jackiemarie90 Posted January 18, 2020 Share Posted January 18, 2020 And not much happened, or really anything. We were celebrating him getting on a scholars board, new job, and research opportunity. Drinking and smoking, and we just watched some shows and the avengers. And we were cuddling, eventually spooning but that's it, just holding each, and at the end, their was no kiss. At one point, I faced him and it seemed like we were, but my stupid ass was like, "Can you pass the vape?" 😓 He wanted to sleep on our sides, and I always sleep on my back, so I broke the spooning lol. But still, I'm so confused what is going on between us, but we also signed up for our lab and discussion classes together this morning. So I'm afraid of pressing the issue that it might it might affect our already heavy loaded semester. The curriculum in that class is one of the most intense ones on campus and everyone really wants to protect their GPA for grad school and other internship, scholarship and other opportunities. I think for the both of us we just want human connection. We both have baggage, who doesn't, and in these lonely times people just like to be near someone and have someone to hold. And that's why things are the way they are I guess. Idk, I just don't want to make the guy uncomfortable and I'm ok moving at this pace because I don't want to ruin the semester. But now I'm being guarded on how much I open and give since everything is so uncertain. Anyways I'm moving into a cramped co-op on campus with a roommate now so probably not gonna be stories of someone visiting my room, more just me still confused on how to be social. lmao 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RainyDayJizz#35 Posted January 18, 2020 Share Posted January 18, 2020 Slow is fine, if you told him you wanna slow things down and he seems more hesitant to make moves it's probably a good thing. He wants to respect your space but women can be confusing so he could be worried of scaring you off. So if you want a kiss or something but you don't wanna make a move hit him in the face with a sledgehammer. Boo does it to me when she wants a kiss sometimes, she'll stare at me and blink all cute, and I'll be like "what?" And the she just blinks more with a certain smile. I usually ask what to pretend I'm oblivious though. But she knows I'm not. Put your hands on his waist, give a look, be super fucking obvious about it if you want it. If you want him to kiss you stare in his eyes for too long. Don't get hung up on the future, just enjoy what's happening now. Think about what you want later, when actually discussing it can just be conversation and not some nerve wracking obstacle to pass. But I'm just some guy, what do I know. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jackiemarie90 Posted January 18, 2020 Author Share Posted January 18, 2020 11 minutes ago, GreatBallsOfJizz said: Slow is fine, if you told him you wanna slow things down and he seems more hesitant to make moves it's probably a good thing. He wants to respect your space but women can be confusing so he could be worried of scaring you off. So if you want a kiss or something but you don't wanna make a move hit him in the face with a sledgehammer. Boo does it to me when she wants a kiss sometimes, she'll stare at me and blink all cute, and I'll be like "what?" And the she just blinks more with a certain smile. I usually ask what to pretend I'm oblivious though. But she knows I'm not. Put your hands on his waist, give a look, be super fucking obvious about it if you want it. If you want him to kiss you stare in his eyes for too long. Don't get hung up on the future, just enjoy what's happening now. Think about what you want later, when actually discussing it can just be conversation and not some nerve wracking obstacle to pass. But I'm just some guy, what do I know. I'm just afraid that he really doesn't like me, that he only likes having someone warm next to him. Then again, maybe no kiss cause he wasn't able to brush his teeth. XD Idk, I'm scared on asking for a kiss because I feel like the person doesn't want it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RainyDayJizz#35 Posted January 18, 2020 Share Posted January 18, 2020 3 minutes ago, jackiemarie90 said: I'm just afraid that he really doesn't like me, that he only likes having someone warm next to him. Then again, maybe no kiss cause he wasn't able to brush his teeth. XD Idk, I'm scared on asking for a kiss because I feel like the person doesn't want it. Don't ask, just show him you want it. Be a little more amorous, be a little bit extra and hopefully he moves in for it. Guys can have a lot of trouble picking up on signals, but you make it sound like you're ready for a bit more. Maybe grab his ass a little when you hug and look at him funny. Like I said, sledgehammer. Some guys need it to make a move. No idea how old you are, guessing mid to late 20's, but don't get hung up on where things end up and enjoy now. Maybe things go well and maybe they don't, but you'll never know if you don't try. And even if things don't work out it can still be a good relationship. If you did have that talk about slowing things down and he likes you he will definitely be more reserved about making moves. So slap him in the face with your ass. Let him know he can have it if he wants to take it. 