I think there are a couple things to identify.
1.) Talking about lips being rough or soft. No matter what age, you'll encounter that. Someone's lips could be dry from winter, wind, medication, dehydration, etc.
2.) You're too focused on whether they've made out or dated someone before. I think that's why you go for high school girls, which is not the way to go about things. We all have pasts. You've obviously kissed other girls before, why are you holding them to virgin standards in all aspects when you haven't? Are you scared they will think you're new to this? Are you scared you don't hold up to other guy's experiences? Are you going for young girls because you're inexperienced and don't want them to think you're inexperienced? Not trying to diss you but seeing your posts over time makes me think you are self conscious in that aspect and that you proclaim yourself an alpha to compensate for your insecurities. We all have insecurities, not just you. You also need to let go of the fact that they've been with people before you. Those people are in the past. Be more concerned how you both evolve in the future.
Also stop thinking you're entitled to things and being aggressive. No matter if you're a woman or man, that's terrifying. No one likes to be rejected. It hurts but you cant attack them over it. You can have a better life than this. You're capable.