Help me with an argument here

[-Ninja_Jesus-]

If someone cooks for the house, who’s job is it to clean up?

I was raised with the mindset of “clean the mess that you make”, so any time you make a mess in the kitchen you should clean it after, even when it’s dinner.

My fiancée was raised with the mindset that it’s expected to be a communal effort, that everyone should take part in the clean up process.

What are your thoughts?

Edited December 21, 2020 by -Ninja_Jesus-

[Raptorpat]

Generally my answer is "whichever gets me the least amount of things to do" but yeah, def if one puts in all the effort to prepare dinner then everyone or someone else should be willing to take care of cleanup.

[Skiles]

If it's for the household, yeah, they should pitch in. If I cooked for a date, or some friends visiting, obviously that's different. 

[katt_goddess]

Around the holidays, it was a 'tradition' that after the large meal with extra mess, all the guys got to waddle off to the living room and all the females were expected to clean up the mess the nasty little pigs made. 

I don't agree with that mindset. 

In the case of a meal for the whole household thing, everyone should pitch in to clean up. It gets things done faster and if people have to clean up after themselves, they are less likely to deliberately mess everywhere. 

[bnmjy]

I say choose your battles wisely with your woman. In this case, I'd say give in and agree with her.

As for my actual opinion, I say it depends. If it's a large holiday dinner, family members should help. If it's just a standard meal, the cook should clean.

[cyberbully]

Stay out of my kitchen...you dont cook like me and you dont clean like me so get out.

[scoobdog]

The cook.  It’s counterintuitive given one person ends up doing more work, but the person who is cooking needs to clean the pots and pans ASAP or they will be near impossible to clean.  It makes more sense to divvy up cooking and cleaning together than spitting the tasks.  Also, communal clean efforts always end up in disaster.

[PhilosipherStoned]

Doesn't really matter to me. I love cooking, but hate dishes so it's awesome when someone offers to do the dishes if I cook though. 

[tsar4]

Guests get a pass, but can volunteer to help. 

Family member(s) that fed you should be allowed to stay at the table while others clear & clean.  

Roommates (not romantically involved)- you made the mess, you clean it up, particularly if I didn't ask you to cook for me but you insisted.

Romantically involved - you'd better help.

Edited December 21, 2020 by tsar4

[Sieg67]

Oh snaps, I just tied it.

[Vamped]

Pots and pans are one thing,  dishes are another thing.

I feel like the cook should clean as they go but the family could wash the dinner plates, silverware etc 

[panic]

The one who doesn't pay the bills.