garbagepailcat Posted June 26, 2019 Share Posted June 26, 2019 My best friend has been dating this one guy on and off for years. She acts like they’re madly in love and planning a marriage, but I think that has a lot to do with jealousy and the fact that I got married before she did. She won’t ever be real with me about their relationship, which suits me just fine, but I know they’re always on the rocks. Anyway, she’s fucking her boss. I asked if she had any plans to tell her boyfriend and break up with him, and her response was that she was waiting to see if the thing with her boss went anywhere. Meaning that if it doesn't, she’s just going to continue pretending to live a perfect life with this other, completely oblivious dude. I feel so bad for him, and if I were in his position, I’d want someone to tell me. So I’m torn for multiple reasons. She is my friend, and I’ve never really liked the boyfriend. Still, it has really been sitting heavy on my conscience that he is being cheated on while he works out of town and sends her money. Tldr: would you tell someone if their significant other was cheating or would you mind your business? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
🍬Candy🍬 Posted June 26, 2019 Share Posted June 26, 2019 Ive been the one hes been cheating with since before he even started dating her and i haven't told her because i know itd come back to me. So do it if her friendship doesnt mean much because most likely shell know you outed her. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cyberbully Posted June 26, 2019 Share Posted June 26, 2019 12 minutes ago, garbagepailcat said: Tldr: would you tell someone if their significant other was cheating or would you mind your business? This is easy 2 1 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
garbagepailcat Posted June 26, 2019 Author Share Posted June 26, 2019 Ugh. I know. It’s just so gross. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Poof Posted June 26, 2019 Share Posted June 26, 2019 47 minutes ago, garbagepailcat said: sends her money. Maybe she can buy you something for being such a good friend that would never tell on her darkest secrets. 1 1 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mix Posted June 26, 2019 Share Posted June 26, 2019 Bros before hoes sistas before misters Frankly, this is not that bad as far as dysfunctional friends go.....it could be worse.....but hey, that's what friends are for....you keep her secrets and she keeps yours....that doesn't mean you can't flame her at every opportunity....there's tons of fun to be had with this 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
garbagepailcat Posted June 26, 2019 Author Share Posted June 26, 2019 Minding my own business is best. I’ll just wait for the inevitable implosion. I do feel bad for the ol boy. I feel bad for her too, really. It has to be shitty to be so shitty. It’d be one thing if she was just playing the game, but she’s trying to fool herself into happiness which is sad to watch. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cau Posted June 26, 2019 Share Posted June 26, 2019 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tsar4 Posted June 26, 2019 Share Posted June 26, 2019 In a situation like this, "Not your circus, not your monkeys". Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cyberbully Posted June 26, 2019 Share Posted June 26, 2019 26 minutes ago, garbagepailcat said: Minding my own business is best. I’ll just wait for the inevitable implosion. I do feel bad for the ol boy. I feel bad for her too, really. It has to be shitty to be so shitty. It’d be one thing if she was just playing the game, but she’s trying to fool herself into happiness which is sad to watch. I'm not even sure why you feel bad for the dude....Unless he's green af....I mean like Ghostrek green, he probably knows and is.... Banging some gross chick to get back at her. Silently lamenting his situation and hoping no one else notices so you would only exacrebate his depression Or angrily waiting to buy a .45 and 3 bullets next payday. None of these things needs your proverbial "prints" on them. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Juice McKenzie Posted June 26, 2019 Share Posted June 26, 2019 Let it be. The truth will eventually come out. There's no need for you to get involved in that shit. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mix Posted June 26, 2019 Share Posted June 26, 2019 27 minutes ago, garbagepailcat said: Minding my own business is best. I’ll just wait for the inevitable implosion. I do feel bad for the ol boy. I feel bad for her too, really. It has to be shitty to be so shitty. It’d be one thing if she was just playing the game, but she’s trying to fool herself into happiness which is sad to watch. Is she really shitty though? In my experience this normal behavior..... In fact, with the situation you described, i'd be surprised if something like this was't happening....my man is probably getting his too, traveling all over the place >.> Genuine happiness is hard to come by so people manufacture their own....so what if it's not as good as the real shit....it'll get you through the day and with the right combination of drugs and booze, maybe longer 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
🍬Candy🍬 Posted June 26, 2019 Share Posted June 26, 2019 7 minutes ago, Mix said: so people manufacture their own....so what if it's not as good as the real shit....it'll get you through the day and with the right combination of drugs and booze, maybe longer Well shit by this logic why did i stop talking to MH? He made me insanely happy LOL (Oh yeah the crushing guilty and knowledge that hed never be mine) Nevermind! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Skiles Posted June 26, 2019 Share Posted June 26, 2019 It seems the person you're closest to in this is the lady. So your responsibility as her close friend is to let her know, "Hey, what you're doing is super not cool, but I'm not gonna say shit." It's important to keep your friends' secrets, but it's also really important to let your friends know when they're being a piece of shit, which is what your friend is doing right now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vamped Posted June 26, 2019 Share Posted June 26, 2019 I wouldn't get involved .... unless I wanted to be petty and break off a friendship I was getting tired of XD Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DragonSinger Posted June 26, 2019 Share Posted June 26, 2019 For the most part I suggest minding your business other than bringing up the fact that cheating is creating a motive for someone to kill yo ass. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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