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Well?

 

I can actually do it, but I don't have access to ./Sources/Subs.php which needs to be edited manually for this to work.

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I can actually do it, but I don't have access to ./Sources/Subs.php which needs to be edited manually for this to work.

 

tl;dr if I was a full admin I could do this, and even then possibly not, I don't know if the full admin panel has file directory access, if it doesn't I'd basically need ftp access which K_N does not want to give to me.

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  It boils down to maturity; there comes a time in everyone's life when casual sex loses its allure and you want to be with someone who wants to be with you.

If you hit that point in your life, congratulations you are no longer a juvenile.  :P

 

there is also something to be said about the sex aspect in terms of quality as well. the more mature you become mentally, the more mature you become in your physical affections. no matter how bombastic your sex life seems when you're younger or less mature, i think after a while you only become more confident in exploring yourself and others. things that may have intimidated you before because of potentially embarrassing moments, are no longer an issue because you have the experience and maturity to know that sex can be funny and embarrassing at moments but does not have to diminish desire felt between you and the partner. if you are with someone long enough, you'll get more opportunity to explore certain things that you would not necessarily get to with casual encounters. unless you happen across someone who is an exception and prefers something that people don't usually encounter initially. the thing with being with someone for extended periods of time as opposed to a casual fuck, is that you know that even though you've done it a million times, the fact that you can still make someones legs shake with desire like its the honeymoon phase but have the mental stimulation that follows, its the ultimate win.

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why tho? about wanting quote trees.

 

Idk, they were just another thing to do before and to spam with, they were both fun and annoying. I did kind of like where it would keep all the quotes but hid the older ones under like a spoiler pulldown, that was cool too.

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Yea I'm at the stage where if I see a drop dead gorgeous woman I wanna take her to habachi and rub her feet for her before she sleeps.  :D

 

well, thats a start! ladies like food, foot rubs, and sleeping.

 

i've heard that we're like cats in that we like sleep and pets so much, haha! 

but if a woman who is attractive does not like eating, i'd also say there are warning signs in that. salad on first date seems a red flag to me.  :P

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well, thats a start! ladies like food, foot rubs, and sleeping.

 

i've heard that we're like cats in that we like sleep and pets so much, haha! 

but if a woman who is attractive does not like eating, i'd also say there are warning signs in that. salad on first date seems a red flag to me.  :P

salad on the first date means she just wants her salad tossed  >:D

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I can actually do it, but I don't have access to ./Sources/Subs.php which needs to be edited manually for this to work.

 

It's honestly not that important to me. Luuv might have it this way so people don't spam quote chains, which I can understand.

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It's honestly not that important to me. Luuv might have it this way so people don't spam quote chains, which I can understand.

It's honestly not that important to me. Luuv might have it this way so people don't spam quote chains, which I can understand.

It's honestly not that important to me. Luuv might have it this way so people don't spam quote chains, which I can understand.

It's honestly not that important to me. Luuv might have it this way so people don't spam quote chains, which I can understand.

It's honestly not that important to me. Luuv might have it this way so people don't spam quote chains, which I can understand.

It's honestly not that important to me. Luuv might have it this way so people don't spam quote chains, which I can understand.

It's honestly not that important to me. Luuv might have it this way so people don't spam quote chains, which I can understand.

It's honestly not that important to me. Luuv might have it this way so people don't spam quote chains, which I can understand.

It's honestly not that important to me. Luuv might have it this way so people don't spam quote chains, which I can understand.

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I WILL SPAM ALL THE QUOTES

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MY QUESTION IS WHY ARE YOU WAITING 12 YEARS TO VOTE FOR HIM INSTEAD OF 4?

 

BECAUSE OBAMAS WOMAN IS RUNNING IN 2020

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there is also something to be said about the sex aspect in terms of quality as well. the more mature you become mentally, the more mature you become in your physical affections. no matter how bombastic your sex life seems when you're younger or less mature, i think after a while you only become more confident in exploring yourself and others. things that may have intimidated you before because of potentially embarrassing moments, are no longer an issue because you have the experience and maturity to know that sex can be funny and embarrassing at moments but does not have to diminish desire felt between you and the partner. if you are with someone long enough, you'll get more opportunity to explore certain things that you would not necessarily get to with casual encounters. unless you happen across someone who is an exception and prefers something that people don't usually encounter initially. the thing with being with someone for extended periods of time as opposed to a casual fuck, is that you know that even though you've done it a million times, the fact that you can still make someones legs shake with desire like its the honeymoon phase but have the mental stimulation that follows, its the ultimate win.

 

  Experience isn't necessarily the best teacher, if you have a lot of bad sex, you get really good at having bad sex. Sometimes you have to be in a relationship to have the comfort level to ask that most shameful of questions; "Am I good?" :D

I generally tend to worry about exploring though, that always seems to end up with someone trying to stick something in my butt. S:

Exit only....

