garbagepailcat Posted April 24, 2019 Share Posted April 24, 2019 She wants to get lunch and go shopping, which is sweet and all but also not my bag and feels really forced and also things are still very uncomfortable after the texting thing happened Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ric Posted April 24, 2019 Share Posted April 24, 2019 I have no idea about half of your post but hopefully it won't be as awkward as you're expecting. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Poof Posted April 24, 2019 Share Posted April 24, 2019 whats the txting thing? 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ric Posted April 24, 2019 Share Posted April 24, 2019 24 minutes ago, Poof said: whats the txting thing? That was the half I was referring to but decided not to be nosy. lol (not that I'm judging, OP did bring it up) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Poof Posted April 24, 2019 Share Posted April 24, 2019 4 minutes ago, Ric said: That was the half I was referring to but decided not to be nosy. lol (not that I'm judging, OP did bring it up) No offense taken Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PhilosipherStoned Posted April 24, 2019 Share Posted April 24, 2019 MiL? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GuyBeardmane Posted April 25, 2019 Share Posted April 25, 2019 Got it, mother-in-law. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mewn Posted April 25, 2019 Share Posted April 25, 2019 Pick an expensive restaurant 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DragonSinger Posted April 25, 2019 Share Posted April 25, 2019 7 hours ago, garbagepailcat said: She wants to get lunch and go shopping, which is sweet and all but also not my bag and feels really forced and also things are still very uncomfortable after the texting thing happened Was this a sexual text sent to the wrong person, or am I thinking about another poster/forum? My brain is mush separating conversations across sites right now. What about lunch and maybe some other activity that's more your thing? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scoobdog Posted April 25, 2019 Share Posted April 25, 2019 How does no one else remember the text? At any rate, it's a good thing to go hang out, even if it's feeling forced. I'm sure she's more worried about the awkwardness that exists than the actual text, and doesn't want it to damage your relationship. Besides, what MiL doesn't want her son and DiL to have a healthy relationship and the potential for grand children? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
garbagepailcat Posted April 25, 2019 Author Share Posted April 25, 2019 I absolutely hate everything about this. She’s close with her other daughter in law. They live next door and do stuff together all the time. I feel like she’s trying to do the same thing with me, but I’m not capable of it. I am not a functional human who does functional human stuff. I like my immediate family and the three friends I’ve had for 20 years and that’s it. Nothing more. Sometimes something less. She’s a lovely lady and sweet as can be, but I fucking hate social niceties. I don’t go shopping. I buy shit online so I don’t get overwhelmed by choices. I don’t eat until like 3 or 4 every day, so I’m going to have to force myself to eat. I wish I could just say tell her that I didn’t want to do this, but there’s no polite way to do that. She really cornered me into it. Further complaints: my husband’s cousin (who I’ve never even met) is getting married next month, and we’re expected to drive 6 hours to Mississippi to attend. We weren’t going until like 6 different people in his family asked us to go, so we figured we could make a road trip out of it. See something cool on the way so it wasn’t a waste. Now my in laws want us to ride with them and like ???? No. I don’t even want to go. I certainly don’t want my plans to be determined by or based around someone else’s itinerary. That takes this from “shit trip” to “make the best of it” to “I’m going to be completely uncomfortable for like three days straight.” I hate this. I hate my anxiety. I hate that I married into such a normal family. My completely dysfunctional family would never act this way. This has been a rant. Thank you. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
garbagepailcat Posted April 25, 2019 Author Share Posted April 25, 2019 12 hours ago, SorceressPol said: Was this a sexual text sent to the wrong person Yes. This. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Poof Posted April 25, 2019 Share Posted April 25, 2019 Something must be done to put mil in her place Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
garbagepailcat Posted April 25, 2019 Author Share Posted April 25, 2019 15 minutes ago, Poof said: Something must be done to put mil in her place That’s the thing. She’s not out of place or doing anything with ill will. I’m just a crazy person, and she doesn’t know it yet. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Poof Posted April 25, 2019 Share Posted April 25, 2019 10 minutes ago, garbagepailcat said: That’s the thing. She’s not out of place or doing anything with ill will. I’m just a crazy person, and she doesn’t know it yet. I think it's rude to assume you're normal and fine with everything she's dragging you through Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
garbagepailcat Posted April 25, 2019 Author Share Posted April 25, 2019 Thank you for thinking that. I agree, but I also can see her side of it. She’s 7 minutes late rn, so I’m hoping something came up and we have to reschedule. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Raptorpat Posted April 25, 2019 Share Posted April 25, 2019 If you survive the day with no eye contact, you'll really deserve an award. (The award is not dying from making eye contact.) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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