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My mom was talking about nursing homes


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And how she doesn’t wanna be stuck there with nothing to do and I asked her if she ever has to go stay at one if she wants me to bring her hella drugs so she can trip balls all day and she said yes definitely

she hasn’t done drugs or even drank since the 70s but she was very serious about my offer

so I will do this 

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If you get caught, it could be considered "elder abuse", even if she agrees to it.  There are alternatives to nursing homes.  Some "retirement villages" advertised that you get your own townhouse with progressive assistance as you need it.  Not sure on the costs though.

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3 hours ago, scoobdog said:

Why is she talking about nursing homes?  Is it that usual thing older people do when they're contemplating their mortality?

Maybe Poof's mom has (relatively) recently gone through some hardships with the aging / ailing health of poof's grandparents and doesn't wish that stuff on her.

When my dad was going through the hardships of his parents not being able to take care of themselves anymore, and then on their deathbeds, my dad's attitude to me was basically, "I don't want to be a burden to you guys, if I can't take care of myself I'm just putting a bullet in my head."

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21 minutes ago, Doom Metal Alchemist said:

Maybe Poof's mom has (relatively) recently gone through some hardships with the aging / ailing health of poof's grandparents and doesn't wish that stuff on her.

When my dad was going through the hardships of his parents not being able to take care of themselves anymore, and then on their deathbeds, my dad's attitude to me was basically, "I don't want to be a burden to you guys, if I can't take care of myself I'm just putting a bullet in my head."

It sounds easy, but making that decision (when to end assistance to a dying family member) is one of the hardest things a person will ever do, no matter what the dying person's wishes were.  You'll wonder if you're waiting long enough, or waiting too long and a host of other thoughts.

That's when you get your Masters in Adulting.

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1 minute ago, tsar4 said:

It sounds easy, but making that decision (when to end assistance to a dying family member) is one of the hardest things a person will ever do, no matter what the dying person's wishes were.  You'll wonder if you're waiting long enough, or waiting too long and a host of other thoughts.

That's when you get your Masters in Adulting.

????? It sounds more like the hardest decision one will ever have to make in their entire lifetimes, but ok....

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Just now, Doom Metal Alchemist said:

????? It sounds more like the hardest decision one will ever have to make in their entire lifetimes, but ok....

I was referring to listening to a person saying - "I don't want to be a burden" and putting the final decision in the hands of a loved one.  It's easy for that person to say, and at the time, for the person who will have to make that decision to agree to.  But when it does come time, it sucks.

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1 minute ago, tsar4 said:

I was referring to listening to a person saying - "I don't want to be a burden" and putting the final decision in the hands of a loved one.  It's easy for that person to say, and at the time, for the person who will have to make that decision to agree to.  But when it does come time, it sucks.

Ah, I gotcha.

I guess the best way for someone to have this wish granted is to sign a DNR.

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