From confrontation views, I see this as, people don't like to be attack that they are doing something wrong, and will make a ton of excuses to defend themselves, instead of attempting to empathetic. Idk, most of the time I would just want a sincere apology from people. But then that incriminates them and they don't want that. I'm not really a vengeful person either, not in action, I wouldn't mind be friends with someone, if they just apologize. But when they put up their defenses, I just leave and move on. Gonna go to SF tomorrow to get more cannabis tho so there's that.