Still Me Posted April 4, 2020 Share Posted April 4, 2020 So in my last post I told y’all about what I was dealing with... I’m sure nobody really cares but I just got off the phone with my mother.... now I deal with patients at work where they have issues... And my mother is basically that kind of patient now.. So as she was talking she would stumble over her words and stutter... she would get lost in her thoughts and repeat things.... and she would randomly have flashbacks of when her and my father were still together.... but I did find out some interesting information about her situation.... years ago I had made a post pissed off about how my mom was continuing to stay in an abusive relationship... how she had chosen this man over her children who wanted the best for her... because of this and the trauma she continuously put me through I stopped talking to her... both my brother and I have decided to be a unified front and cut her off completely.... and it’s been about three or four years since I’ve spoken to my mother.... but as I was speaking to her today she started to tell me some of the things this piece of shit has done to her....her and her boyfriend drive commercial tractor trailer trucks and they travel everywhere...they would be out for months at a time and I believe they called it team driving...when she would drive he would sleep and vice versa...well she had an accident on the truck, she had not noticed the door had been openand she proceeded to hit the door with her head very very hard...so hard in fact that she was having migraines because of it...at that time she grew scared that she might have a minor concussion based off of how she was feeling...so for a few days she recovered and tried not to sleep for at least 24 hours after the incident...however she said that her boyfriend would get angry at her...over what I assume to be little things because of how I knew him he would get mad over the dumbest shit...she told me that he had been hitting her in the head whenever she did something what he perceived as stupid..... and it was more than just once...my mom is 5’2...this man is a 6’7 Indian man....so I am going to go with the assumption that a tiny little hit is a massive fucking hit to how tiny my mother is....not that that explains anything or makes it acceptable.... also all my life my mom has had really bad teeth and it’s gotten progressively worse the older she’s gotten which makes sense...and they’ve now started to slowly rot out of her head...which I know is gross but she grew up in the 60s...and she’s always pressured me to take better care of my teeth and she ever took care of hers...I digress...her teeth are going bad and are falling out....and in a particular argument between her and her boyfriend he proceeded to try to rip one out of her mouth... I cannot explain to you how furious I am....I am beyond the point of crying and I am literally shaking with rage....if I lived in that state....there would be an accident that he may or may not recover from...it is much is I have problems with my mom nobody fucking deserves that...she fucking said to me ”stillz, he ruined my life”.... now the state of Florida is going to set my mother up to get new teeth...and her boyfriend is actually paying for her medical bills....because more or less I think he scared to find out if he was the cause of her current predicament... she lives in a condo and the person above her is a caregiver. She understands what my mother is going through and when she’s not working she spent time with my mother and she organizes my mom’s pills...my mom‘s boyfriend gives this caregiver money so that when my mom needs things the caregiver can go to the store and buy them for her...she’s not my mom’s official caregiver but she’s taking on this role as one...I asked my mother to give me her phone number in the hopes that I could call her and maybe explain some things... I also asked my mother if she had told her upstairs neighbor about what this man has done to her...she told me yes and she told me that the woman is trying to take a more active role in my mothers care when this boyfriend is around on purpose...One of her other neighbors is an ex marine and he was told about the situation as well...he told my mother that if this man continues to keep doing bad things to her she needs to come and find him and he will take care of it.... sadly I am not in a position where I can take care of my mother.... I am also bound in current my state.... should I leave my state and go and get her I could potentially lose my job.... I would be forced to 14 day quarantine with no money and I would have no way of paying for any of my bills or food... my brother is also in the same situation.... I don’t know what I can do for her...But I really have no one else to talk to about this....So I’m just gonna put it here and given the past history with some board members, if you guys want to use it against me in the future I really don’t care, I just have no idea what to do.... And I’m just so mad... And I want this son of a bitch to pay 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Poof Posted April 4, 2020 Share Posted April 4, 2020 I wouldn't use this against you. I'd rather he get what he deserves too 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
