FreeRoamingVapor Posted June 8 Share Posted June 8 I might be posting in the wrong folder, so please forgive me if this seems out of line for this particular part of the forum. Although narcissism can be amusing at times, if gone unchecked, there is no denying it's adverse affects in daily life both on and off the internet. IMO it is a comedic cow teat to draw from that is bound to shrivel up into nothing over a period of time, because the punchline is always the same (look at how much of a nasty person I am, isn't that over-the-top? Elohel). Once it turns to sand, the effects of denial will show it's corrosiveness on relationships (be it friends or otherwise) due to a lack of personal accountability. I've seen it manifest into a hostile mob mentality towards others with a different mind-set, and worse, those who go on killing sprees because they feel so singled out and alone because of the bullying caused by people they thought they could trust. I personally have never experienced the latter but does that really matter if you know it's coming from a similar place? I don't know about you but I join communities of fellow nerds on the internet to feel good about myself, not to deal with the hypocrisy of those who think they have to be bullies in order to feel secure about themselves. I'm expecting a hostile mob mentality from this post, but its purely inconsequential. No inflammatory for-the-sake-of-it cynicism is going to prove that I'm going to suffer for what I say from the heart. I don't care how hard to have to lean on your denial to convince yourself otherwise. No blind rhetoric is my puppet master, and everyone with a conscious is entitled to feel the same way. I say all of this because have a lot of fond memories of [as] and it's sad to see that the fans associated with something so positive in my late teens early adulthood fester in negativity in order to belong somewhere like so many other dumpster fire forums on the internet. You don't have to do anything you don't want to do in order to belong. Everyone's mind is their own and you're not hopeless to your own folly if you practice self-awareness and know the downfalls of being a POS. If that is too difficult, please see a mental health professional ASAP. TL:DR version of what I'm saying I'm sure this will be 'interesting' to read when I come back to this. Peace and Love! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
André Toulon Posted June 8 Share Posted June 8 Seems like you're using broad strokes to address a small interaction you had with one user, but since you didn't specify, we have to guess here. It's a matter of perspective really. What you see as toxic narcissism, others may see as just blowing off steam. And while one can be guided to see that she came and slapped your cakes around a little bit, one could also see that you engaged her post in a less than cordial manner. Now, I have my own theories about this but I'll just focus on what's evident right in front of me. Maybe it's not as damning and alarming as you perceived. Maybe you're reacting to a vent and not an impotent rage post. Empathy is usually easier than sympathy because to use sympathy, you must remove yourself from the equation. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FreeRoamingVapor Posted June 8 Author Share Posted June 8 (edited) 43 minutes ago, André Toulon said: Seems like you're using broad strokes to address a small interaction you had with one user, but since you didn't specify, we have to guess here. It's a matter of perspective really. What you see as toxic narcissism, others may see as just blowing off steam. And while one can be guided to see that she came and slapped your cakes around a little bit, one could also see that you engaged her post in a less than cordial manner. Now, I have my own theories about this but I'll just focus on what's evident right in front of me. Maybe it's not as damning and alarming as you perceived. Maybe you're reacting to a vent and not an impotent rage post. Empathy is usually easier than sympathy because to use sympathy, you must remove yourself from the equation. I am not addressing one user and to say anything was slapped around is presuming way too much about a total stranger, but its good you noticed I'm painting with broad stokes because basically its a problem on a much larger scale than one involved with this community. It's blind acceptance to toxic attitudes in general. I feel instead of certain people holding themselves accountable they would rather make a generalized statement about everybody being a piece of shit instead of actually doing something about it. I know what you're talking about and what that person said certainly influenced me to write what I did but what I'm referring to is a common problem. No rage is involved I'm just calling it for what it is and why it's a problem. Sorry if you didn't understand that. Edited June 8 by FreeRoamingVapor Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FreeRoamingVapor Posted June 8 Author Share Posted June 8 I also read a lot more than I post so I understand why you might've jumped to that conclusion. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
André Toulon Posted June 8 Share Posted June 8 (edited) Welp, I can see you missed the ball here.... several , in fact. I already said we were assuming since you decided to be vague, and that only gives us the one option for engagement. So you can thank yourself for my presumptions. I wasn't saying there was rage in your post, just that maybe what you're responding to isn't rage induced. But since you're not actually interested in a discussion of the points made and instead are willing to dismiss by default, we can just make this what you want it to be. This brings back some odd vibes. Edited June 8 by André Toulon Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
