scoobdog

JFC, man. I’m the worst villain ever.

Because it’s not communicating your intent. Art is a language, no different than English or Japanese. Even if it’s just a landscape, you’re communicating your impression of a specific time and place.

But it’s not insensitive. You’re conflating the tool with the art. I’ve said it before: AI doesn’t create art, it’s one tool used to express oneself. If you show an AI generated image without both publishing all of your original prompts and properly crediting the sources the AI uses to generate the product, that image isn’t art. Disability or not, the rules for creating art are always the same; you’re expressing your feelings through the piece, so it stands to reason that you need to distinguish between your own thoughts and the tool expressing them.

Slow your role, my dude. You’re wildly misrepresenting what I said: I did not explicitly or implicitly direct my argument to AI uses for accessibility. Like you said, there’s nuance to my argument that wasn’t appropriate for that thread, so…

I pissed someone off with something I said? Imagine that.

I think David Spade's whole point is to make you want him to punch his face; it's part of his schtick. By contrast, Andy Dick would have a punchable face no matter what it would look like because the dude is legit hated that much. I've never seen a dude's face change so much as when someone brought up Andy DIck and Jon Lovitz had this sudden murderous look in his eyes.

It is logical within the specific statement. Rationalization is a process derived by logic, but it doesn't mean the logic is sound beyond its specified parameters.

We probably shouldn't be. Hunting isn't better when done by women. it just isn't exclusively toxic masculinity.

Deer meat being leaner doesn't particularly serve a purpose because the cholesterol in venison is on part with that beef. Cholesterol intake is the primary health impact on the consumer and the reason why red meat of any type is restricted. On the other hand, you're also not likely to eat remotely as much venison as beef on account of it not being farmed and not suitable for most fast food. If we ate beef on roughly the same scale as we might eat venison, it would be more sustainable than venison because it can be farmed and processed on an industrial scale.

The reason there's an overpopulation of deer is because there are too few apex predators, typically bears, cougars or wolves, in the region. Deer overpopulation can't really be "better" than sustainably farmed meat, so comparing it to beef, poultry or pork is misleading at best and, more likely, unfavorable unless you're so far off the grid, deer skin pants is the height of luxury.

Well, you're a more put together individual than most anyone else - male or female. Learning stuff from the TV is usually the domain of someone who has a natural ability to learn and adapt. It kind of goes without saying that you're the prototypical man for the modern era.

I’m talking in the context of you having difficulty ignoring people.

It isn't. Ghosty - if you're not open to what people are saying, just ignore it. It does no good to complain about it anyway, so don't even listen to it.

I didn't say you said.... Nevermind. Yes, that is correct.

You'll have to go back to my OP.... Men learn how to be "manly" from their dads and part of that is learning the coping skills that come with dealing with everyday situations. By no means does this say all men born before the mid '80s were incapable of learning how to be sensitive and emotionally competent; Buddy is a perfect example of how men can be without any special training. Those men didn't learn that from their fathers, they likely learned that from their mothers. They also didn't require male role models becuause emotionally competent role model males would be difficult to find regardless of race, social or economic status. It's all well and good for a man to learn how to be a man from his mom. I basically did, and that's not a knock on my dad or a suggestion he was bad at fathering. I also learned a lot about coping mechanisms on my own, and that means a lot of introspection on why other males have absurd beliefs about women and their roles. Taking away the toxic social noms that lead to misogyny is only half of the process: men need to learn how to be girl parents or men have to learn how to support a spouse when she comes home from work. I learned how to be a supportive SO by asking a shit load of questions of my gf, and I'm not sure I'm any good at it. Therapy may be the best way to learn how to do those things. How practical is it to mandate every single man undergo therapy?

That isn't my point. It's not a one time thing: you don't learn coping skills in a years' worth of sessions, you learn them over the course of roughly two decades. You also don't start learning them as an adolescent, you start learning them as a toddler.

