jackiemarie90 Posted July 18, 2020 Share Posted July 18, 2020 I have a couple theories why this is happening, but that fact that it is happening makes me really think lately. Just cause I don't really have a problem with sex, it doesn't necessarily phase me when I see it on tv. I'm more conscious of how other people around me will act around sex scenes than myself. And I've had it several times before in the past. But these days, I just kinda get scared when people start talking about it, or uncomfortable. I thought college would be this place to let loose but finding that I don't want to be a part of that culture. I think one of the first major players is just that depression can really kill your sex drive, and I almost never look at porn, again, I don't have anything against it, it's just something that I rarely do. Like maybe I look at porn 1 to every month to 3 months. Even then, I kinda get spend more time looking at the overwhelming amount of categories. When I used to fap more often, it was to thoughts in my imagination, cause I always thought the scenarios that I could imagine were better. Now I kinda fap maybe 2 times a month. Another thing is, I almost never develop crushes, it's extremely rare. And I'm rarely attracted to "typically hot" guys or just most people. Like I think it's hilarious when men are treated as sex objects just because of the reverse of expectations, but I'm never really "turned on" by it. To be honest, I'm just a really over emotional girl who is more swooned by romantic gestures, and if guy just really wanted to care for me. I'm also very scared socially, and know myself well, and I know I'm the type of girl that will start developing feelings over small things. And sex isn't a small thing to me. I'm afraid of getting attached to another person without fully knowing them. I just really don't want to have a broken heart over a one night thing, that kinda seems dumb. lol But the more and more students talk about their sex lives constantly, I'm just finding myself thinking, man I really don't want that. Idk, I guess I am surprised at myself the past year, and how many guys have come up to me, but my first reaction is to run. lol I mean, I started crying this week cause they only thing I miss is watching geeking shows and movies with someone. And no one here really wants to do that, at least that I have met. I think quarantine has made things difficult, in that I'm limited with the students I interact with. I don't, they will talk to me about dating, and I just kinda shrug and say "the guys here my age are jerks." 1 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Naraku4656 Posted July 18, 2020 Share Posted July 18, 2020 Sex is overrated anyway Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
InsaneFox Posted July 18, 2020 Share Posted July 18, 2020 3 minutes ago, Naraku4656 said: Sex is overrated anyway Sex with me is never rated. But probably would be rated poorly due to my smol penis. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rpgamer Posted July 18, 2020 Share Posted July 18, 2020 Sometimes I think that I want a relationship. Then I remember that it involves socializing. I think I'm better off single. People are exhausting. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jackiemarie90 Posted July 18, 2020 Author Share Posted July 18, 2020 25 minutes ago, Naraku4656 said: Sex is overrated anyway I mean the way the students talk about it here, yeah. lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jackiemarie90 Posted July 18, 2020 Author Share Posted July 18, 2020 23 minutes ago, InsaneFox said: Sex with me is never rated. But probably would be rated poorly due to my smol penis. maybe someone should start putting up reviews on tinder. XD Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jackiemarie90 Posted July 18, 2020 Author Share Posted July 18, 2020 23 minutes ago, rpgamer said: Sometimes I think that I want a relationship. Then I remember that it involves socializing. I think I'm better off single. People are exhausting. That makes sense. I kinda mostly want the relationship. But I also know I can be a very overwhelming person for a lot of people. lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
InsaneFox Posted July 18, 2020 Share Posted July 18, 2020 1 minute ago, jackiemarie90 said: maybe someone should start putting up reviews on tinder. XD I don’t get on Tinder. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jackiemarie90 Posted July 18, 2020 Author Share Posted July 18, 2020 1 minute ago, InsaneFox said: I don’t get on Tinder. lol everyone here does. XD I just think it's funny hearing people talk about how much they hate tinder but keep using it. The quarantine killed any active "searching" on my part, so I"m not bumble anymore. lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
