Just to make at least one serious post in this thread, I personally believe that "pouring your heart out" doesn't actually accomplish anything other than making you feel better, which is important, but the more quickly you can "get over" what ails you the sooner you can flip the switch and take action to remedy it. I wouldn't link that to masculinity, but it is a huge part of being a functional adult. In my experience at least men in general are able to flip that switch sooner and it's probably a combination of them being conditioned to do so, biology, and a number of other things, but not wanting to do it definitely isn't one of them. The issue is that men are more likely to be laughed at and/or looked down upon when they seek help, and they know it. It's easy to ask for help when you don't have to stop and think about how it's going to make people see you. I'm not a woman and can't speak for them, but I get the feeling that it's generally not as big of a consideration for them.