Mix Posted January 25, 2019 Share Posted January 25, 2019 How does that work? Are the courts more lenient? Do you think they see it less as spousal abuse and more as you just getting your ass kicked? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fuggstop Posted January 25, 2019 Share Posted January 25, 2019 Never hear of it. I say a gay girl slap another girl and they didn't do shit abt it Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
molarbear Posted January 25, 2019 Share Posted January 25, 2019 2 hours ago, Mix said: How does that work? Are the courts more lenient? Do you think they see it less as spousal abuse and more as you just getting your ass kicked? I imagine they'd treat it like any other domestic dispute and persecute them unless they're in the NFL, then you just suspend them for 2 games and try to pretend it never happened Looking at you NFL. Throwing some serious shade so all 3 people that use these boards know your shit 1 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Doom Metal Alchemist Posted January 25, 2019 Share Posted January 25, 2019 LGBT domestic abuse is actually a serious problem, in part because of the way of thinking of the OP.... 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
schmahxgn Posted January 25, 2019 Share Posted January 25, 2019 I wasn't sure if my boyfriend would actually strike Me with a chair and then it Hit Me... 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mix Posted January 25, 2019 Author Share Posted January 25, 2019 5 hours ago, Doom Metal Alchemist said: LGBT domestic abuse is actually a serious problem, in part because of the way of thinking of the OP.... this is why people should ask questions.....I can't learn if I don't ask Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RainyDayJizz#35 Posted January 25, 2019 Share Posted January 25, 2019 A lesbian I worked with said she slapped her girlfriend because she was tired of her mouth. The men laughed immediately. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mix Posted January 25, 2019 Author Share Posted January 25, 2019 9 minutes ago, GreatBallsOfJizz said: A lesbian I worked with said she slapped her girlfriend because she was tired of her mouth. The men laughed immediately. see, it's not that it's not wrong, it's that it's funnier than regular domestic violence which tends to not be funny AT ALL.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cyberbully Posted January 25, 2019 Share Posted January 25, 2019 I don't really recall even hearing about a male gay couple involved, but I know a lesbian that beats her wife.....It's seemed off when I first heard about it but after a while you realize women can be abusive too. I mean I had an abusive ex and she knew I would never hit her back.....Well, until I headbutted her for hurting my mom. She would just start choking me sometimes and I mean her tiny hands weren't that powerful but then she starting hitting me with household items when I would laugh at her trying to hurt me. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cyberbully Posted January 25, 2019 Share Posted January 25, 2019 1 minute ago, Mix said: see, it's not that it's not wrong, it's that it's funnier than regular domestic violence which tends to not be funny AT ALL.... I wish I still had the picture of that chick's face....It most certainly was not funny but whatever. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mix Posted January 25, 2019 Author Share Posted January 25, 2019 1 minute ago, cyberbully said: I don't really recall even hearing about a male gay couple involved, but I know a lesbian that beats her wife.....It's seemed off when I first heard about it but after a while you realize women can be abusive too. I mean I had an abusive ex and she knew I would never hit her back.....Well, until I headbutted her for hurting my mom. She would just start choking me sometimes and I mean her tiny hands weren't that powerful but then she starting hitting me with household items when I would laugh at her trying to hurt me. These are questions I usually ask my sister and her friends, but I have been shut out due to certain problematic statements (jokes) at their expense... In their defense, I've more than used up all the capital I gained as the only family member to not give a shit when she came out.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mix Posted January 25, 2019 Author Share Posted January 25, 2019 5 minutes ago, cyberbully said: I wish I still had the picture of that chick's face....It most certainly was not funny but whatever. Oh, for sure not funny in reality, but time and distance reveals humor in most anything Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cyberbully Posted January 25, 2019 Share Posted January 25, 2019 Just now, Mix said: Oh, for sure not funny in reality, but time and distance reveals humor in most anything I don't judge....I'm sure I find something hilarious that is equally or more so fucked up Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mr Owl Posted January 25, 2019 Share Posted January 25, 2019 @mochi You're needed Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GunStarHero Posted January 25, 2019 Share Posted January 25, 2019 (edited) I'm not super well versed in this but it's my understanding that it is often not taken as seriously as domestic abuse between a heterosexual couple. This can include any level from the 911 dispatcher over the phone, to the officers arriving on the scene, and even to the judge presiding over the hearing if it comes to that. Really this is all on a case by case basis. There are laws protecting victims but they often lean towards laws regarding outright assault as a lot of domestic abuse legislature is written in a particular manner to describe heterosexual couples. It's really not a well documented area but that's starting to change. I have heard some scattered reports that lesbian couples experience abuse more frequently than heterosexual ones. And gay couples are largely in the dark due to the stigma of men not being able to be abused or just not being taken seriously when reported. Edited January 25, 2019 by GunStarHero 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vamped Posted January 25, 2019 Share Posted January 25, 2019 2 minutes ago, GunStarHero said: I'm not super well versed in this but it's my understanding that it is often not taken as seriously as domestic abuse between a heterosexual couple. This can include any level from the 911 dispatcher over the phone, to the officers arriving on the scene, and even to the judge presiding over the hearing if it comes to that. Really this is all on a case by case basis. There are laws protecting victims but they often lean towards laws regarding outright assault as a lot of domestic abuse legislature is written in a particular manner to describe heterosexual couples. It's really not a well documented area but that's starting to change. I have heard some scattered reports that lesbian couples experience abuse more frequently than heterosexual ones. And gay couples are largely in the dark due to the stigma of men not being able to be abused or just not being taken seriously when reported. It also depends on your local police department's policy on domestic violence. Here, if there has been previous reports of domestic violence or intimate partner violence and the police are called, somebody has to leave. Doesn't matter which party, but the police cannot allow both parties to stay in the residence if they are called and there is a history. I think the biggest hurdle with same sex couples, especially men, is actually reporting it. Same goes for men being abused in general though. