First off, I don't give white people a jump-off point to use the word, and any black person who refers to you as such is doing it of their own free will. Does not excuse the weaponized factors of it.
Look, if I use f****t, I don't spend several posts trying to defend it's use and wonder why someone is upset I said it. In fact when Sorce asked me a week or so ago why I would say it, I replied "because I'm an asshole"......I'm fully aware of why people say I shouldn't use it, and if I use it I don't question the backlash I get.....I used a derogatory term, and wether or not I used it in a different context, I know there are gay people that saw me say it. If you throw a rock, don't be a pussy and hide your hands.
White people are so privileged and entitled, it hurts their little feefees to the core. "why cant I say it, he said it, he even said it to me, I was just singing a song, why are you taking my teeth out of my head".......It's that unbridled ignorance that makes it so white people can NEVER use the word because they don't understand for 1 iota of a second why it's wrong. If you want to use it, at least admit to being juuuuuuuuust racist enough that you need to be able to use a racist term because you just need some small excuse to get away with it unchecked.