It's bit hard to elaborate here because, by all objective measures, you're using anger correctly. There are males (like a certain southern gentleman we know) who would express anger towards women and somehow connect that anger to the fact that Bernie didn't win. Absurdity of the example aside, the man in this example is theoretically acknowledging that the anger is misplaced (probably as its own defense mechanism) and identifying a legitimate cause for anger. What's missing is the last part... how to go about resolving that anger. Everyone should utilize therapy, but that's not exactly a solution. You can't go to therapy every time you're angry. To put it another way, when you get angry at someone, especially it they've earned that anger, you have to do more than just resolve the anger. Once the anger is alleviated, you then have to set up conditions for regaining trust in that same offender, to either ensure that said person doesn't make you angry again or to protect yourself in the inevitable event they reoffend. Assuming the latter, now you have to change your behavior to accommodate the new rules for interacting with that individual. The problem is that all of these steps should be automatic - you're not supposed to think about how you're going to treat your best friend after he or she hurts your feelings, you just know what happens next and you move forward. When it's not automatic, you go to a therapist to help you through the process. Now, if you were raised to suppress that anger, none of those automatic steps exist. If lil Scoob's mom tell him to shake hands and make up with his little brother, all those steps are presumed, and, if lil Scoob has a high enough EQ, he's likely watched other people, including women, deal with anger and figured out for himself how to create those steps on his own. If lil Scoob deosn't have that natural ability, he's going to need someone to walk him through that process. A therapist could certainly do all that, but no therapist is going to want to live with little Scoob long enough to walk him through a coping process ever time his little brother tells him he's an idiot.

You do know, Ghosty. You’re allowing your deep seated animus to those you consider antagonistic to overrule logic.

I don’t want to interject too much here since you and Buddy are really advancing this discussion, but shouldn’t there be a third option? The. “Told/conditioned” option is broad enough to catch most social pressures, and at the same time it doesn’t capture the training aspect. Just because I (a man) know my anger derives from something unrelated and that processing my memories can give me several likely options for a program trigger, doesn’t mean I know how to deprogram the anger response. Social toxicity can’t account for that.

He was spamming the meme thread a couple of days ago.

It really isn’t. Being a man means hearing things you don’t like and don’t agree with and accepting that you need to deal with people you don’t like and don’t agree with. I’m not piling on here, just changing your frame of reference. Personal responsibility means taking care of your own business, and it means only worrying about the things people say that affect you or the people you care about directly. Why is it hard to listen to something that won’t affect you?

Disco already kind of laid it out for you. You aren’t defined by other people, so it doesn’t matter if someone thinks you’re an idiot. In fact, Ghosty, you can be a man without anyone else acknowledging. Do you wash your own laundry? Do you shower? Can you cook your own meals? Self sufficiency is almost universally a sign of masculinity… and femininity. But, can you also listen to others?

Ghosty is locked in a feed back loop, it seems. Exactly. The worst thing about the patriarchy after all the women it oppresses is all the man children it enables. The dark side to any discussion about masculinity is the realization that the term as we previously knew it was a cover for male failures, and that complicates things. Masculinity isn’t being redefined as much as obliterated and replaced. We’re not just defining males as they should be in a post feminist world, but males as they should have been all along.

And, that’s the subtext to this discussion. To be blunt, not all men have sufficient EQ to read their partner’s needs on their own and that leads to an unbalanced relationship where the man has to be told what he needs to do. That’s not an excuse for men being stupid, just a statement on the current reality: it’s exactly as frustrating and destructive as it sounds. Ostensibly, the goal of redefining masculinity is to set a standard that male role models can pass on to boys. It would include teaching boys to not only explore their emotions but also deal with those emotions in a constructive way. One thing it shouldn’t have to include, but is sorely lacking in your example is the concept of personal responsibility. I’ve found that a lot of people are allergic to responsibility. I’m sure it’s something you deal with on an hourly basis: people that will immediately blame someone else when there’s a failure. As such, the rules for manhood may serve another purpose: to expect men to handle situations without having to be told. A lot of times I get resentful at work because I’m taking on tasks that others are responsible for. I can check myself because, in all honesty, no one really does it by themselves, so for ever job I take on above my duties, someone else is doing what’s necessary to turn my efforts into a complete project. Nonetheless, it’s frustrating that people are quick to blame others rather than swallow their pride and focus on fixing the problem instead of defending themselves. The thing is, if a guy at work can’t own up to making a mistake and offering a solution, what happens at home?

That would suggest you might rely too much on others to give you purpose. Your humanity can’t be taken away from you, but you can give it up. The OP that instigated this thread is the female author’s exploration into the appeal of masculinity gurus and right wing influencers. To sum it up, she’s positing that modern males lack a support network that these gurus provide, to the detriment of everyone. Some men need to be told how to interact with others…