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Naraku4656 Posted January 18, 2020 Share Posted January 18, 2020 Guys are awful with social cues. Just put on a dominatrix outfit, yell "DEATH BY SNU SNU" and get it on 3 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jackiemarie90 Posted January 18, 2020 Author Share Posted January 18, 2020 7 minutes ago, GreatBallsOfJizz said: Don't ask, just show him you want it. Be a little more amorous, be a little bit extra and hopefully he moves in for it. Guys can have a lot of trouble picking up on signals, but you make it sound like you're ready for a bit more. Maybe grab his ass a little when you hug and look at him funny. Like I said, sledgehammer. Some guys need it to make a move. No idea how old you are, guessing mid to late 20's, but don't get hung up on where things end up and enjoy now. Maybe things go well and maybe they don't, but you'll never know if you don't try. And even if things don't work out it can still be a good relationship. If you did have that talk about slowing things down and he likes you he will definitely be more reserved about making moves. So slap him in the face with your ass. Let him know he can have it if he wants to take it. The '90 in my sn is my birth year. Maybe I should be forward, I've been afraid of being forward this whole time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jackiemarie90 Posted January 18, 2020 Author Share Posted January 18, 2020 8 minutes ago, Naraku4656 said: Guys are awful with social cues. Just put on a dominatrix outfit, yell "DEATH BY SNU SNU" and get it on Maybe sometime this semester that might happen, but for now, I'm going to be chilling in a co-op with other students, don't think I'll have the same opportunities. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Naraku4656 Posted January 18, 2020 Share Posted January 18, 2020 5 minutes ago, jackiemarie90 said: Maybe sometime this semester that might happen, but for now, I'm going to be chilling in a co-op with other students, don't think I'll have the same opportunities. trust me, i walked in on my roommates having sex before. it happens. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RainyDayJizz#35 Posted January 19, 2020 Share Posted January 19, 2020 3 minutes ago, jackiemarie90 said: The '90 in my sn is my birth year. Maybe I should be forward, I've been afraid of being forward this whole time. Funny thing, Boo was the first one that came in for the kiss after we met. At a stoplight, no less. We talked on and off for seven years but I still wanted to be a respectful gentleman. But there we were in my shitty car and she grabbed the back of my neck. And later after she woke up in the hotel room all those pent up feelings were all over our faces. If he's a good guy, saying not yet is enough notice. But if this has been going on for a couple months, i dunno, he at least should get a firm ass grab. Under the pants! Skin on skin contact seems important to me. It feels closer, if you get that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jackiemarie90 Posted January 19, 2020 Author Share Posted January 19, 2020 12 minutes ago, Naraku4656 said: trust me, i walked in on my roommates having sex before. it happens. lol true. Idk, I'd like a bit of privacy. >__> Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jackiemarie90 Posted January 19, 2020 Author Share Posted January 19, 2020 2 minutes ago, GreatBallsOfJizz said: Funny thing, Boo was the first one that came in for the kiss after we met. At a stoplight, no less. We talked on and off for seven years but I still wanted to be a respectful gentleman. But there we were in my shitty car and she grabbed the back of my neck. And later after she woke up in the hotel room all those pent up feelings were all over our faces. If he's a good guy, saying not yet is enough notice. But if this has been going on for a couple months, i dunno, he at least should get a firm ass grab. Under the pants! Skin on skin contact seems important to me. It feels closer, if you get that. He grabs me all the time, he grabs my leg, arm, and was rubbing my lower back yesterday. Yet, I don't know what to do when he does that. I freeze up, I'm afraid I might misinterpret his signals. But if he is willing to grab me so provocatively, wouldn't that mean that he would go up and kiss me if he wanted? Which makes me think he doesn't. