KimopoBotar

That's really just one of the most basic requirements for any kind of sex at all.

You literally, in this post, mentioned the societal morality of the time. See my post above this one about why that morality fosters a mindset ripe for rape. I never said the song itself was written about rape. I said it resembles rape. That's not nothing. It's clear and obvious and no amount of context makes it not resemble rape. However, I've explained several times why it doesn't matter if the context makes it clear that it wasn't written about rape. It describes a gender dynamic that has, in real life, countless times, caused rape. Is that not important at all?

I do see the flaw in what I said, however, as you address, the cultural norms that enforce male dominance in courtship are kinda doing just what i said. The mores of the day that made women fear repercussions and enforced male dominance does lead to a dynamic that is only a few short steps from rape. A song that describes this dynamic in a way that is light and comedic reinforces it for those that listen. The other problem is that a lot of guys don't seem to understand the basic precepts of consent. So reinforcing a dynamic in which women are inferior, and where men are expected to be aggressive and assume that women are subject to repercussions for permissive behavior and so have to be persistent and expect false negative answers obviously fosters an environment in which rape is a real possibility. It's pretty clear.

I hope he learned. My step son is very respectful, so I'm not worried about him even pressuring a girl, but i still try to make sure he knows what consent is and why it's important. I'm not how i grew up knowing that consent was important but i remember as a teen knowing that rape was one of the worst things a person can do. I didn't ever think a whole a lot of the way men pursue women as contributing to it until later though. I just realized at some point that the aggressive, manipulative ways guys try to get sex are often rape.

I saw @Mini_Ghost do this and had FFA at like 29 minutes and horror at 43. I should have grabbed a screen shot.

Who cares? People demand things all the time. Usually they get ignored. Sometimes people recognize the issues behind certain cultural touchstones that should not be such, and we move forward by no longer glorifying things that should not glorified. It's not a big deal. I know it's scary because things change and culture you recognized fades, but that happens with or without progress. Inevitably all the things you believe or care about will be forgotten and left to the domain of historians. That's just what cultures do over time. I don't know why it's so hard for so many to accept. And- You don't see the problems caused by a variety of mentalities held by folks in the past, because you never had to deal with the consequences from those mentalities. I guess i just thought you were less self centered than that.

Go have a talk with him. Man to man, let him know she's your gal and he needs you back off. Seems pretty simple alpha stuff, bro.

"Wanna fuck real quick?" Being in a relationship is great.

Do men not hate getting socks? Is there some kind of gender role where socks are extra masculine? I guess i do like my socks. Idk.

You're better than this.

Joel Osteen is the worst kind of person.

Yeah. If I'm struggling that's exactly what I fall back on.

At this point, the key is remembering how hard it was the first week every time you get a craving and asking yourself if you want to do that again. That's pretty much how i quit. It was surprisingly easy for me. It was actually harder later on when random cravings hit me. I've only slipped a few times and each time they made me feel shitty so i didn't even finish a whole cig. My key was just not thinking about it if i could help it. I don't keep track of how long it's been since my last one or anything else because that just puts it in my head more. Good luck.

It's a wonderful life is better. But we all know the best Christmas movie is Die Hard.

I mean, I don't. I don't cheat, anyways, and i know i could get away with it if i did. I just know it's not right. So, find a guy like that? The most important thing you should want from a guy is respect. Or, if you don't mind a guy being with other women, and want to have the same freedom, just make that official. Look for guys who are ok with open relationships or polyamory. Set some ground rules and you're golden.

Montana has a town?

I just broke 700. I'm pretty stoked about it. Though who knows how long that'll last. Just dropped 800 in credit on something for the step son's college future. Hopefully I can pay that off asap. At least when he's successful, he'll be obligated to help me out.

Happy birthday!

Get him one of those clap-on lights as a gift.

I like the bottom one more, but the top one makes a better icon. Icons are pretty small, so brighter colors bring out the finer details better. I think. That's my amateurs opinion.

For the love of god not with kids

Well yeah. The ones who know what's good for em don't go to the guillotine. We're not monsters now.

I'm hoping it's Instagram/Facebook that goes down next. The insidious, late stage capitalism type of manipulation that goes on on those platforms is unacceptable.

Probably 6th grade. I was pretty good at knowing when it was and wasn't ok to curse so i never got in trouble.

Why are you like this?