I think I just accidentally curved a guy

[jackiemarie90]

4 hours ago, Vela said:

This...is reminding me so much of this one friend and I when I was in college.  Only it was video games a booz.  I think if you want anything to happen you might have to make the move yourself...maybe...Idk, I'm terrible at this advice thing.  But if you're interested in him you should probably make it clear to him.  I was waiting for my friend to make the move and he never did so I assumed he wasn't that interested, nothing happened...years later we're still friends and I find out from his brother that he was really into me but he didn't know what my situation was and felt it was never the right time to make a move...in other words HE WAS A GODDAMN CHICKEN CAUSE IT PROBABLY WOULD HAVE GONE SOMEWHERE!

Sometimes It be like that

I think it can be different for everyone. I pursued my ex, and looking back, I think that's where I went wrong. I was the one doing the pursuing. Buddy is right, I think for me I would be more interested in someone who was actually showing interest to begin with.  On top of that I wouldn't want someone to be with me because they felt pressured or only because I asked. If he isn't interested it's perfectly fine to me. He is a great friend and a cool person to hang out with. Plus I'm trying to be my real dorky self as possible right now, because I hate the facade of trying to look like a "good catch". After getting out of a long relationship I just don't give a shit about trying to be someone's idea of a good girlfriend anymore. If you like me, you like me, if you don't then that's cool too. lol

 

Edited December 10, 2019 by jackiemarie90

[jackiemarie90]

9 minutes ago, Distortedreasoning said:

but there is a chance...

You should be saying it's all about studying right now. Such a bad influence. That Final is next week.  

[Distortedreasoning]

6 minutes ago, jackiemarie90 said:

You should be saying it's all about studying right now. Such a bad influence. That Final is next week.  

you better be studying!

if you dont ace that test then hoooooo! im gonna explode on you! 😡

[Mix]

29 minutes ago, jackiemarie90 said:

I don't think it works like you think it works brah

What? Teleportation? I understand that the transfer of matter from one point to another without traversing the physical space between them violates Newton's laws, a corner stone of physics, but.....BUT...............I grew up watching Dexter's lab so fuck what wikipedia says

Edited December 10, 2019 by Mix

[Vela]

1 hour ago, Distortedreasoning said:

sometimes we are pretty dense too so it dont help if your even more dense too! 😂

 

[Vela]

1 hour ago, jackiemarie90 said:

Sometimes It be like that

I think it can be different for everyone. I pursued my ex, and looking back, I think that's where I went wrong. I was the one doing the pursuing. Buddy is right, I think for me I would be more interested in someone who was actually showing interest to begin with.  On top of that I wouldn't want someone to be with me because they felt pressured or only because I asked. If he isn't interested it's perfectly fine to me. He is a great friend and a cool person to hang out with. Plus I'm trying to be my real dorky self as possible right now, because I hate the facade of trying to look like a "good catch". After getting out of a long relationship I just don't give a shit about trying to be someone's idea of a good girlfriend anymore. If you like me, you like me, if you don't then that's cool too. lol

 

This.  I like all of this.

[Vamped]

7 hours ago, jackiemarie90 said:

Sometimes It be like that

I think it can be different for everyone. I pursued my ex, and looking back, I think that's where I went wrong. I was the one doing the pursuing. Buddy is right, I think for me I would be more interested in someone who was actually showing interest to begin with.  On top of that I wouldn't want someone to be with me because they felt pressured or only because I asked. If he isn't interested it's perfectly fine to me. He is a great friend and a cool person to hang out with. Plus I'm trying to be my real dorky self as possible right now, because I hate the facade of trying to look like a "good catch". After getting out of a long relationship I just don't give a shit about trying to be someone's idea of a good girlfriend anymore. If you like me, you like me, if you don't then that's cool too. lol

 

Girl .... I think that's just growing up and liking yourself. Nobody has time and energy to try and fit into stereotypes of good girlfriends/wives.

This is who I am, deal with it or dont. 

 

[André Toulon]

2 hours ago, Vamped said:

Girl .... I think that's just growing up and liking yourself. Nobody has time and energy to try and fit into stereotypes of good girlfriends/wives.

This is who I am, deal with it or dont. 

 

I swear all I want is someone who will fold clothes.....I have so many unfolded clothes, and my kids suck at it....I think it's on purpose.

[lupin_bebop]

10 hours ago, jackiemarie90 said:

O I C nao.

Honestly my brain has just been focused on school and I'm clouded everywhere else right now. lol

Yeah.......heard that one before. I'm sure he has before, too.

[Vamped]

47 minutes ago, André Toulon said:

I swear all I want is someone who will fold clothes.....I have so many unfolded clothes, and my kids suck at it....I think it's on purpose.

but laundry is like the easiest thing. 

Except ironing ... I don't iron.... throw that shit back in the dryer or use that wrinkle release spray 

I do however still own an iron and an ironing board. 