 

  I guess if I wanted I could find casual sex but it doesn't interest me. I really want to be in that place where you can just hold someone and not have sex, but still be fulfilled. Maybe I'm just old-fashioned, but sex just isn't the point of being in a relationship, it is just a perk.

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I don't even know how one would spot someone that would take a lot of work without actually talking to them first.  S:

 

A year or so ago I would sometimes see a really hot girl hanging outside of one of our school buildings, and I decided I didn't want to approach her because she was wearing what looked to me like a flashy watch. If a woman that age (probably early - mid 20s) in this day and age is wearing a flashy watch, with otherwise nice looking clothes, that makes me assume that either she has a lot of money or is materialistic and won't be impressed by my broke-ass self, so why bother? But that's pretty much the only time I've ever had that feeling, aside from when I had low self esteem as a teenager and assumed any girl would automatically reject me.

 

i understand what you're saying but its all about body language. maybe thats also a maturity or age thing but i think its easier to spot who will be receptive based on that.

 

also, you shouldn't judge peoples date-ability based on their choice in fashion because its easy to misunderstand. like, mine is all over the map. sometimes i look fancy, sometimes i look like some kind of hippie, sometimes trendy, sometimes i look like a metal head, sometimes a nerd, and sometimes a brand queen. one thing is for certain though, i never spend much on the things i own and i'm not the type to want to be doted on or pampered. most women i have met are the same. just like i don't look at a guy who is well put together and assume he is high maintenance, a fuck boy, or full of himself. likewise, i never assume a guy who looks really casual is careless or lazy. its just not a good indicator of who people really are.

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i understand what you're saying but its all about body language. maybe thats also a maturity or age thing but i think its easier to spot who will be receptive based on that.

 

also, you shouldn't judge peoples date-ability based on their choice in fashion because its easy to misunderstand. like, mine is all over the map. sometimes i look fancy, sometimes i look like some kind of hippie, sometimes trendy, sometimes i look like a metal head, sometimes a nerd, and sometimes a brand queen. one thing is for certain though, i never spend much on the things i own and i'm not the type to want to be doted on or pampered. most women i have met are the same. just like i don't look at a guy who is well put together and assume he is high maintenance, a fuck boy, or full of himself. likewise, i never assume a guy who looks really casual is careless or lazy. its just not a good indicator of who people really are.

 

Yeah, you're right.

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OKC was mainly blocking or declining 99% of people due to drugs, excessive alcohol, wanting sex, existing kids, not being able to read a profile, and/or just being a complete creep. Now granted this could be said for also turning down people in person that throw advances. Though it's a little more daunting when you have 40 new messages a day.

But I met my husband through online so, you know, it's just finding the right person like you would in whatever way you choose to meet people.

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  Experience isn't necessarily the best teacher, if you have a lot of bad sex, you get really good at having bad sex. Sometimes you have to be in a relationship to have the comfort level to ask that most shameful of questions; "Am I good?" :D

I generally tend to worry about exploring though, that always seems to end up with someone trying to stick something in my butt. S:

Exit only....

 

  I guess if I wanted I could find casual sex but it doesn't interest me. I really want to be in that place where you can just hold someone and not have sex, but still be fulfilled. Maybe I'm just old-fashioned, but sex just isn't the point of being in a relationship, it is just a perk.

 

maybe its just me but i feel like i know when my performance was lacking and not so good. it seems evident in the others reception and responses. if you've become bad because of continual bad experience, you would only really even know that if you were with someone who had the bar set higher, so to speak. if its the same, it shouldn't really matter as there wouldn't be much to notice and inevitably, is actually good sex for the parties involved.

 

i think its all perks honestly. the basis of every relationship is friendship. you have to be able to connect to people in that way. the physical affection aspects all seem equally important. whether it be sex or just holding someone. if one or the other is lacking, the relationship may have difficulty sustaining. but i guess that may also just be on an individual basis, idk. it may or may not be my age and hormones but sex is as important in a relationship as anything else. i like to feel intense desire as much as i like to feel love and comfort. 

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OKC was mainly blocking or declining 99% of people due to drugs, excessive alcohol, wanting sex, existing kids, not being able to read a profile, and/or just being a complete creep. Now granted this could be said for also turning down people in person that throw advances. Though it's a little more daunting when you have 40 new messages a day.

But I met my husband through online so, you know, it's just finding the right person like you would in whatever way you choose to meet people.

 

I get about 5-10 a day, and I'm a male sooooooooooooo.... but I totally understand the woman perspective. Y'all must get easily 20 messages a day like you said.

