Naraku4656 Posted July 4, 2018 Posted July 4, 2018 This is really concerning me. I want to have a good time here but I'm getting really worried about them.
Zenigundam Posted July 4, 2018 Posted July 4, 2018 My grandfather on my father's side died in 2008, and my grandmother on my father's side died in 2015. Didn't see their 70s, but my grandparents who are still alive are in their mid-70s.
discolé monade Posted July 4, 2018 Posted July 4, 2018 well, how do they look? tired? not taking meds? how often do you visit? 1
fuggstop Posted July 4, 2018 Posted July 4, 2018 You have a house. Ask them to come live with u and get them a nurse during times youre at work. That is, if u really give a fuck
Vamped Posted July 4, 2018 Posted July 4, 2018 My grandpa's looking really frail lately .... its hard remembering how big and strong he used to be. >.> My grandma.... that broad is too stubborn to die. Then when she goes ... its going to be excessively dramatic 2
nameraka Posted July 4, 2018 Posted July 4, 2018 all of mine are gone now. take care of the time you have left. 2
tsar4 Posted July 4, 2018 Posted July 4, 2018 Talk to them, and really listen. Ask them questions about their childhood, teen years, etc. Ask them about important events that happened during their lives, personally, nationally & globally. Ask them to write out memoirs. If you've an interest in genealogy, get them to write out family trees & rememberences so you have that information. 1
Naraku4656 Posted July 4, 2018 Author Posted July 4, 2018 2 hours ago, fuggstop said: You have a house. Ask them to come live with u and get them a nurse during times youre at work. That is, if u really give a fuck "If u give a fuck" judgy aren't we? I can't take care of them, they need assisted living and they know it. 1
Naraku4656 Posted July 4, 2018 Author Posted July 4, 2018 2 hours ago, discolemonade said: well, how do they look? tired? not taking meds? how often do you visit? I saw them last year and they looked a bit better. I want them to be around forever but I know they're tired.
Ric Posted July 4, 2018 Posted July 4, 2018 Mine are all in the ground so I presume they don't look so good either.
stilgar Posted July 4, 2018 Posted July 4, 2018 Neither do mine, but I think that has something to do with them being dead. 1
André Toulon Posted July 5, 2018 Posted July 5, 2018 1 hour ago, Naraku4656 said: "If u give a fuck" judgy aren't we? I can't take care of them, they need assisted living and they know it. Don't validate that shit, she can't even take care of herself...NB4 when she had an apartment. 1 3
NaBarney Posted July 5, 2018 Posted July 5, 2018 4 hours ago, fuggstop said: You have a house. Ask them to come live with u and get them a nurse during times youre at work. That is, if u really give a fuck 1
Juice McKenzie Posted July 5, 2018 Posted July 5, 2018 2 hours ago, tsar4 said: Talk to them, and really listen. Ask them questions about their childhood, teen years, etc. Ask them about important events that happened during their lives, personally, nationally & globally. Ask them to write out memoirs. If you've an interest in genealogy, get them to write out family trees & rememberences so you have that information. I would have loved to have asked my great aunt what it was like living through the depression era, WWII, etc but I was too young when she would've remembered all of that information. By the time I was old enough to have any interest in it her memory had deteriorated dramatically.
Naraku4656 Posted July 5, 2018 Author Posted July 5, 2018 3 hours ago, tsar4 said: Talk to them, and really listen. Ask them questions about their childhood, teen years, etc. Ask them about important events that happened during their lives, personally, nationally & globally. Ask them to write out memoirs. If you've an interest in genealogy, get them to write out family trees & rememberences so you have that information. that's actually a good idea. they're both sharp as a tack, I'll ask them tomorrow
molarbear Posted July 5, 2018 Posted July 5, 2018 10 hours ago, Naraku4656 said: This is really concerning me. I want to have a good time here but I'm getting really worried about them. Honestly? Basically what Tsar said. Ask them as much about their life while you can. Visit them as often as you can because it sucks when you don't have any Grandparents left.