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Naraku4656 Posted January 19, 2020 Share Posted January 19, 2020 2 minutes ago, jackiemarie90 said: lol true. Idk, I'd like a bit of privacy. >__> the first place i ever kissed a girl was inside of a car i borrowed in the parking lot of a bowling alley we were about to leave after our second date. didn't mean to happen that way but shit comes at you fast Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jackiemarie90 Posted January 19, 2020 Author Share Posted January 19, 2020 Just now, Naraku4656 said: the first place i ever kissed a girl was inside of a car i borrowed in the parking lot of a bowling alley we were about to leave after our second date. didn't mean to happen that way but shit comes at you fast He has already kissed me, twice, but the whole night he didn’t. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RainyDayJizz#35 Posted January 19, 2020 Share Posted January 19, 2020 1 minute ago, jackiemarie90 said: He grabs me all the time, he grabs my leg, arm, and was rubbing my lower back yesterday. Yet, I don't know what to do when he does that. I freeze up, I'm afraid I might misinterpret his signals. But if he is willing to grab me so provocatively, wouldn't that mean that he would go up and kiss me if he wanted? Which makes me think he doesn't. If he can feel your body tensing up that can push a guy away. Make him feel like it's not the time to try. So you actually may need to make the move this time. Since you've already kissed if you want more you gotta make that kiss show it. If a guy can't read a kiss that wants some grabass he's hopeless, and you should draw him a map to your vagina to see if he can find it without getting lost. You are weirder in relationships than me. Congratulations. 1 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jackiemarie90 Posted January 19, 2020 Author Share Posted January 19, 2020 12 minutes ago, GreatBallsOfJizz said: If he can feel your body tensing up that can push a guy away. Make him feel like it's not the time to try. So you actually may need to make the move this time. Since you've already kissed if you want more you gotta make that kiss show it. If a guy can't read a kiss that wants some grabass he's hopeless, and you should draw him a map to your vagina to see if he can find it without getting lost. You are weirder in relationships than me. Congratulations. I OVERTHINK EVERYTHING. It's hell on earth!!! XD Like yeah it's good for school but the anxiety is so freaking high. lol I wasn't tense, but I might try to be more forward in the future. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RainyDayJizz#35 Posted January 19, 2020 Share Posted January 19, 2020 Bite his lip a little bit. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
avec Posted January 19, 2020 Share Posted January 19, 2020 Im so glad youre keeping everyone up to date with how things are unfolding. It is a lot to balance what you are investing in with school with wanting a partner. ☀️ 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jackiemarie90 Posted January 19, 2020 Author Share Posted January 19, 2020 23 minutes ago, GreatBallsOfJizz said: Bite his lip a little bit. Maybe, I'm feel like I should talk to him about how he feels about kissing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jackiemarie90 Posted January 19, 2020 Author Share Posted January 19, 2020 21 minutes ago, Quackers said: how did you know he stayed Cause I'm a light sleeper, every time I moved he woke up, and then went back to bed. Plus we were sleeping on a twin size mattress. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jackiemarie90 Posted January 19, 2020 Author Share Posted January 19, 2020 (edited) 36 minutes ago, avec said: Im so glad youre keeping everyone up to date with how things are unfolding. It is a lot to balance what you are investing in with school with wanting a partner. ☀️ Added to the fact that I have little friends in irl that don't like it when I talk about these things and no supportive family. We started talking about the day we got our acceptance letters and who felt proud for us. I told them my family still doesn't know but what I was thinking the whole time, was the the board members here are my family that have been tremendously supportive of me in this venture. I'm honestly lucky I have close ties to this place, cause I feel like you guys are the ones cheering me on the most. ❤️ Edited January 19, 2020 by jackiemarie90 spelling 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vamped Posted January 19, 2020 Share Posted January 19, 2020 1 hour ago, GreatBallsOfJizz said: Don't ask, just show him you want it. Be a little more amorous, be a little bit extra and hopefully he moves in for it. Guys can have a lot of trouble picking up on signals, but you make it sound like you're ready for a bit more. Maybe grab his ass a little when you hug and look at him funny. Like I said, sledgehammer. Some guys need it to make a move. My personal favorite: Lemme get that dick 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jackiemarie90 Posted January 19, 2020 Author Share Posted January 19, 2020 6 minutes ago, Quackers said: But he's wearing camo True, could have sneaked out the window and I was alone like I always am. