I don't know anything about being an admin, but I had a job as a nursing supervisor at one time, and it sounds about the same. You don't want a supervisor(or admin) who's an unapproachable twat, but at the same time, you don't want one who's too buddy-buddy with everybody, because they can't enforce the rules (or can't enforce them equally). It's a difficult line to walk; I don't want to try to walk it again, and I don't envy anyone who's doing it.
And Viper - I'm trying not to nag, just point things out, but at this juncture, you're coming across as too labile to actually commit to any complex, potentially long-term projects right now. It's not going to go away, and it's not going to get any better until you do something about it. And please - don't think I'm just being a bitch; you are on my cookie list after all.