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I've had an account for 4 years now.

 

I've went on I think a little over 30 "Dates"

 

20 of them lead to sex either that night or eventually after a few "dates".

 

4 of them lead to relationships, the longest lasting 6 months.

 

What I've learned speaking strictly from a male heterosexual point of view:

 

You got a few types of women. Those that really really really fucking want a relationship and some guy to spend money on them. They have almost no interest in sex until you buy them something. The other type is the women that want you to buy them things and will do whatever they can for you to spoil them which means waking you up with a beej the first night you sleep or they sleep over. Finally you got your most common type, the batshit crazy bitch They just want to fuck, smoke your weed, talk about aliens and bernie sanders being their hero. They put out, they buy you food and let you give them anal. They'll watch whatever show you wanna start binging with them and even watch sports with you. However be prepared because one day they're gonna start  crying and blaming you for the stain that wont come out of their jeans and then disappear from your life.

There is a fabled 4th type though. I call it the "too good to be true". They have all the qualities of the one above besides the eventual bat shit crazy part. They're myth and don't exist. This is the one I dated for 6 months but she wound up going to another country to finish college and I suggested we just break it off.

 

 

 

 

 

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I've had an account for 4 years now.

 

I've went on I think a little over 30 "Dates"

 

20 of them lead to sex either that night or eventually after a few "dates".

 

4 of them lead to relationships, the longest lasting 6 months.

 

What I've learned speaking strictly from a male heterosexual point of view:

 

You got a few types of women. Those that really really really fucking want a relationship and some guy to spend money on them. They have almost no interest in sex until you buy them something. The other type is the women that want you to buy them things and will do whatever they can for you to spoil them which means waking you up with a beej the first night you sleep or they sleep over. Finally you got your most common type, the batshit crazy bitch They just want to fuck, smoke your weed, talk about aliens and bernie sanders being their hero. They put out, they buy you food and let you give them anal. They'll watch whatever show you wanna start binging with them and even watch sports with you. However be prepared because one day they're gonna start  crying and blaming you for the stain that wont come out of their jeans and then disappear from your life.

There is a fabled 4th type though. I call it the "too good to be true". They have all the qualities of the one above besides the eventual bat shit crazy part. They're myth and don't exist. This is the one I dated for 6 months but she wound up going to another country to finish college and I suggested we just break it off.

 

but if she is that type of person, then women like that are not non existent myths.

 

anywho, is this a measure of the types of women you find using okcupid or in a general sense?

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but if she is that type of person, then women like that are not non existent myths.

 

anywho, is this a measure of the types of women you find using okcupid or in a general sense?

 

its gotta be just okc, right?

 

thats what i'm guessing

 

i mean ive gotten so used to people hitting me up on there to chill/smoke/fuck that im detached from the 'go to a party and find a hookup n maybe date after' scene.

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There is a fabled 4th type though. I call it the "too good to be true". They have all the qualities of the one above besides the eventual bat shit crazy part. They're myth and don't exist. This is the one I dated for 6 months but she wound up going to another country to finish college and I suggested we just break it off.

So, the woman you dated for 6 months doesn't exist?

 

Not shocking, imo. Presumably, she has that quality in common with all the women mentioned in the OP.

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So, the woman you dated for 6 months doesn't exist?

 

Not shocking, imo. Presumably, she has that quality in common with all the women mentioned in the OP.

She doesn't exist in america now  :D

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its gotta be just okc, right?

 

thats what i'm guessing

 

i mean ive gotten so used to people hitting me up on there to chill/smoke/fuck that im detached from the 'go to a party and find a hookup n maybe date after' scene.

 

must be, cuz none of that at all sounds right to me. likewise, i've heard plenty from women about men on dating webites and apps too that don't seem to fit my experience with men. possibly this is because its a smaller population of people.

 

i don't hookup with people i've just met, so idk anything about that scene >.>

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must be cuz none of that all sounds all that right to me. likewise, i've heard plenty from women about men on dating webites and apps too that don't seem to fit my experience with men. possibly this is because its a smaller population of people.

 

i don't hookup with people i've just met, so idk anything about that scene >.>

It's a crazy scene and I'm mildly bored of it.