InsaneFox Posted July 18, 2020 Share Posted July 18, 2020 Just now, jackiemarie90 said: lol everyone here does. XD I just think it's funny hearing people talk about how much they hate tinder but keep using it. The quarantine killed any active "searching" on my part, so I"m not bumble anymore. lol I’m kinda just waiting till I find the right lady to sit on my face. Forever. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jackiemarie90 Posted July 18, 2020 Author Share Posted July 18, 2020 4 minutes ago, InsaneFox said: I’m kinda just waiting till I find the right lady to sit on my face. Forever. Aww that's romantic. XD Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Naraku4656 Posted July 18, 2020 Share Posted July 18, 2020 11 minutes ago, jackiemarie90 said: I mean the way the students talk about it here, yeah. lol i'm on online dating services too and it's all AWFUL Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jackiemarie90 Posted July 18, 2020 Author Share Posted July 18, 2020 2 minutes ago, Naraku4656 said: i'm on online dating services too and it's all AWFUL Then why keep doing it? You could start small, practice small talk to strangers you meet. But kinda hard in a pandemic. >__> Not a good time for romance. <__< Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Naraku4656 Posted July 18, 2020 Share Posted July 18, 2020 1 minute ago, jackiemarie90 said: Then why keep doing it? You could start small, practice small talk to strangers you meet. But kinda hard in a pandemic. >__> Not a good time for romance. <__< because i'm lonely as fuck and still want companionship? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jackiemarie90 Posted July 18, 2020 Author Share Posted July 18, 2020 1 minute ago, Naraku4656 said: because i'm lonely as fuck and still want companionship? Yeah that makes sense, was just trying to provide a different method. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Naraku4656 Posted July 18, 2020 Share Posted July 18, 2020 Just now, jackiemarie90 said: Yeah that makes sense, was just trying to provide a different method. it's the only way i know to hopefully get a date so Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jackiemarie90 Posted July 18, 2020 Author Share Posted July 18, 2020 2 minutes ago, Naraku4656 said: it's the only way i know to hopefully get a date so Well I wish you luck on your quest sir. But don't spend too much time on your destination, you might be surprised what happens when you aren't looking. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
InsaneFox Posted July 18, 2020 Share Posted July 18, 2020 10 minutes ago, jackiemarie90 said: Aww that's romantic. XD Yeah. I’m confused as to why I’m single. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Naraku4656 Posted July 18, 2020 Share Posted July 18, 2020 Just now, jackiemarie90 said: Well I wish you luck on your quest sir. But don't spend too much time on your destination, you might be surprised what happens when you aren't looking. nothing's ever happened for me without me looking 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jackiemarie90 Posted July 18, 2020 Author Share Posted July 18, 2020 Just now, InsaneFox said: Yeah. I’m confused as to why I’m single. Cause not all people are alike in what they are attracted to, how they pursue people, or vary in what they value in relationships in this confusing world? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jackiemarie90 Posted July 18, 2020 Author Share Posted July 18, 2020 1 minute ago, Naraku4656 said: nothing's ever happened for me without me looking You'd be surprised what strangers might think on a passing glance. lol But I am optimistic. XD Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Naraku4656 Posted July 18, 2020 Share Posted July 18, 2020 Just now, jackiemarie90 said: You'd be surprised what strangers might think on a passing glance. lol But I am optimistic. XD trust me, it won't happen Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cau Posted July 18, 2020 Share Posted July 18, 2020 Sex more like chex mix, amirite 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
InsaneFox Posted July 18, 2020 Share Posted July 18, 2020 1 minute ago, jackiemarie90 said: Cause not all people are alike in what they are attracted to, how they pursue people, or vary in what they value in relationships in this confusing world? Nah. It has to be my personality and face combo. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jackiemarie90 Posted July 18, 2020 Author Share Posted July 18, 2020 1 minute ago, Naraku4656 said: trust me, it won't happen Not with that attitude. lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Naraku4656 Posted July 18, 2020 Share Posted July 18, 2020 i'm also a goblin with no personality that hates people so that also doesn't help Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jackiemarie90 Posted July 18, 2020 Author Share Posted July 18, 2020 1 minute ago, Cau said: Sex more like chex mix, amirite Exactly, but I'm kinda more attracted to cheese its. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jackiemarie90 Posted July 18, 2020 Author Share Posted July 18, 2020 1 minute ago, InsaneFox said: Nah. It has to be my personality and face combo. I mean, that's the negativity talking. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cau Posted July 18, 2020 Share Posted July 18, 2020 1 minute ago, jackiemarie90 said: Exactly, but I'm kinda more attracted to cheese its. But that doesn't kinda rhyme with sex. Also the pepper jack ones are the only good cheez its Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
