mochi Posted January 9, 2017 Posted January 9, 2017 I already know about Grindr, and I'll most likely end up getting it if nothing else pans out (I'm slightly afraid to though cause I'm out of shape and all the guys on grindr tend to be egotistical and picky) so my question is, other than relying entirely on grindr....what other ways does a gay man now-a-days find friends/hook-ups/an actual boyfriend?
CAC Posted January 9, 2017 Posted January 9, 2017 Get a IRL hobby that gets you out the house and meeting people. lulz who am I kidding, it's impossible.
Ginguy Posted January 9, 2017 Posted January 9, 2017 Name and number on a urinal wall? Seriously though, check for local events and go. Most are free. If nothing else, get in touch with the local Democratic county chairman and say you want to get involved.
mochi Posted January 9, 2017 Author Posted January 9, 2017 On 1/9/2017 at 10:25 PM, CAC said: Get a IRL hobby that gets you out the house and meeting people. lulz who am I kidding, it's impossible. if I had money to take art classes I would
Naraku4656 Posted January 9, 2017 Posted January 9, 2017 On 1/9/2017 at 10:29 PM, Ginguy said: Name and number on a urinal wall? it worked for Tommy Tutone
mochi Posted January 9, 2017 Author Posted January 9, 2017 On 1/9/2017 at 10:29 PM, Ginguy said: Name and number on a urinal wall? Seriously though, check for local events and go. Most are free. If nothing else, get in touch with the local Democratic county chairman and say you want to get involved. I don't think there's any specifically gay events until later in the year but I probably will risk my life attending Gay Pride this year just because at least if I die in an anti-gay attack trying to find love, at least I actually tried and Phhh, what good would contacting a polititian do me?
Ginguy Posted January 9, 2017 Posted January 9, 2017 On 1/9/2017 at 10:37 PM, mochi said: I don't think there's any specifically gay events until later in the year but I probably will risk my life attending Gay Pride this year just because at least if I die in an anti-gay attack trying to find love, at least I actually tried and Phhh, what good would contacting a polititian do me? Well, for starters the local Democratic party will probably have an outreach float or booth at the pride event, so there ya go. If they don't, ask if you can set it up and run it. Also, Trump is not going to send out people to kill gay people, saying crazy things like that is off putting and hinders your efforts.
quebecelegy Posted January 9, 2017 Posted January 9, 2017 this seems kinda hard to answer, go to gay bars maybe? how am i supposed get a qt 3.14 gf though?
Vamped Posted January 9, 2017 Posted January 9, 2017 Go to college. Join the gay club. Ours is called.... the Stonewall Tigers
Skiles Posted January 9, 2017 Posted January 9, 2017 There's a type for everybody in this community. As long as your profile picture on Grindr is an honest representation of you, you're bound to at LEAST get laid. Maybe you'll even find a guy on there who digs you for you. Although I don't necessarily think of Grindr as a place where real human connections are made, beyond the physical aspect. But hey... You'll get laid.
mochi Posted January 9, 2017 Author Posted January 9, 2017 On 1/9/2017 at 10:42 PM, Ginguy said: Well, for starters the local Democratic party will probably have an outreach float or booth at the pride event, so there ya go. If they don't, ask if you can set it up and run it. Also, Trump is not going to send out people to kill gay people, saying crazy things like that is off putting and hinders your efforts. true as for the other point, probably not but they'll probably make gay sex illegal again very shortly so I'll get arrested if I ever have sex
mochi Posted January 9, 2017 Author Posted January 9, 2017 On 1/9/2017 at 10:58 PM, Vamped said: Go to college. Join the gay club. Ours is called.... the Stonewall Tigers going to college requires millions of dollars
mochi Posted January 9, 2017 Author Posted January 9, 2017 On 1/9/2017 at 11:03 PM, Skiles said: There's a type for everybody in this community. As long as your profile picture on Grindr is an honest representation of you, you're bound to at LEAST get laid. Maybe you'll even find a guy on there who digs you for you. Although I don't necessarily think of Grindr as a place where real human connections are made, beyond the physical aspect. But hey... You'll get laid. grindr is kind of an anonymous sex app but people do meet their soulmates on their sometimes
Bouvre Posted January 9, 2017 Posted January 9, 2017 Gay bars, college groups, county/town groups (even my small hometown county had one of those but they were mostly very old people, but youth involvement in those things had to start somewhere). It's a bit hard to say since I don't know the kind of area you're in. Even with what I can suggest, sometimes they're completely useless. For instance, I've mostly lived in towns that don't have gay bars, and my hometown had no resources for queer teens. I only really started dating once I got the fuck out of there.