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So, the woman you dated for 6 months doesn't exist?

 

Not shocking, imo. Presumably, she has that quality in common with all the women mentioned in the OP.

 

also please keep post of this nature delegated to babbling and dumpster fires.

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its really no wonder. i think people tend to need a little more challenge and stimulation than that.

 

i was a fat socially awkward mess in gradeschool and highschool so the last 4-5 years of basically aimlessly banging made up for lost time. was enjoying what i was doing but now im bored.

hooking up with this random girl at the nyears party i went to made me have this revelation.

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I said it before. I'm like ambassador to FFA/UEIB troll in here and risk being hit by the edit train till you get bored of being a bore.

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Yeah I've asked about this to no response already, but so do i.

 

Pretty sure a plugin would be required for something like that.

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being a "helper" never stopped me from being terrible at trolling

 

He got hit by the edit train anyway.

I'm not gonna let people be dicks in FFA lol.

Take that shit to babbling or suffer  >:D

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i was a fat socially awkward mess in gradeschool and highschool so the last 4-5 years of basically aimlessly banging made up for lost time. was enjoying what i was doing but now im bored.

hooking up with this random girl at the nyears party i went to made me have this revelation.

 

sorry, this is gon be tl;dr, read it or no....

 

i've never been much different than i am now. i've gone through periods where i was a little more chubby landing me in the 120-125 weight range but thats still sort of healthy for me and certainly not fat per se. so i can't really empathize much there but i've always been pretty socially awkward. its only been the last few years that i'm learning how to not be or just swallow the anxiety of it all. sometimes its harder than others. because of such, i think i spend more time analyzing others behaviors or getting to know them better, which likely is why i don't do the hookup thing even if i think i might be into someone at the get go.

 

its also probably different in that, despite not being hit on regularly irl, i do know that it would not be a difficult feat for me to meet someone and get laid. in my sexual life experiences, i have realized that a little bit of cat and mouse can make for a better one. like, if there is a guy i have interest in whom i believe could get laid easily if he so desired, it means very little and is far less pleasurable to just give it up like everybody else. if he is interested enough he will recognize the challenge and engage in the chase. if it pans out, there seems to be more passion and intensity. even if an actual "relationship" isn't the desired effect, its still more stimulating mentally and physically.

 

its not always right to say this, but in regards to your original post about the first three, you should generally be wary of women who make themselves too available to your whims if at some point you aren't looking for just fucking. exclusive relationship or no. its typically a sign that they have little outside ambition or sense of self. these types usually display one or more of these characteristics: shallow, clingy, lack self confidence, or jealousy. they plan around what you have going on and will rely on you for just about everything emotionally, physically, financially, and entertainment wise. they aren't usually comfortable with you being out having fun without them and they aren't comfortable being out having fun without you. for as much as they choose to bend to your will exclusively, even without your asking of it, they EXPECT you to do the same. this is not the same as some amount of necessary compromise. without personal ambition they fill the void with physical luxuries, which is where you get a lot of the gold digger biz from. this is a bottomless hole though and no amount is enough to satisfy what is lacking from their personal growth. they agree with you, take on your opinions and likes instead of having their own. this does nothing for mental stimulation or provocation and becomes boring af. i could be wrong, but you don't seem the type to want that either. you may really like a good lay but i think you are also the type who likes to ponder, analyze, theorize on the nature of life or the mysteries of it. there is little of that sort of stimulation to be had with most women who display such behaviors as you have mentioned.

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  It boils down to maturity; there comes a time in everyone's life when casual sex loses its allure and you want to be with someone who wants to be with you.

If you hit that point in your life, congratulations you are no longer a juvenile.  :P

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  It boils down to maturity; there comes a time in everyone's life when casual sex loses its allure and you want to be with someone who wants to be with you.

If you hit that point in your life, congratulations you are no longer a juvenile.  :P

 

I still don't mind it but I just rather would deal with the same person all the time now tbh.

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sorry, this is gon be tl;dr, read it or no....