InsaneFox Posted July 18, 2020 Share Posted July 18, 2020 6 minutes ago, jackiemarie90 said: I mean, that's the negativity talking. You mean the truth? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Naraku4656 Posted July 18, 2020 Share Posted July 18, 2020 8 minutes ago, jackiemarie90 said: Not with that attitude. lol i have 0 likes on tinder and nothing anywhere else. fuck am i going to do Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jackiemarie90 Posted July 18, 2020 Author Share Posted July 18, 2020 6 minutes ago, InsaneFox said: You mean the truth? No negativity. I said what I said. lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jackiemarie90 Posted July 18, 2020 Author Share Posted July 18, 2020 6 minutes ago, Naraku4656 said: i have 0 likes on tinder and nothing anywhere else. fuck am i going to do Not rely on tinder? >_> But I don't think you want to hear that? <_< I know a lot of guys here are insecure, I certainly am a fuck ton. But there other options in the world. But I don't push it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sawdamizer Posted July 18, 2020 Share Posted July 18, 2020 Brutaldildos.com It'll cure what ails ya 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Naraku4656 Posted July 18, 2020 Share Posted July 18, 2020 1 minute ago, jackiemarie90 said: Not rely on tinder? >_> But I don't think you want to hear that? <_< I know a lot of guys here are insecure, I certainly am a fuck ton. But there other options in the world. But I don't push it. i mean i'm on okcupid too. have some there but not much really going on Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Swimmod_Luna Posted July 19, 2020 Share Posted July 19, 2020 I've been wondering lately if I might be just a little demisexual. I always joke how I'm so monogamous that I only ever had one crush at a time but looking back, the people I've had the biggest crushes on have been people I was friends with first. Only exception would be high school but there was really only one person I had a crush on in high school and I guess it was more because I felt like I was "supposed" to have a crush on someone in high school rather than because I found the person super attractive or anything. Same with celebrity crushes, I don't have any now and only had them like in high school because everyone else did so I felt like I was "supposed" to have some, too. My celebrity crushes in high school tended to be guys that were cute in the "boy next door" kind of way and also did funny roles that made me laugh rather than conventionally "hot" people. But I guess that could also be explained by the fact that I don't care about celebrity culture in general and never really have. I also hate/don't really understand flirting but that may also just be because I'm socially awkward and am also just so used to "joke flirting" with people from this very forum that actual flirting just confuses me. I do watch porn sometimes but only because sometimes I just want to have an orgasm in 2 minutes, ya know? I usually feel pretty disgusted by porn as soon as I finish. In college I went on a few dates with people I met on OkCupid and did hook up with a couple but was always disappointed when the relationships never went anywhere. I was super horny and wanted someone I could do horny stuff with but what I really, truly wanted was someone I could have an emotional connection with. I didn't and still don't understand how people can just casually date around. The idea has always sounded exhausting to me and I'm so glad I found someone to spend the rest of my life with because dating is annoying. Then I also feel like I'm just a plain old boring cishet and a lot of people don't like casual dating and stuff and I shouldn't try to steal labels from the ace community like that >_> 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Naraku4656 Posted July 19, 2020 Share Posted July 19, 2020 2 minutes ago, Athena 92 said: I've been wondering lately if I might be just a little demisexual. I always joke how I'm so monogamous that I only ever had one crush at a time but looking back, the people I've had the biggest crushes on have been people I was friends with first. Only exception would be high school but there was really only one person I had a crush on in high school and I guess it was more because I felt like I was "supposed" to have a crush on someone in high school rather than because I found the person super attractive or anything. Same with celebrity crushes, I don't have any now and only had them like in high school because everyone else did so I felt like I was "supposed" to have some, too. My celebrity crushes in high school tended to be guys that were cute in the "boy next door" kind of way and also did funny roles that made me laugh rather than conventionally "hot" people. But I guess that could also be explained by the fact that I don't care about celebrity culture in general and never really have. I also hate/don't really understand flirting but that may also just be because I'm socially awkward and am also just so used to "joke flirting" with people from this very forum that actual flirting just confuses me. I do watch porn sometimes but only because sometimes I just want to have an orgasm in 2 minutes, ya know? I usually feel pretty disgusted by porn as soon as I finish. In college I went on a few dates with people I met on OkCupid and did hook up with a couple but was always disappointed when the relationships never went