I only skimmed this thread and have no real experience with dating but I’m gonna add my two cents from advice I’ve received from friends. Maybe just ask her if she wants to hit up a local bar more or less platonically. And by bar I don’t mean a sports bar. Just a chill place to grab a pint and eat some nice food. My friends say this is a good plan for me (who is absolutely clueless) so probably a good plan for you.