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mochi Posted January 25, 2019 Share Posted January 25, 2019 1 hour ago, Kuroko said: @mochi You're needed how the fuck should I know the closest I've gotten to a relationship is sucking a guy I met on grindr's dick Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
discolé monade Posted January 25, 2019 Share Posted January 25, 2019 https://www.justice.gov/ovw/domestic-violence 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mix Posted January 25, 2019 Author Share Posted January 25, 2019 57 minutes ago, GunStarHero said: I'm not super well versed in this but it's my understanding that it is often not taken as seriously as domestic abuse between a heterosexual couple. This can include any level from the 911 dispatcher over the phone, to the officers arriving on the scene, and even to the judge presiding over the hearing if it comes to that. Really this is all on a case by case basis. There are laws protecting victims but they often lean towards laws regarding outright assault as a lot of domestic abuse legislature is written in a particular manner to describe heterosexual couples. It's really not a well documented area but that's starting to change. I have heard some scattered reports that lesbian couples experience abuse more frequently than heterosexual ones. And gay couples are largely in the dark due to the stigma of men not being able to be abused or just not being taken seriously when reported. I figured it would lean towards plain ol' assault charges... I wonder what sort of awareness campaign you'd run for this.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mix Posted January 25, 2019 Author Share Posted January 25, 2019 55 minutes ago, Vamped said: It also depends on your local police department's policy on domestic violence. Here, if there has been previous reports of domestic violence or intimate partner violence and the police are called, somebody has to leave. Doesn't matter which party, but the police cannot allow both parties to stay in the residence if they are called and there is a history. I think the biggest hurdle with same sex couples, especially men, is actually reporting it. Same goes for men being abused in general though. See, that's where you lose me....I'd assumed gay men were above this machismo crap....especially if they were out already Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mix Posted January 25, 2019 Author Share Posted January 25, 2019 46 minutes ago, mochi said: how the fuck should I know the closest I've gotten to a relationship is sucking a guy I met on grindr's dick Would you report it if you were abused by your boyfriend? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mochi Posted January 25, 2019 Share Posted January 25, 2019 1 minute ago, Mix said: Would you report it if you were abused by your boyfriend? probably.....but knowing the US legal system they'd probably arrest me too and give us waaaaaaaaay harsher sentences than a straight couple would get Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mix Posted January 25, 2019 Author Share Posted January 25, 2019 7 minutes ago, mochi said: probably.....but knowing the US legal system they'd probably arrest me too and give us waaaaaaaaay harsher sentences than a straight couple would get I understand that they might not take your case of abuse seriously, but is there a pattern of prosecuting the victim in cases of domestic violence among same sex couples? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mochi Posted January 25, 2019 Share Posted January 25, 2019 3 minutes ago, Mix said: I understand that they might not take your case of abuse seriously, but is there a pattern of prosecuting the victim in cases of domestic violence among same sex couples? again, I honestly don't know, domestic abuse cases among LGBT people aren't something I actually hear reported on very often Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mix Posted January 25, 2019 Author Share Posted January 25, 2019 22 minutes ago, mochi said: again, I honestly don't know, domestic abuse cases among LGBT people aren't something I actually hear reported on very often then why would you say that? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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cyberbully Posted January 26, 2019 Share Posted January 26, 2019 5 hours ago, nameraka said: How do we know they are even a couple.....That body language suggests to me that they are both seeing the same guy. Or one of them stole an outfit from the other. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mix Posted January 26, 2019 Author Share Posted January 26, 2019 6 hours ago, nameraka said: Maybe someone who knows him better can correct me, but..........the guy on the left looks like viper, doesn't he? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nameraka Posted January 26, 2019 Share Posted January 26, 2019 58 minutes ago, cyberbully said: How do we know they are even a couple.....That body language suggests to me that they are both seeing the same guy. Or one of them stole an outfit from the other. good point. i will try to make fewer assumptions in the future. i will also eat less red meat. you probably didn't need to know that, huh? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mini_ghost420 Posted January 27, 2019 Share Posted January 27, 2019 On 1/25/2019 at 3:32 PM, Mix said: See, that's where you lose me....I'd assumed gay men were above this machismo crap....especially if they were out already that's not true either some gay guys are very macho. turned on by it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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