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OKC was mainly blocking or declining 99% of people due to drugs, excessive alcohol, wanting sex, existing kids, not being able to read a profile, and/or just being a complete creep. Now granted this could be said for also turning down people in person that throw advances. Though it's a little more daunting when you have 40 new messages a day.

But I met my husband through online so, you know, it's just finding the right person like you would in whatever way you choose to meet people.

 

40 a day? really? thats way more than i would have assumed and does indeed come across as daunting. it would almost seem to me that people are just taking a stab at whatever and not really caring much as to whom at that point. i've always thought that i would someday have to give in and do an online/app dating profile but that seems a little more than i could handle.

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I get about 5-10 a day, and I'm a male sooooooooooooo.... but I totally understand the woman perspective. Y'all must get easily 20 messages a day like you said.

 

Yeah, I have several male friends that tried it and naturally I heard about experiences from my husband. So, there are definitely annoyances that both sides experience.

I guess I wouldn't regret it though because it's an interesting experience and the stories are sometimes funny that you have to tell. I think the main thing is that a lot of it really isn't confined to just "online dating" because you're still going to meet the same materialistic or crazy people potentially in person had you chose to pick someone up at a party, club, or store. I would say the exception is the freaky people whom generally feel safer online approaching people that they wouldn't have in person...like even though I had age restrictions..I had messages from men that were 30+ older than me asking things like "do you have daddy fetishes".

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Im on match, chemistry.com, non payed eharmony, tinder,  blackpeoplemeet.com meet, afroromance, trekkies something something, non payed zoosk and plenty of fish.  Went on one date in like 2 years from them.  Went on one other date with someone I knew from my job.  Get a lot of hits but I know that I'm just waiting for a man to literally fall out the sky and into my arms.

 

I pissed myself off with all the prospects I missed but dating is kinda just going to be a passing thing this year.

 

Gotta feel something.

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40 a day? really? thats way more than i would have assumed and does indeed come across as daunting. it would almost seem to me that people are just taking a stab at whatever and not really caring much as to whom at that point. i've always thought that i would someday have to give in and do an online/app dating profile but that seems a little more than i could handle.

Yep. I mean you can set things like location preference, age preference, type of relationship you're interested in, and so forth to filter people out...and it's supposed to help filter those people from you too but people can still search for your particular demographic anyways. So, even if I set certain things to deter people, I got a lot of messages from people right off the bat that would be absolutely no go for me (no offense to them personally just sort of deal breaker things). So, I had messages from people daily that were in my set preferences but then I had people that were...

much much older people, people not even in the same country let alone state, people that were looking for a "third" in their relationships lol...Then for the people that actually were in my set "criteria" was sort of a 50/50 with being normal first messages or downright perverted first messages...

I also live in a pretty big city so I guess you can say there's a lot of people that were in my initial city alone and surrounding areas.

I really didn't stay on for long though. In total, I probably kept my profile active for two weeks. So, I could have just been having an influx from people seeing a new profile come up because I did see a lot of " hey youre new" messages. I really didn't have the time to even search for profiles on my own between going through the ones messaging me daily. However, even when I did look, most of the people through a quick search were people already messaging me. Most, not all, definitely do not put much into following people's restrictions or reading their profiles so, in a sense, you're right that a lot of people will take a stab or test  to see if you'll still be interested.

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Yep. I mean you can set things like location preference, age preference, type of relationship you're interested in, and so forth to filter people out...and it's supposed to help filter those people from you too but people can still search for your particular demographic anyways. So, even if I set certain things to deter people, I got a lot of messages from people right off the bat that would be absolutely no go for me (no offense to them personally just sort of deal breaker things). So, I had messages from people daily that were in my set preferences but then I had people that were...

much much older people, people not even in the same country let alone state, people that were looking for a "third" in their relationships lol...Then for the people that actually were in my set "criteria" was sort of a 50/50 with being normal first messages or downright perverted first messages...

I also live in a pretty big city so I guess you can say there's a lot of people that were in my initial city alone and surrounding areas.

I really didn't stay on for long though. In total, I probably kept my profile active for two weeks. So, I could have just been having an influx from people seeing a new profile come up because I did see a lot of " hey youre new" messages. I really didn't have the time to even search for profiles on my own between going through the ones messaging me daily. However, even when I did look, most of the people through a quick search were people already messaging me. Most, not all, definitely do not put much into following people's restrictions or reading their profiles so, in a sense, you're right that a lot of people will take a stab or test  to see if you'll still be interested.

 

i think because of the size of the city i live in, if i set distance preferences, i would probably run into the problem of running into too many people i already know. this all sounds like it wouldn't necessarily increase my chances of meeting someone more than the old fashioned ways and may actually take more work than i would want. i mean, i come here a lot but other than that, i don't have much interest or patience in keeping up with profiles or online communities and such. even without the dating aspect its daunting.

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