Naraku4656 Posted January 9, 2017 Posted January 9, 2017 On 1/9/2017 at 11:07 PM, Bouvre said: Gay bars, college groups, county/town groups (even my small hometown county had one of those but they were mostly very old people, but youth involvement in those things had to start somewhere). It's a bit hard to say since I don't know the kind of area you're in. Even with what I can suggest, sometimes they're completely useless. For instance, I've mostly lived in towns that don't have gay bars, and my hometown had no resources for queer teens. I only really started dating once I got the fuck out of there. so what you're saying is
Bouvre Posted January 9, 2017 Posted January 9, 2017 I do wanna take people to gay bars all the time. Unfortunately I'm not a terribly exciting "gay bar" person.
Vamped Posted January 9, 2017 Posted January 9, 2017 On 1/9/2017 at 11:05 PM, mochi said: going to college requires millions of dollars find scholarships or do like everybody else and make promises you dont intend to keep
Naraku4656 Posted January 9, 2017 Posted January 9, 2017 On 1/9/2017 at 11:05 PM, mochi said: going to college requires millions of dollars what college are you going to. you do know there's a nearly free college not too far from $PLACE_OF_RESIDENCE right?
Skiles Posted January 9, 2017 Posted January 9, 2017 On 1/9/2017 at 11:06 PM, mochi said: grindr is kind of an anonymous sex app but people do meet their soulmates on their sometimes Well shit, there you go, dude! Go get laid and meet your soulmate! But again, just make sure your pic is really you. Don't be goin' around catfishin' fools.
God-Says-No Posted January 9, 2017 Posted January 9, 2017 cant you just make a okcupid? plentyofish etc... and just try them out?
mochi Posted January 9, 2017 Author Posted January 9, 2017 On 1/9/2017 at 11:07 PM, Bouvre said: Gay bars, college groups, county/town groups (even my small hometown county had one of those but they were mostly very old people, but youth involvement in those things had to start somewhere). It's a bit hard to say since I don't know the kind of area you're in. Even with what I can suggest, sometimes they're completely useless. For instance, I've mostly lived in towns that don't have gay bars, and my hometown had no resources for queer teens. I only really started dating once I got the fuck out of there. I don't even really know the kind of area I'm in, some parts of Maryland are pro gay other parts are like the deep south there are a few Gay bars though
mochi Posted January 9, 2017 Author Posted January 9, 2017 On 1/9/2017 at 11:21 PM, God-Says-No said: cant you just make a okcupid? plentyofish etc... and just try them out? aren't those straight dating sites?
God-Says-No Posted January 9, 2017 Posted January 9, 2017 On 1/9/2017 at 11:22 PM, mochi said: aren't those straight dating sites? no they have select preferences whether you want asian,white,black etc male female trans
mochi Posted January 9, 2017 Author Posted January 9, 2017 On 1/9/2017 at 11:23 PM, God-Says-No said: no they have select preferences whether you want asian,white,black etc male female trans I'll think about it then
God-Says-No Posted January 9, 2017 Posted January 9, 2017 well if youre looking for some quick D it should work
Atomsk Posted January 9, 2017 Posted January 9, 2017 On 1/9/2017 at 10:15 PM, mochi said: I already know about Grindr, and I'll most likely end up getting it if nothing else pans out (I'm slightly afraid to though cause I'm out of shape and all the guys on grindr tend to be egotistical and picky) so my question is, other than relying entirely on grindr....what other ways does a gay man now-a-days find friends/hook-ups/an actual boyfriend? By getting pozzed up like a neg.