[André Toulon]

2 minutes ago, Vamped said:

but laundry is like the easiest thing. 

Except ironing ... I don't iron.... throw that shit back in the dryer or use that wrinkle release spray 

I do however still own an iron and an ironing board. 

I haven't had an ironing board in years....I haven't ironed in years.....I do own an iron.....Not sure how my clothes get ironed.

[Vamped]

2 minutes ago, André Toulon said:

I haven't had an ironing board in years....I haven't ironed in years.....I do own an iron.....Not sure how my clothes get ironed.

I look at upper management in their creased pants and button downs and I'm like ... well they must be real adults. I don't need a crease in my pants 

[scoobdog]

7 hours ago, Vamped said:

but laundry is like the easiest thing. 

Except ironing ... I don't iron.... throw that shit back in the dryer or use that wrinkle release spray 

I do however still own an iron and an ironing board. 

Ironing is a pain in the ass, but only because I'm a perfectionist.

[Vamped]

55 minutes ago, scoobdog said:

Ironing is a pain in the ass, but only because I'm a perfectionist.

>.> Downey wrinkle release

[Gina Szanboti]

Observes the Captain, "What we have here is failure to communicate."  When in doubt, turn to Shel:

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Alright, ye academics, intellectuals and expositors of literature. Here’s one to wrap your brain around. But if you want to ‘get’ it, you’ll have to go back, back, way back.
You’ll have to go back to a place a long time ago, a place where the sidewalk ended and the shoreside began, and turtles spoke in rhyme, and fell in love at first sight…. You’ll have to go back, back, way back, to a time a long time ago, when you read poetry to learn new ideas rather than to affirm those you already believed in.
So if, for a few moments, you can afford to forget about your finals, your bills, the expectations your mom has of you, and the paper you have due later today, then you are eligible to take this journey.
Sit back, and read carefully as Shel Silverstein relates a true story of love, despair, and the real-life consequences of a misapplied imagination.

The Bagpipe Who Didn’t Say No
By: Shel Silverstein

It was nine o'clock at midnight at a quarter after three
When a turtle met a bagpipe on the shoreside by the sea,
And the turtle said, "My dearie,
May I sit with you? I'm weary."
And the bagpipe didn't say no.
Said the turtle to the bagpipe, "I have walked this lonely shore,
I have talked to waves and pebbles--but I've never loved before.
Will you marry me today, dear?
Is it 'No' you're going to say dear?"
But the bagpipe didn't say no.
Said the turtle to his darling, "Please excuse me if I stare,
But you have the plaidest skin, dear,
And you have the strangest hair.
If I begged you pretty please, love,
Could I give you just one squeeze, love?"
And the bagpipe didn't say no.
Said the turtle to the bagpipe, "Ah, you love me. Then confess!
Let me whisper in your dainty ear and hold you to my chest."
And he cuddled her and teased her
And so lovingly he squeezed her.
And the bagpipe said, "Aaooga."
Said the turtle to the bagpipe, "Did you honk or bray or neigh?
For 'Aaooga' when your kissed is such a heartless thing to say.
Is it that I have offended?
Is it that our love is ended?"
And the bagpipe didn't say no.
Said the turtle to the bagpipe, "Shall i leave you, darling wife?
Shall i waddle off to Woedom? Shall i crawl out of your life?
Shall I move, depart and go, dear--
Oh, I beg you tell me 'No' dear!"
But the bagpipe didn't say no.
So the turtle crept off crying and he ne'er came back no more,
And he left the bagpipe lying on that smooth and sandy shore.
And some night when tide is low there,
Just walk up and say, "Hello, there,"
And politely ask the bagpipe if this story's really so.
I assure you, darling children, the bagpipe won't say "No."


Sorry. I never said there would be a happy ending. But perhaps we can all take a lesson from the story and make sure this never happens to us.

How often we misinterpret gesticulations, facial expressions, even silence. And how often our assumptions have more to do with our own preconceived notions than the conveyor’s intent.

Since bagpipes cannot speak, the turtle formulated answers to his questions based on his own whimsical emotions. But had he empathized with the bagpipe, he would have realized that the bagpipe was incapable of turtle-talk. He would not have personalized the bagpipe’s silence and he would not have felt the pain of heartbreak.

When we see beyond ourselves, when we empathize with our peers, it is easier to escape this pitfall.

Obviously, as humans, the simplest way to avoid this trap is through verbal communication. Rather than assume how a person feels, just ask.

You think that girl doesn’t share your feelings for a relationship? Ask her. You think your friend doesn’t need to talk about the death of his grandfather? Ask him.

There is a world inside each and every person, and none of us is so smart that we can possibly know what it going on in every heart.

Communicate. Listen. Empathize.

What? Why are you making that funny face? You didn’t like this? Fine. Whatever. I don’t like you either. Why don’t you just go finish that paper you’re about to hand in late?

-Rachel Weissman