If your kid finds your porn, despite what you do to hide it and keep it private.
it's really not the same as exposing them to it.
Especially in the specific case you mentioned (death)
everything is a bit out of your control. There's no more you can do to shield your kids
from that kind of thing.
First off, I apologize. The coward comment was a joke, and made to reflect
not being ashamed of the stuff you like. When I had this idea of dying and kids finding stuff,
it was under my own imagining of the scenario where the kids are older.
I didn't know how old your brother was, and you were twenty, so I was working off that.
That's not how it came off, and I'm sorry I didn't better express that.
I'm sincerely sorry for letting this nonsense get out of hand.