 

i've never been much different than i am now. i've gone through periods where i was a little more chubby landing me in the 120-125 weight range but thats still sort of healthy for me and certainly not fat per se. so i can't really empathize much there but i've always been pretty socially awkward. its only been the last few years that i'm learning how to not be or just swallow the anxiety of it all. sometimes its harder than others. because of such, i think i spend more time analyzing others behaviors or getting to know them better, which likely is why i don't do the hookup thing even if i think i might be into someone at the get go.

 

its also probably different in that, despite not being hit on regularly irl, i do know that it would not be a difficult feat for me to meet someone and get laid. in my sexual life experiences, i have realized that a little bit of cat and mouse can make for a better one. like, if there is a guy i have interest in whom i believe could get laid easily if he so desired, it means very little and is far less pleasurable to just give it up like everybody else. if he is interested enough he will recognize the challenge and engage in the chase. if it pans out, there seems to be more passion and intensity. even if an actual "relationship" isn't the desired effect, its still more stimulating mentally and physically.

 

its not always right to say this, but in regards to your original post about the first three, you should generally be wary of women who make themselves too available to your whims if at some point you aren't looking for just fucking. exclusive relationship or no. its typically a sign that they have little outside ambition or sense of self. these types usually display one or more of these characteristics: shallow, clingy, lack self confidence, or jealousy. they plan around what you have going on and will rely on you for just about everything emotionally, physically, financially, and entertainment wise. they aren't usually comfortable with you being out having fun without them and they aren't comfortable being out having fun without you. for as much as they choose to bend to your will exclusively, even without your asking of it, they EXPECT you to do the same. this is not the same as some amount of necessary compromise. without personal ambition they fill the void with physical luxuries, which is where you get a lot of the gold digger biz from. this is a bottomless hole though and no amount is enough to satisfy what is lacking from their personal growth. they agree with you, take on your opinions and likes instead of having their own. this does nothing for mental stimulation or provocation and becomes boring af. i could be wrong, but you don't seem the type to want that either. you may really like a good lay but i think you are also the type who likes to ponder, analyze, theorize on the nature of life or the mysteries of it. there is little of that sort of stimulation to be had with most women who display such behaviors as you have mentioned.

 

 

You're completely right regarding that last paragraph. That was basically the tl;dr conclusion that I came to as well about this whole situation.

As for yours.. I find it hard to believe you don't get hit on IRL that often. Are you sure someone didn't accidentally put an invisibility cloak over you?

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I still don't mind it but I just rather would deal with the same person all the time now tbh.

 

Lemme guess, you are looking towards having a fulfilling career that challenges you in a field you like, instead of a job.

You are looking towards having a condo/house instead of just "an apartment".

You are thinking about saving for retirement with a tax deferred Roth IRA in a moderate risk growth sector such as an emerging markets ETF.

You no longer file a 1040EZ

 

If two or more of these apply, maturity....  :D

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Lemme guess, you are looking towards having a fulfilling career that challenges you in a field you like, instead of a job.

You are looking towards having a condo/house instead of just "an apartment".

You are thinking about saving for retirement with a tax deferred Roth IRA in a moderate risk growth sector such as an emerging markets ETF.

You no longer file a 1040EZ

 

If two or more of these apply, maturity....  :D

 

Just two  :D

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Lemme guess, you are looking towards having a fulfilling career that challenges you in a field you like, instead of a job.

You are looking towards having a condo/house instead of just "an apartment".

You are thinking about saving for retirement with a tax deferred Roth IRA in a moderate risk growth sector such as an emerging markets ETF.

You no longer file a 1040EZ

 

If two or more of these apply, maturity....  :D

You don't deserve to sport that avatar of a possum holding a liquor bottle

 

*shakes head in disgust*

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Lemme guess, you are looking towards having a fulfilling career that challenges you in a field you like, instead of a job.

You are looking towards having a condo/house instead of just "an apartment".

You are thinking about saving for retirement with a tax deferred Roth IRA in a moderate risk growth sector such as an emerging markets ETF.

You no longer file a 1040EZ

 

If two or more of these apply, maturity....  :D

....fuck. I'M STILL NOT MATURE....even though these all apply to me

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You're completely right regarding that last paragraph. That was basically the tl;dr conclusion that I came to as well about this whole situation.