helpme Posted April 4, 2020 Share Posted April 4, 2020 55 minutes ago, Still Me said: So in my last post I told y’all about what I was dealing with... I’m sure nobody really cares but I just got off the phone with my mother.... now I deal with patients at work where they have issues... And my mother is basically that kind of patient now.. So as she was talking she would stumble over her words and stutter... she would get lost in her thoughts and repeat things.... and she would randomly have flashbacks of when her and my father were still together.... but I did find out some interesting information about her situation.... years ago I had made a post pissed off about how my mom was continuing to stay in an abusive relationship... how she had chosen this man over her children who wanted the best for her... because of this and the trauma she continuously put me through I stopped talking to her... both my brother and I have decided to be a unified front and cut her off completely.... and it’s been about three or four years since I’ve spoken to my mother.... but as I was speaking to her today she started to tell me some of the things this piece of shit has done to her....her and her boyfriend drive commercial tractor trailer trucks and they travel everywhere...they would be out for months at a time and I believe they called it team driving...when she would drive he would sleep and vice versa...well she had an accident on the truck, she had not noticed the door had been openand she proceeded to hit the door with her head very very hard...so hard in fact that she was having migraines because of it...at that time she grew scared that she might have a minor concussion based off of how she was feeling...so for a few days she recovered and tried not to sleep for at least 24 hours after the incident...however she said that her boyfriend would get angry at her...over what I assume to be little things because of how I knew him he would get mad over the dumbest shit...she told me that he had been hitting her in the head whenever she did something what he perceived as stupid..... and it was more than just once...my mom is 5’2...this man is a 6’7 Indian man....so I am going to go with the assumption that a tiny little hit is a massive fucking hit to how tiny my mother is....not that that explains anything or makes it acceptable.... also all my life my mom has had really bad teeth and it’s gotten progressively worse the older she’s gotten which makes sense...and they’ve now started to slowly rot out of her head...which I know is gross but she grew up in the 60s...and she’s always pressured me to take better care of my teeth and she ever took care of hers...I digress...her teeth are going bad and are falling out....and in a particular argument between her and her boyfriend he proceeded to try to rip one out of her mouth... I cannot explain to you how furious I am....I am beyond the point of crying and I am literally shaking with rage....if I lived in that state....there would be an accident that he may or may not recover from...it is much is I have problems with my mom nobody fucking deserves that...she fucking said to me ”stillz, he ruined my life”.... now the state of Florida is going to set my mother up to get new teeth...and her boyfriend is actually paying for her medical bills....because more or less I think he scared to find out if he was the cause of her current predicament... she lives in a condo and the person above her is a caregiver. She understands what my mother is going through and when she’s not working she spent time with my mother and she organizes my mom’s pills...my mom‘s boyfriend gives this caregiver money so that when my mom needs things the caregiver can go to the store and buy them for her...she’s not my mom’s official caregiver but she’s taking on this role as one...I asked my mother to give me her phone number in the hopes that I could call her and maybe explain some things... I also asked my mother if she had told her upstairs neighbor about what this man has done to her...she told me yes and she told me that the woman is trying to take a more active role in my mothers care when this boyfriend is around on purpose...One of her other neighbors is an ex marine and he was told about the situation as well...he told my mother that if this man continues to keep doing bad things to her she needs to come and find him and he will take care of it.... sadly I am not in a position where I can take care of my mother.... I am also bound in current my state.... should I leave my state and go and get her I could potentially lose my job.... I would be forced to 14 day quarantine with no money and I would have no way of paying for any of my bills or food... my brother is also in the same situation.... I don’t know what I can do for her...But I really have no one else to talk to about this....So I’m just gonna put it here and given the past history with some board members, if you guys want to use it against me in the future I really don’t care, I just have no idea what to do.... And I’m just so mad... And I want this son of a bitch to pay Send him to Michigan I'll take care of him Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Still Me Posted April 4, 2020 Author Share Posted April 4, 2020 21 minutes ago, helpme said: Send him to Michigan I'll take care of him if we send him to Michigan hopefully he’ll catch the Covid and die Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
helpme Posted April 4, 2020 Share Posted April 4, 2020 1 hour ago, Still Me said: if we send him to Michigan hopefully he’ll catch the Covid and die Detroit will be your best bet then It's our hotspot Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vamped Posted April 4, 2020 Share Posted April 4, 2020 Im sorry you're dealing with so much. Its a good thing that she has some support when you and your brother cant be there. Take some comfort in that. Make sure you're taking care of yourself in the meantime. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PhilosipherStoned Posted April 4, 2020 Share Posted April 4, 2020 (edited) Sorry to hear. Do what you can to help her within reason is all I can say. My grandmother on my mothers side passed away years ago, and my mother and I often wonder if we didn't visit her enough and try to be more of a pillar of support when her medical issues finally compounded enough to make independent living impossible for her. She ended up in a nursing home facility towards the end. Don't get me wrong we did what we could even moving her in with us for a bit because we both would rather she be taken care of by family that's actually known her all her life than random nurses and med staff. We understand how they have to operate at the homes, but it's hard for us not to want to blame the nursing facility since we could tell she was so heavily drugged towards the end when we visited her that she was hardly ever conscious.. Edited April 4, 2020 by PhilosipherStoned Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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