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lupin_bebop Posted January 19, 2020 Share Posted January 19, 2020 Sigh. *sits down and eats popcorn* 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Doom Metal Alchemist Posted January 19, 2020 Share Posted January 19, 2020 Oy. Jackie, reading your cluelessness just makes me shake my head and wonder, "is this what everyone here feels like when I post about my attempts at a love life?" The dude likes you. The dude wants to kiss you. He's not kissing you because you BLATANTLY wanted to slow things down, and he is respecting that. He doesn't want to ruin things with another moment like when he put his hand down your pants. I don't even know what to do with that "maybe he just wants a warm body" thought of yours. If he didn't like you as a person, he'd either be endlessly trying to score or would've given up hanging out with you entirely. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vamped Posted January 19, 2020 Share Posted January 19, 2020 2 hours ago, Doom Metal Alchemist said: Oy. Jackie, reading your cluelessness just makes me shake my head and wonder, "is this what everyone here feels like when I post about my attempts at a love life?" The dude likes you. The dude wants to kiss you. He's not kissing you because you BLATANTLY wanted to slow things down, and he is respecting that. He doesn't want to ruin things with another moment like when he put his hand down your pants. I don't even know what to do with that "maybe he just wants a warm body" thought of yours. If he didn't like you as a person, he'd either be endlessly trying to score or would've given up hanging out with you entirely. Hey you leave Jackie alone, your thread was way worse By like Alot. 1 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mix Posted January 20, 2020 Share Posted January 20, 2020 11 hours ago, Doom Metal Alchemist said: lmao, you had to know they were gonna come for you Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lupin_bebop Posted January 20, 2020 Share Posted January 20, 2020 2 words: Dick. Pedestal. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mix Posted January 20, 2020 Share Posted January 20, 2020 9 hours ago, Vamped said: Hey you leave Jackie alone, your thread was way worse By like Alot. Hey now, you leave Doom alone.....it took him a long time to put some base in his typing voice.... I like the new confident Doom, oozing with rock band fueled white man confidence.... 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jackiemarie90 Posted January 20, 2020 Author Share Posted January 20, 2020 12 hours ago, Doom Metal Alchemist said: Oy. Jackie, reading your cluelessness just makes me shake my head and wonder, "is this what everyone here feels like when I post about my attempts at a love life?" The dude likes you. The dude wants to kiss you. He's not kissing you because you BLATANTLY wanted to slow things down, and he is respecting that. He doesn't want to ruin things with another moment like when he put his hand down your pants. I don't even know what to do with that "maybe he just wants a warm body" thought of yours. If he didn't like you as a person, he'd either be endlessly trying to score or would've given up hanging out with you entirely. It probably is my fault, I do screw up a lot of things. And I sure as hell can be a confusing person. But I will say, I think you are substituting what you would do in that situation vs someone else. Cause trust me, this guy rarely kisses me, rarely wants to get close or say he wants a relationship. He has used the words twice, "I just like hanging out with you like we are now." I think he likes my company, but not my nerdier aspects or me as dating material. