scoobdog

Ohhhhhh. You.

Have at it.....

Donald Sutherland is Canadian.

It's not a fallacy. Our society tends to be filtered through the lens of the male perspective, whether it be in terms of work (women deserve to be valued the same as men), social function (women can hold the leadership roles that a man typically holds), sexuality (women have the right to resist the advances of a dominant male), or child rearing (woman can be bread winners to the man's housewife). It's not a conspiratorial effort by men to suppress women as much as its generations of CIS male dominated societies proving a biased framework to appraise the various inequality issues between all genders. As long as we expect women in leadership positions to lead the way a man would, the bias is fairly self evident. In the case of sexual misconduct, its worth noting that abusers of all genders do so in the framework of a dominant-versus-submissive sexual relationship, where the dominant party imposes his or her will on the submissive and that's something our societies have "learned" over generations of having men defined by being commanding and controlling figures, and, in of itself, that is not something that is biologically intrinsic to sexual intercourse or intimacy.

Seriously, though, something like region codes would be part of the label that would be near the Serial Number on the box.

Wouldn't it be listed on the box?

That's not true. You can rightly blame the patriarchy and still acknowledge women are capable of being abusers in that framework.

I could have a penis like that too.... if I got it driven over by a earthmover with cat tracks.

I would not have gotten that from your OP.

Bill will retire the day Brady retires.

While maybe you feel that you "deserved it" as a way of protecting your position from vulnerability and poof might feel it because she's already vulnerable, the commonality is that both men and women suffer if they are forthright about the abuse they are subjected to.

ITT: Viper shows off his impeccable timing.

I guess I'm a bit reticent because it seems like dredging up a painful topic and (as what Sorce was saying) because of how a man discussing gender neutral power dynamics can come across. Its a difficult thing to nuance; even in your case, the conditions that led to those women abusing you are at least partly attributed to our patriarchal society and its penchant for defining women in terms of their ability to sexually please their partner(s). That doesn't justify abuse by any means, but it also can't be divorced from how men have shaped sexual norms. Hard to describe, but I feel like I could make things worse.

I regret I missed this thread a year ago. I have a lot to say, but it seems inappropriate to do so now.

No lucky lady looking to ride the latin stallion?

Nah dude. This is what you're angry about... https://www.espn.com/nfl/story/_/id/27343569/barnwell-inevitable-drew-brees-decline-already-begun

This is so stupid.

Well, probably just lucky. I think it's supposed to be off. I had it for a little bit, but I lost it at some point when I had something done to my account. Most likely, it's because of your custom rank.

That feature is off for most people.

I dunno about finding the goose, but dogs seem to need partners. If he's sweet, maybe you could get a dog companion from the same shelter if the goose doesn't come back. Also, is it possible to see if the goose returned to his former residence?

It'll probably be terrible.

There are too many pizza places here. I'm partial to PizzaRev.

Well, that's that. I've always had a problem with the concept of "toxic masculinity" because it seems to be an unnecessary subdivision of a broader class of abuse. It's one thing to raise a boy in 1960 to adhere to rigid gender roles because there was so little resistance from either parent to this approach. In this day and age, trying to do the same encroaches on abuse because it forces boys to adhere to an identity that is not only anachronistic, but asynchronous with social norms. Granted the identity issues don't elicit the same social pariah pressures that an LGBTQ child deals with when being molded into something he or she can't be, but the mechanical attributes of the abuse are the same and recognizing it as such is more constructive in eliminating the class of behavior compared to compartmentalizing it.

And it goes without saying that there is nothing normal about what your father did. Whether or not you classify it as such, that is abuse and it likely reflects abuse your father received. That's not to say he wasn't a loving father or a abusive in general (I wouldn't presume to know anything about him), just that singular behavior is problematic and reflects a dysfunction that is outside of social norms.