Bouvre Posted January 9, 2017 Posted January 9, 2017 Gay bars aren't a bad start. At the very least, you might meet some people who have the inside scoop on LGBTQ-related events happening in the area. The one in the town where I'm currently staying has bulletin boards for LGBTQ-related events too.
mochi Posted January 9, 2017 Author Posted January 9, 2017 On 1/9/2017 at 11:30 PM, StarPanda said: Craigslist more murder in it's history than I'd like (grindr has a similar history but you can make more precautions)
Doom Metal Alchemist Posted January 9, 2017 Posted January 9, 2017 On 1/9/2017 at 11:05 PM, mochi said: going to college requires millions of dollars You can find a local community college and apply for a fee waiver. That's what I'm doing right now. I think the reasons I qualified for the waiver is because of low income and I'm not married.
Naraku4656 Posted January 9, 2017 Posted January 9, 2017 On 1/9/2017 at 11:37 PM, Doom Metal Alchemist said: You can find a local community college and apply for a fee waiver. That's what I'm doing right now. I think the reasons I qualified for the waiver is because of low income and I'm not married. don't you need to fill out a FAFSA and be independent for that to be true? doesn't it not work as well if you're dependent on your parents' incomes?
mochi Posted January 9, 2017 Author Posted January 9, 2017 On 1/9/2017 at 11:32 PM, Bouvre said: Gay bars aren't a bad start. At the very least, you might meet some people who have the inside scoop on LGBTQ-related events happening in the area. The one in the town where I'm currently staying has bulletin boards for LGBTQ-related events too. true
Doom Metal Alchemist Posted January 9, 2017 Posted January 9, 2017 On 1/9/2017 at 11:39 PM, Naraku4656 said: don't you need to fill out a FAFSA and be independent for that to be true? doesn't it not work as well if you're dependent on your parents' incomes? You do need to fill out a FAFSA. I think you do need to be considered an "independent." I'm dependent on my parents' income, but there's some technicality where I'm considered an independent. I think it might be because I have a bachelor's degree, but I can't remember. Maybe there's other technicalities that apply to mochi.
Naraku4656 Posted January 9, 2017 Posted January 9, 2017 On 1/9/2017 at 11:42 PM, Doom Metal Alchemist said: You do need to fill out a FAFSA. I think you do need to be considered an "independent." I'm dependent on my parents' income, but there's some technicality where I'm considered an independent. I think it might be because I have a bachelor's degree, but I can't remember. Maybe there's other technicalities that apply to mochi. how can you be dependent and independent at the same time? i didn't realize a bachelor's degree made you independent, i thought that was when you pay for over 50% (at least for single people) of your living expenses though my tax-fu is a bit weak in that area because i've never really had that problem where i had to flip flop between them. also doesn't that also only work on for credit classes? i don't think FAFSA helps you with non-credit
Doom Metal Alchemist Posted January 10, 2017 Posted January 10, 2017 On 1/9/2017 at 11:46 PM, Naraku4656 said: how can you be dependent and independent at the same time? i didn't realize a bachelor's degree made you independent, i thought that was when you pay for over 50% (at least for single people) of your living expenses though my tax-fu is a bit weak in that area because i've never really had that problem where i had to flip flop between them. also doesn't that also only work on for credit classes? i don't think FAFSA helps you with non-credit I really don't think I'm " dependent and independent at the same time." I can't quite remember why I'm considered independent, but I THINK it is because I have a bachelor's degree. It might be something else, like my age or something, I can't remember. I'm pretty sure whether or not someone claims you as a dependent on their taxes is not necessarily going to be the same for the purposes of the FAFSA. What's wrong with taking credit classes?
