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for men or women-whoever has found themselves(on either side) of this situation.

 

why is it that, usually, (the majority of the time,) the person you're dating's best friend always ends up having feelings for you?

 

why is this so common?

 

personally, when my friends date-girls OR guys- they are automatically friend zoned for me.

 

if they're attractive, I can appreciate that they are good looking.

 

however, I LITERALLY can not see them as more than a friend, because they are dating my best friend.

 

so have you been on either end of this before?

do you know why this is?

 

this is a genuine question.

 

I mean you can totally troll me, too, if you'd like. I enjoy a good laugh

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for men or women-whoever has found themselves(on either side) of this situation.

 

why is it that, usually, (the majority of the time,) the person you're dating's best friend always ends up having feelings for you?

 

why is this so common?

 

personally, when my friends date-girls OR guys- they are automatically friend zoned for me.

 

if they're attractive, I can appreciate that they are good looking.

 

however, I LITERALLY can not see them as more than a friend, because they are dating my best friend.

 

so have you been on either end of this before?

do you know why this is?

 

this is a genuine question.

 

I mean you can totally troll me, too, if you'd like. I enjoy a good laugh

 

never had that problem....I'm usually not all that tolerant with bro bullshit....sooo...sorry?

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never had that problem....I'm usually not all that tolerant with bro bullshit....sooo...sorry?

 

no its okay, no need to apologize, I just don't understand it.

if one of my friends developed feelings for someone I was dating I also would have a hard time tolerating that...

 

I mean, you can't help who you like, so I couldn't be THAT mad, but I would still be annoyed.

 

this is why I don't understand why it keeps happening

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no its okay, no need to apologize, I just don't understand it.

if one of my friends developed feelings for someone I was dating I also would have a hard time tolerating that...

 

I mean, you can't help who you like, so I couldn't be THAT mad, but I would still be annoyed.

 

this is why I don't understand why it keeps happening

 

become a bitch?

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Never actually been in that situation myself, but I've seen some of my friends cheat with each other. I steered clear of that situation, that was some heavy drama.

I just date one person at a time and don't try to "commit the robbery".

 

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Never actually been in that situation myself, but I've seen some of my friends cheat with each other. I steered clear of that situation, that was some heavy drama.

I just date one person at a time and don't try to "commit the robbery".

 

well geez, everyone is giving me this response and now I'm beginning to wonder if the guys I date just have dirt bags for best friends :(

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I would definitely introduce the idea of the "open relationship", but I haven't been in this position yet.

 

no, that's not what I'm asking.

I'm asking WHY do the guys I'm dating best friend's end up developing feelings.

 

I don't share, and won't share.

 

open relationships are fine for some people, not this chick.

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well geez, everyone is giving me this response and now I'm beginning to wonder if the guys I date just have dirt bags for best friends :(

 

I doubt that. It is probably just simple biology; they are guys and you are cute.

I wouldn't worry about it too much, just be clear with them about you being in a relationship and committed. They will get it,even if they play it off as they are goofing around.

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I doubt that. It is probably just simple biology; they are guys and you are cute.

I wouldn't worry about it too much, just be clear with them about you being in a relationship and committed. They will get it,even if they play it off as they are goofing around.

 

that's exactly what happened :(

I was like

"uh you do know I'm dating your best friend, right?"

he was like

"I didn't know you guys were serious!"

and I was like

"uh well we really aren't but.... at the same time... you've been best friends for 22 years and this is how you react to his lady friend?"

 

 

the worst part is that I REALLY LIKE HIM!

like he's awesome and so much fun to talk to, and EASY to talk to, and he's funny and nice and interesting

so he's not like, some dirt bag I want to say "fuck you" to, you know?

 

why are men genetically hardwired to want to breed with everything?

IT MAKES EVERYTHING COMPLICATED

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