced to move there because of some vague legal issues relating to her immigration status bullshit she had to put up with That makes sense too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Still Me Posted August 12, 2018 Share Posted August 12, 2018 Didnt get the reaction you wanted so you backtracked? 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CAC Posted August 12, 2018 Share Posted August 12, 2018 Well shit there has been some damn good discussion in here and the bf is no where to be found. I but I agree with almost everything that's been said. Just try to enjoy the ride and don't over complicate things like marriage and kids. That stuff doesn't need to be talked about for at least another year of actually being together or if an accident comes along. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Naraku4656 Posted August 13, 2018 Author Share Posted August 13, 2018 20 minutes ago, CAC said: Well shit there has been some damn good discussion in here and the bf is no where to be found. I but I agree with almost everything that's been said. Just try to enjoy the ride and don't over complicate things like marriage and kids. That stuff doesn't need to be talked about for at least another year of actually being together or if an accident comes along. i fell asleep for a while.i guess i'll just see what happens Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Naraku4656 Posted August 13, 2018 Author Share Posted August 13, 2018 3 hours ago, Nabloom said: Might just hate it there where she doesn't really know anyone and wants to come back independent of op's existence. She didn't move there because she wanted to, she was ripped away from her friends and life in Wherever and forced to move there because of some vague legal issues relating to her immigration status bullshit she had to put up with She's told me that if she moved back to this area it'd be 99% because of me. I just feel guilty that I wouldn't eventually be able to give her what she wants and she'd go through that for me. I tried to initiate the break up earlier because I don't want her to be with me and eventually resent me for waisting her time Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Naraku4656 Posted August 13, 2018 Author Share Posted August 13, 2018 Im honestly not sure what to do. She's gone back to California for now. If I'm going to be the one to initiate the break up I want to do it to her face and not over the phone. But seeing her reminds me of how happy she makes me and I don't want to lose that Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Doom Metal Alchemist Posted August 13, 2018 Share Posted August 13, 2018 1 hour ago, Naraku4656 said: Im honestly not sure what to do. She's gone back to California for now. If I'm going to be the one to initiate the break up I want to do it to her face and not over the phone. But seeing her reminds me of how happy she makes me and I don't want to lose that Spell out these exact concerns to her. If she says, "I don't care, I want to give it a shot" then imo that should absolve you of any guilt of "wasting her time." (doesn't mean you shouldn't feel like an asshole for other things that might happen if it goes south ). But like even nabs was saying (or alluding to) statistically you're not going to last. But that doesn't mean you shouldn't try. Because that's how it's going to be with anyone you date. There's no way to know if you're wasting each other's time right now, except for the blatantly obvious that you make each other happy. But dating is literally trial and error. In the end you're going to "waste the time" of damn near every woman you date, and likewise, damn near every woman you date will "waste" your time. *(I'm using this in what seems to be your definition of wasting her time, that being being in a relationship that doesn't last. But just because it doesn't last, doesn't mean the time is wasted). Just see where it goes. You maker her happy, she makes you happy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Naraku4656 Posted August 13, 2018 Author Share Posted August 13, 2018 7 minutes ago, Doom Metal Alchemist said: Spell out these exact concerns to her. If she says, "I don't care, I want to give it a shot" then imo that should absolve you of any guilt of "wasting her time." (doesn't mean you shouldn't feel like an asshole for other things that might happen if it goes south ). But like even nabs was saying (or alluding to) statistically you're not going to last. But that doesn't mean you shouldn't try. Because that's how it's going to be with anyone you date. There's no way to know if you're wasting each other's time right now, except for the blatantly obvious that you make each other happy. But dating is literally trial and error. In the end you're going to "waste the time" of damn near every woman you date, and likewise, damn near every woman you date will "waste" your time. *(I'm using this in what seems to be your definition of wasting her time, that being being in a relationship that doesn't last. But just because it doesn't last, doesn't mean the time is wasted). Just see where it goes. You maker her happy, she makes you happy. i did, we both talked about that today. i sat down at her table with her in her apartment and spelled out factually that it was not likely to work out between us because of that. we both gave each other several opportunities for an easy out, but neither of us wanted to take it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Doom Metal Alchemist Posted August 13, 2018 Share Posted August 13, 2018 4 minutes ago, Naraku4656 said: i did, we both talked about that today. i sat down at her table with her in her apartment and spelled out factually that it was not likely to work out between us because of that. we both gave each other several opportunities for an easy out, but neither of us wanted to take it. Well then fucking go for it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Naraku4656 Posted August 13, 2018 Author Share Posted August 13, 2018 4 minutes ago, Doom Metal Alchemist said: Well then fucking go for it. well we are, at least going to try to. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GuyBeardmane Posted August 13, 2018 Share Posted August 13, 2018 I'm sorry, I thought the topic was snakes. I'll see myself out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mewn Posted August 13, 2018 Share Posted August 13, 2018 You two should sign up for 90 day fiancee. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Naraku4656 Posted August 13, 2018 Author Share Posted August 13, 2018 4 hours ago, Mewn said: You two should sign up for 90 day fiancee. lol maybe Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TrigunBebop Posted August 13, 2018 Share Posted August 13, 2018 Hey bebbeh, wanna pet my snake? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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