André Toulon Posted June 8 Share Posted June 8 1 minute ago, FreeRoamingVapor said: I also read a lot more than I post so I understand why you might've jumped to that conclusion. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FreeRoamingVapor Posted June 8 Author Share Posted June 8 (edited) Would you believe me if I said I tried to edit the part where you said it wasn't rage induced? *sigh* I blame myself. I am less than perfect when it comes to posting things because I'm usually in a rush to get everything down before the next person comments. I think this forum only allows a certain amount of edits to the post and that's on me for that. You're probably right about it not being rage induced. I believe that you would know that person better than I do. Nevertheless the vibes I got from the statement made me think a certain way and reminded me of bad experiences from people that actually are narcissists. Also I do more that stroke the boloney pony buddy. lol Edited June 8 by FreeRoamingVapor Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FreeRoamingVapor Posted June 8 Author Share Posted June 8 (edited) 42 minutes ago, André Toulon said: Welp, I can see you missed the ball here.... several , in fact. I don't know how but ok. If you rather nay say, fine. Edited June 8 by FreeRoamingVapor Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Insipid Posted June 8 Share Posted June 8 It's so tame here these days. I feel you have to actively be looking for trouble now to experience it. Whatever. 1 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
André Toulon Posted June 8 Share Posted June 8 17 minutes ago, FreeRoamingVapor said: I don't know how but ok. If you rather nay say, fine. Not trying to nay say, just need more to go on. I can't tell if you're picking a fight or posting out of frustration from my inability to understand...but either way, I save us both the headache and get in the shower. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gemini Posted June 8 Share Posted June 8 Yeah, people suck sometimes. There's no way around it. All you can do is be your best self. That's the best way to tell off the naysayers. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FreeRoamingVapor Posted June 8 Author Share Posted June 8 (edited) 20 minutes ago, Insipid said: It's so tame here these days. I feel you have to actively be looking for trouble now to experience it. Whatever. You're right. I do have a chip on my shoulder and I haven't been completely honest. The fact is I'm no stranger to this community at all and most of my discourse stems from the experiences that I had on this board close to 5 years ago. When I saw what StillMe had posted it just make me feel like nothing had changed. I haven't been reading anything on this forum for several months. I'm going to take the L on this and say that I'm a complete asshole and try to wash my hands of this. If I am a man of my word in anyway shape or form that is the least I can do. I'm sorry to whoever reads this thinking I was referring to anything currently going on in these boards now days because the fact is, I don't shit. I am very sorry and I'm going to go crawl back into my hole. Edited June 8 by FreeRoamingVapor Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Still Me Posted June 8 Share Posted June 8 (edited) What I posted? buddy you came into a joke thread to allude to being upset with someone and not wanting to quote “dox anyone” so I made a dismissive joke about how we’re all terrible people and then you got butthurt. look here NVK, you've always had some fucked up beef pulled out of literally thin air Edited June 8 by Still Me 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Still Me Posted June 8 Share Posted June 8 (edited) this is just a new fucking level to dumb Edited June 8 by Still Me 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vamped Posted June 8 Share Posted June 8 That wall of text is alot to say nothing at all 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
naraku360 Posted June 8 Share Posted June 8 6 hours ago, FreeRoamingVapor said: You can help. With, like, $700. That would fix my current state of mental decline. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
André Toulon Posted June 8 Share Posted June 8 5 hours ago, FreeRoamingVapor said: You're right. I do have a chip on my shoulder and I haven't been completely honest. The fact is I'm no stranger to this community at all and most of my discourse stems from the experiences that I had on this board close to 5 years ago. When I saw what StillMe had posted it just make me feel like nothing had changed. I haven't been reading anything on this forum for several months. I'm going to take the L on this and say that I'm a complete asshole and try to wash my hands of this. If I am a man of my word in anyway shape or form that is the least I can do. I'm sorry to whoever reads this thinking I was referring to anything currently going on in these boards now days because the fact is, I don't shit. I am very sorry and I'm going to go crawl back into my hole. Well this isn't the outcome I had hoped for. I was really hoping we'd clear some air and you'd decide to post more, but I figure you might feel kinda at odds now so I guess I'll just keep my fingers crossed Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vamped Posted June 8 Share Posted June 8 51 minutes ago, André Toulon said: I'll just keep my fingers crossed 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
André Toulon Posted June 9 Share Posted June 9 @FreeRoamingVapor I also see that we've recently interacted a few days back and I may have come off as a jerk then as well....well, it's just habit I think. But I do stand by pineapple on pizza isn't a stoner thing. I take that shit seriously tho....idc if it's trite to everyone else. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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