1pooh4u Posted January 10, 2017 Posted January 10, 2017 My coworker is old, bald and completely out of shape and he always gets hit up on Grindr, growlr and scruff
bnmjy Posted January 10, 2017 Posted January 10, 2017 Just keep drawing yaoi. Anime is supposed to become real in a millennial's lifetime after all.
Naraku4656 Posted January 10, 2017 Posted January 10, 2017 there's nothing wrong with it, i was asking a sincere question
Doom Metal Alchemist Posted January 10, 2017 Posted January 10, 2017 On 1/10/2017 at 12:04 AM, Naraku4656 said: there's nothing wrong with it, i was asking a sincere question In the context of the rest of the post, it made it seem like you thought mochi wasn't going to want to/be able to take any classes for credit, that's all.
Naraku4656 Posted January 10, 2017 Posted January 10, 2017 On 1/10/2017 at 12:09 AM, Doom Metal Alchemist said: In the context of the rest of the post, it made it seem like you thought mochi wasn't going to want to/be able to take any classes for credit, that's all. actually the opposite. i thought he wasn't going to be able to take any non-credit classes
Skiles Posted January 10, 2017 Posted January 10, 2017 On 1/10/2017 at 12:04 AM, bnmjy said: Just keep drawing yaoi. Anime is supposed to become real in a millennial's lifetime after all. Yeah, but we didn't elect Bernie. So that ship has sailed, in more ways than one.
Lucis Posted January 10, 2017 Posted January 10, 2017 ......dood, you are not gay. Youre gay but not in a gay way....
Doom Metal Alchemist Posted January 10, 2017 Posted January 10, 2017 On 1/10/2017 at 12:12 AM, Naraku4656 said: actually the opposite. i thought he wasn't going to be able to take any non-credit classes Close enough. Point is, even if non-credit classes are a no-go, I see no reason why he can't take for-credit classes.
Naraku4656 Posted January 10, 2017 Posted January 10, 2017 On 1/10/2017 at 12:25 AM, Doom Metal Alchemist said: Close enough. Point is, even if non-credit classes are a no-go, I see no reason why he can't take for-credit classes. i...didnt say....he couldn't......take....for....credit....classes. maybe if i say it slow enough his brain will be able to process it, or maybe it's all that rock and roll damaging his organs
bnmjy Posted January 10, 2017 Posted January 10, 2017 On 1/10/2017 at 12:20 AM, Skiles said: Yeah, but we didn't elect Bernie. So that ship has sailed, in more ways than one. I encountered Trump making anime real far more than I did with Bernie . . .
Doom Metal Alchemist Posted January 10, 2017 Posted January 10, 2017 On 1/10/2017 at 12:27 AM, Naraku4656 said: i...didnt say....he couldn't......take....for....credit....classes. maybe if i say it slow enough his brain will be able to process it, or maybe it's all that rock and roll damaging his organs lol. No you didn't say that, but I thought that was the implication. What I'm trying to say is, the fact that you even brought that up made it sound like mochi taking non-credit classes if he goes to college was a done deal. If I read into that wrong, I apologize.
Naraku4656 Posted January 10, 2017 Posted January 10, 2017 On 1/10/2017 at 12:37 AM, Doom Metal Alchemist said: lol. No you didn't say that, but I thought that was the implication. What I'm trying to say is, the fact that you even brought that up made it sound like mochi taking non-credit classes if he goes to college was a done deal. If I read into that wrong, I apologize. you're going to make me say it, don't make me say it
Guest Zintar Posted January 10, 2017 Posted January 10, 2017 On 1/9/2017 at 11:21 PM, mochi said: I don't even really know the kind of area I'm in, some parts of Maryland are pro gay other parts are like the deep south there are a few Gay bars though Maybe you should consider moving to an area that is more in tune with what you are looking for. Here where I live, Portland, you would have no problem meeting like-minded people, going to regular events, joining different groups or clubs, etc. This city is quite gay-friendly, as are many other cities. Good luck finding what you are looking for!
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