As for yours.. I find it hard to believe you don't get hit on IRL that often. Are you sure someone didn't accidentally put an invisibility cloak over you?

 

well that all goes back to the kind of person i am. or at least i think it does. men are far less likely to approach a woman, no matter how attractive they may find her, if they get the impression that they may take more work. i don't mean to sound terribly difficult. i am friendly and always welcome to others to get to know, equally as such, i want to get to know others. its just that i think that i probably do come across as someone that is likely to be a little more of the type of person you actually have to "get to know" before it can go anywhere physically. i doubt they look at me and think that if they just ht on me, that i'll be impressed... and they are honestly right. for me its okay to give compliments or flatter, after all, bitches wanna feel like sexy beasts too, but its rather obvious if the intent is purely shallow. i know it and maybe they know that i do. thats a theory anyway. i also have a great number of girlfriends whom are equally or far more attractive than i. so ya know, pick of the litter and such >.> i know that sounds ridiculous, but i certainly believe that can be part of it. lol.   

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well that all goes back to the kind of person i am. or at least i think it does. men are far less likely to approach a woman, no matter how attractive they may find her, if they get the impression that they may take more work. i don't mean to sound terribly difficult. i am friendly and always welcome to others to get to know, equally as such, i want to get to know others. its just that i think that i probably do come across as someone that is likely to be a little more of the type of person you actually have to "get to know" before it can go anywhere physically. i doubt they look at me and think that if they just ht on me, that i'll be impressed... and they are honestly right. for me its okay to give compliments or flatter, after all, bitches wanna feel like sexy beasts too, but its rather obvious if the intent is purely shallow. i know it and maybe they know that i do. thats a theory anyway. i also have a great number of girlfriends whom are equally or far more attractive than i. so ya know, pick of the litter and such >.> i know that sounds ridiculous, but i certainly believe that can be part of it. lol. 

 

Yea I'm at the stage where if I see a drop dead gorgeous woman I wanna take her to habachi and rub her feet for her before she sleeps.  :D

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....fuck. I'M STILL NOT MATURE....even though these all apply to me

 

Don't confuse maturity with being a jackass.  :P

 

 

Also, this is an excellent example of where a quote tree would be useful, as the original post contains contextually pertinent information.

 

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Don't confuse maturity with being a jackass.  :P

 

 

Also, this is an excellent example of where a quote tree would be useful, as the original post contains contextually pertinent information.

I'll see what I can dig up brb.

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I could install and get multi quote to work, but I do not have access to some of the forum software files to let me do such a modification.

I'm titled. Admin[/member], maybe something to consider since K_N is never here.

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well that all goes back to the kind of person i am. or at least i think it does. men are far less likely to approach a woman, no matter how attractive they may find her, if they get the impression that they may take more work. i don't mean to sound terribly difficult. i am friendly and always welcome to others to get to know, equally as such, i want to get to know others. its just that i think that i probably do come across as someone that is likely to be a little more of the type of person you actually have to "get to know" before it can go anywhere physically. i doubt they look at me and think that if they just ht on me, that i'll be impressed... and they are honestly right. for me its okay to give compliments or flatter, after all, bitches wanna feel like sexy beasts too, but its rather obvious if the intent is purely shallow. i know it and maybe they know that i do. thats a theory anyway. i also have a great number of girlfriends whom are equally or far more attractive than i. so ya know, pick of the litter and such >.> i know that sounds ridiculous, but i certainly believe that can be part of it. lol. 

 

I don't even know how one would spot someone that would take a lot of work without actually talking to them first.  S:

 

A year or so ago I would sometimes see a really hot girl hanging outside of one of our school buildings, and I decided I didn't want to approach her because she was wearing what looked to me like a flashy watch. If a woman that age (probably early - mid 20s) in this day and age is wearing a flashy watch, with otherwise nice looking clothes, that makes me assume that either she has a lot of money or is materialistic and won't be impressed by my broke-ass self, so why bother? But that's pretty much the only time I've ever had that feeling, aside from when I had low self esteem as a teenager and assumed any girl would automatically reject me.

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