The scenario of penis discovery bothers me a lot less than the fact that this is at least the second time I've seen you do something of this nature. Like that time you asked if you dated a black dude if it was ok for you to refer to him as my nigga. Maybe to that individual himself, but you can't ask a collective and get an affirmative for this because no matter who you're sleeping with, I'm not trying to hear any N-bombs out of you.
Just as being black doesn't give me a pass in homophobic terminology, being gay doesn't excuse the use of racial epithets. I ignored it the first time because I know you're generally a good dude, but I figure you might be unaware.