fair enough! and thats true with just about everything in life.
a good friend of mine is really into the dom/slave thing, including some other things that sort of go hand in hand with that. i know his fetishes started sort of as a funny/fun valentines sex day with his then girlfriend. they each picked a couple things to try and the other had to do it so long as they weren't actually fearful of it. after years of him spanking her maybe a little too hard at times, she decided that one of her things was to bind his hands, gag, and spank him. like really have a go at it. turns out, that was just what he needed and the rest just came along naturally with that