Gyaos Posted July 5, 2018 Posted July 5, 2018 I only have one grandmother left, and she's in her 70's. The rest died when I was barely in grade school. I never really knew them. Sad to say, I can't relate yet, but it must be hard.
discolé monade Posted July 5, 2018 Posted July 5, 2018 (edited) 12 hours ago, Naraku4656 said: I saw them last year and they looked a bit better. I want them to be around forever but I know they're tired. well, i don't know what family is near them to care for them, but i think..and don't quote me. but i think medicaid pt b, allows up to 4 months of in home care. that is. you can have a nurse come by to check on their diet, and a physical therapist come in once a week for workouts. and another nurse to check their stats. i did it twice for the spousal units grand dad. (as in got approval for each set) it's worth checking into. it costs them nothing. at least this way, someone is going to the house, until you and your family can make other arrangements. Edited July 5, 2018 by discolemonade 1
tsar4 Posted July 5, 2018 Posted July 5, 2018 22 hours ago, tsar4 said: Talk to them, and really listen. Ask them questions about their childhood, teen years, etc. Ask them about important events that happened during their lives, personally, nationally & globally. Ask them to write out memoirs. If you've an interest in genealogy, get them to write out family trees & rememberences so you have that information. Or record them so you have their voices. I've got a cousin who impersonates our late Grandfather really well, but his normal speaking voice sounds like Heath Ledger as the Joker.
GunStarHero Posted July 5, 2018 Posted July 5, 2018 On 7/4/2018 at 4:03 PM, tsar4 said: Talk to them, and really listen. Ask them questions about their childhood, teen years, etc. Ask them about important events that happened during their lives, personally, nationally & globally. Ask them to write out memoirs. If you've an interest in genealogy, get them to write out family trees & rememberences so you have that information. While I also encourage this, my father's parents weren't great to chat with. Every story my grandmother told, no matter what, ended with "but they're dead now." I came to dread story time because it meant someone was dead. Grandfather was in D-Day +1 and his squad was ripped apart by mortar fire while crossing some countryside in Normandy. Everyone else died but he survived with shrapnel in his legs and came back with a whiskey fist that even I witnessed in the 90s. 1
stilgar Posted July 5, 2018 Posted July 5, 2018 I always loved hearing stories about my grandmothers childhood, and I am glad she never ended her stories with they are dead now. Mainly because I was aware that the people she was talking about had died. Like the story about how her parents raised money for their local church when she was a kid and than her uncle stole it all from the church one night.
GunStarHero Posted July 5, 2018 Posted July 5, 2018 3 minutes ago, stilgar said: I always loved hearing stories about my grandmothers childhood, and I am glad she never ended her stories with they are dead now. Mainly because I was aware that the people she was talking about had died. Like the story about how her parents raised money for their local church when she was a kid and than her uncle stole it all from the church one night. That side of the family is plagued with tragedy. Her stories were made worse by the fact that she lived in the same town for the better part of 60 years so familiar places were ripe with sad tales. Didn't help that the family only got together for funerals because they became so common around 1995 and it just kept happening.
stilgar Posted July 5, 2018 Posted July 5, 2018 Lucky for me most of the funerals in my family happened before I was born. It was also good that a large part of my family lived relatively close together. And the ones that have died were years and years apart. Sadly 2 of my cousins both died in car accidents. It is especially bad because the one that was a year younger than me had beaten leukemia a few years before.
GunStarHero Posted July 6, 2018 Posted July 6, 2018 Just now, stilgar said: Lucky for me most of the funerals in my family happened before I was born. It was also good that a large part of my family lived relatively close together. And the ones that have died were years and years apart. Sadly 2 of my cousins both died in car accidents. It is especially bad because the one that was a year younger than me had beaten leukemia a few years before. Yikes. I had a cousin that was a police officer in a small town. He lost his leg on duty one day. Terrible accident. But he stuck with it and stayed on the force. Maybe a year later he was heading home after a shift but heard a call on the radio about a potentially fatal car wreck and he headed out to check on it. In transit he was crossing an intersection and a truck ran a red light and crashed into him, killing him.
CAC Posted July 6, 2018 Posted July 6, 2018 My grandfather has cancer that he won't survive. He's all all the treatments to slow it down and that's all we can hope for.
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