anywhere. I was super horny and wanted someone I could do horny stuff with but what I really, truly wanted was someone I could have an emotional connection with. I didn't and still don't understand how people can just casually date around. The idea has always sounded exhausting to me and I'm so glad I found someone to spend the rest of my life with because dating is annoying. Then I also feel like I'm just a plain old boring cishet and a lot of people don't like casual dating and stuff and I shouldn't try to steal labels from the ace community like that >_> i mean i'm kinda the same way but i don't consider myself demi. some people think i am but i don't really see it Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Swimmod_Luna Posted July 19, 2020 Share Posted July 19, 2020 6 minutes ago, Naraku4656 said: i mean i'm kinda the same way but i don't consider myself demi. some people think i am but i don't really see it ur quacksexual. Only attracted to Quack xD Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
resurrected Posted July 19, 2020 Share Posted July 19, 2020 I've been married a long time. I have always despised people. I can guarantee you, @Naraku4656, my disdain for people exceeds anyone else's. Yet, I found my soul mate. You're young. It will happen. @jackiemarie90, when the pandemic is over, go to a WWE event. Find someone there who will give you a piledriver. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Naraku4656 Posted July 19, 2020 Share Posted July 19, 2020 10 minutes ago, Athena 92 said: ur quacksexual. Only attracted to Quack xD quack is best duck Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PhilosipherStoned Posted July 19, 2020 Share Posted July 19, 2020 (edited) Asexuality is a bit steep. If you're done with the dating game and that's what you mean I get it, but unless you are ready to spawn some kids with a magical fap session I don't think "asexuality" applies.. You are still a human being idk.. Edited July 19, 2020 by PhilosipherStoned 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PhilosipherStoned Posted July 19, 2020 Share Posted July 19, 2020 Some JK Rowling level semantics shit I guess.. Becuase I'm getting into technicalities with the word. It's just if you arent down for sex that doesn't really make you "asexual" by nature it's a conscious decision your making as a human being to seperate yourself from sexual aspects.. If you somehow could reproduce without the opposite sex like some lizards I know the term would be more fitting. 🙃 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rpgamer Posted July 19, 2020 Share Posted July 19, 2020 Oh man. It's a good thing words only ever have one meaning and never change over time as needed. Fuck outta here with that shit. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Swimmod_Luna Posted July 19, 2020 Share Posted July 19, 2020 I have to say, for all the excuses for asexual erasure I've heard before, "you're not literally capable of asexual reproduction" is a new one. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PhilosipherStoned Posted July 19, 2020 Share Posted July 19, 2020 Who gives a shit really... It's just way more fitting to say I'm done with sex and/or romantic involvemnet atm then saying I'm an asexual being.. Get out of here asexual isn't a slang term if it was I wouldn't care if it was used loosely.. I still don't even care if it is but technically you are wrong to use it in the instance no matter scientifically so fuck you.. If she want's to be an asexual attack helicopter fuck it let her be... There are better words out there to describe it is what I'm saying like celibate... Lol that word's been there for ever but no one ever wants to claim that when they denounce sex since usually it means your religous cult owns your genitals or whatever.. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PhilosipherStoned Posted July 19, 2020 Share Posted July 19, 2020 Look... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PhilosipherStoned Posted July 19, 2020 Share Posted July 19, 2020 **Aromantic** Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PhilosipherStoned Posted July 19, 2020 Share Posted July 19, 2020 So many better words smh.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Swimmod_Luna Posted July 19, 2020 Share Posted July 19, 2020 2 minutes ago, PhilosipherStoned said: **Aromantic** That's a thing too! You can be aromantic but not asexual, asexual but not aromantic, or both. One refers to romantic attraction, one to sexual attraction. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PhilosipherStoned Posted July 19, 2020 Share Posted July 19, 2020 (edited) 6 minutes ago, Belle Duckphine said: You realize the "a" part in the beginning means "without" right? Did you never learn basic prefixes? My point is it's a bit steep.. I never said she used the wrong terminlology I just feel like another thread with a possible love interest is gonna come thus the term "asexual" is meh at best.. If you get tired of sex or arent interested in it because of previous shit.. I get it.. Can you really call yourself "asexual" sure why not. How long does that last though lol.. Edited July 19, 2020 by PhilosipherStoned 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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