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jackiemarie90 Posted January 20, 2020 Author Share Posted January 20, 2020 11 minutes ago, lupin_bebop said: 2 words: Dick. Pedestal. I like you pushing this narrative, cause it does make me rethink I'm thinking about a person too much. But honestly I'm more worried how we are gonna act as lab partners vs a relationship thing now. lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jackiemarie90 Posted January 20, 2020 Author Share Posted January 20, 2020 9 hours ago, Vamped said: Hey you leave Jackie alone, your thread was way worse By like Alot. I've been granted mercy from a beautiful fae goddess, I thank thee. XD 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lupin_bebop Posted January 20, 2020 Share Posted January 20, 2020 7 minutes ago, jackiemarie90 said: I like you pushing this narrative, cause it does make me rethink I'm thinking about a person too much. But honestly I'm more worried how we are gonna act as lab partners vs a relationship thing now. lol I'm not pushing a narrative. I'm giving you what I think in simplest terms. Yes, thinking about a person too much is just a way to cock it up. Not everyone has to be a relationship waiting to happen. Some people can simply just be a lab partner. Some people can simply be "That guy on the bus". That's how it should be. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vamped Posted January 20, 2020 Share Posted January 20, 2020 43 minutes ago, Mix said: Hey now, you leave Doom alone.....it took him a long time to put some base in his typing voice.... I like the new confident Doom, oozing with rock band fueled white man confidence.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mix Posted January 20, 2020 Share Posted January 20, 2020 49 minutes ago, Vamped said: 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
avec Posted January 20, 2020 Share Posted January 20, 2020 2 hours ago, lupin_bebop said: Some people can simply be "That guy on my strap-on". 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jackiemarie90 Posted January 20, 2020 Author Share Posted January 20, 2020 2 hours ago, lupin_bebop said: I'm not pushing a narrative. I'm giving you what I think in simplest terms. Yes, thinking about a person too much is just a way to cock it up. Not everyone has to be a relationship waiting to happen. Some people can simply just be a lab partner. Some people can simply be "That guy on the bus". That's how it should be. I phrase it like that, because you don't have a complete understanding of what's going on here. I am withholding some information that I don't always think is relevant or fair for me to share. But it's still a viewpoint I value nonetheless. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jackiemarie90 Posted January 20, 2020 Author Share Posted January 20, 2020 2 hours ago, Vamped said: 1 hour ago, Mix said: MOMMY AND DADDY ARE FIGHTING AGAIN @Doom Metal Alchemist 😜 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mix Posted January 20, 2020 Share Posted January 20, 2020 18 minutes ago, jackiemarie90 said: MOMMY AND DADDY ARE FIGHTING AGAIN @Doom Metal Alchemist 😜 no, schnookums.....remember what Daddy told you last time....we're not fighting, Daddy and Mommy are just wrestling enthusiasts....that's what all the leather was about..... 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lupin_bebop Posted January 20, 2020 Share Posted January 20, 2020 1 hour ago, jackiemarie90 said: I phrase it like that, because you don't have a complete understanding of what's going on here. I am withholding some information that I don't always think is relevant or fair for me to share. But it's still a viewpoint I value nonetheless. Being who I am and living my life, I’ve learned differently. I, personally, understand social awkwardness, I lived it for most of my life, and still do. I learned to fake normal pretty well. I also learned not to romanticize things. In my defense, I’m jaded due to my relationships in life. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Doom Metal Alchemist Posted January 20, 2020 Share Posted January 20, 2020 11 hours ago, Mix said: Hey now, you leave Doom alone.....it took him a long time to put some base in his typing voice.... I like the new confident Doom, oozing with rock band fueled white man confidence.... There's a new, confident Doom? Where is he? I could use him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scoobdog Posted January 21, 2020 Share Posted January 21, 2020 On 1/18/2020 at 4:11 PM, jackiemarie90 said: He grabs me all the time, he grabs my leg, arm, and was rubbing my lower back yesterday. Yet, I don't know what to do when he does that. I freeze up, I'm afraid I might misinterpret his signals. But if he is willing to grab me so provocatively, wouldn't that mean that he would go up and kiss me if he wanted? Which makes me think he doesn't. Nah, he's just waiting for you to give him the OK. Yeah, you are definitely awkward, but there is nothing wrong with that or with how you're proceeding. As long as he still wants to hang out and you still want him to come over, then things are fine. The whole "Pass the Vape" thing was kind of a block though. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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