Sandstone

The fact you know what Jelqing is, just confirms you're fucking gay. And no I don't think it makes any difference in your case because you're a loser. They don't want to have sex with you regardless.

This is why you are my soulmate. Dat humors.

Ok well if you think it was inappropriate in context, which was not malicious or racist but was relating something that actually exists from a third party. Then you just hit that report button sweetie. That'll be alot easier than doing this little song and dance with me where you get extremely offended by everything I say for whatever reason.

My social circle is completely accepting of gays. You are being hostile now because I had a friend that was racist that I got rid of? Do you understand how crazy of a beef that actually is? That guy is from a different set of friends, not my usual one. None of my close friends are anti-gay or racist. Are you just looking for reasons to pick on me or something?

Ok, this one I am uniquely qualified to answer, as this was my experience before coming out around 12 years ago now (only partially to close friends at first). I would say it has to go to where and how those men were raised (this might also apply to some closeted lesbians as well but I don't know for sure). The culture that those men grow up in and come from is usually a religious one, and when you come to the point where you realize that you are in fact something that you have been told your entire life is wrong, dirty, and an abomination there is one of two things that happens: that person then does some serious soul searching and loses their religion or at least adopts a very different set of what would be considered liberal religious beliefs, or that person does all sorts of mental gymnastics in order to rectify what is otherwise irreconcilable. That presents extreme feelings of guilt and a constant need to deny and validate "why I am not gay" even with these feelings or attractions. And well this leads to the strange and crazy behavior that you are talking about here.

No, ok I don't think I was clear. This is not someone acting differently around strangers this is someone acting differently around people that already know that person is gay. That is why it is ridiculous.

No that has nothing to do with it, I am talking about people (I have known 2 dudes that do this) who will talk to gay men and women in a high pitch voice and then will talk to straight friends or mixed companies in a normal tone. It has nothing to do with them being in fear of anything, there is zero chance of them being picked on because they people they are talking to know they are gay.

Do you just stay eternally pissed off or something? It's literally a quotation from what I've seen. This thread was meant to be light-hearted lampoon of things that are just silly. I would consider that to be pretty silly, but maybe that's just me.

Yes! Femboy, I forgot what that was called specifically. Thanks. I don't usually think Femboy applies to all effeminate gay males though just the ones that are about like you described.

Girl I'd give you a makeover. No frets. And yeah just cause youre a gay doesn't mean you're automatically a wonderful bubbly person. I have met some gays that I am ashamed to be associated with by minority.

I'd be fine with shipping him to the Arctic personally. At least if he tried to sexually harass a polar bear he'd get eaten.

I suppose to elaborate this gets into the deeper introspective topic of what constitutes actual gender, and whether or not the biological DNA and genitalia associated with a person makes them male or female. And again, this is less my expertise and more the expertise of say @Poof or @Roggo_Doggo and some other users who have first-hand knowledge of these things. Not to mention this was just meant to be a silly thread. Maybe I should resurrect the Ask A Gay Anything thread series from the old old boards.

Well I mean just having a penis doesn't make you a real male, just look at Zeni for instance (actually that's probably an insult I'm pretty sure women don't want him on their side either).

Yes, that's entirely different, if they were actually transgendered. Then it wouldn't really be considered a gay relationship at all. Though they are still part of the LGBT community inherently. We have some users here who are transgendered or are dating or have dated transgendered women before they might be able to comment better about that. A general rule of thumb to usually tell the difference is what said person is referring to themselves as or what other people are referring to them as. If they call themselves a girl, it is a general indicator they are transgendered.

I'm so glad someone posted this, I was just about to.

I luv u too.

I forgot to mention, I usually call guys like this "gay-herrings" which is, of course, a take on red-herrings for obvious reasons.

Some gay relationships have what might appear to outsiders as pseudo-gender roles, though that is just a point of reference as it is not really comparable to gender. It is really just a way of determining which partner is more emotionally dependent I suppose and/or sexually submissive in the relationship. To straight people look in on it, this is often conflated with the guy being a "woman" in the relationship, when it is rather unlikely that either of them see it that way. Not all gay relationships have roles though, many are very egalitarian or mostly egalitarian. By that I mean there is no perceived difference in emotional dependence or sexual submission from either partner. There are many that are though. This is not really a silly thing btw, just to clarify it is a prominent dynamic in gay relationships.

This one is fairly uncommon but every once in a while I come across a gay guy that has the habbit of figuring out how and why every male they come across is secretly gay. These types tend to be gossipers too though.

This is normalized in much of the gay community, as long as the two are both legal. We do not have nearly as much stigma as straight couples on say a 40-year-old dating someone that is 19 or 20. Of course, this is not the majority but it is generally not looked down upon either the way many straight people would for a 40-year-old man dating a 19-year-old girl.

This is one I never understood, gay men who are a bit more on the effeminate side who exaggerate their lisp or pitch of their voices only while around other gay men... but sound normal or much more subtle when not speaking to other gays. I'm not sure if they realize they are doing this or if it is just some weird habit. Either way it is kind of silly to go from one and then hearing another in a different setting. Note, this is not all gay effeminate men, but I have heard this particular quirk from several who are.

Only some gay men refer to their assholes as pussies. This is actually more prevalent in the usage by dominant gay men to refer to bottoms they top. It is usually a playful term. We have many things like that in our language.

Also, another is when gay men go wayyyy too deep into certain fetishes associated with gays. For instance dudes far too deep into the Daddy-Son dynamic. While I personally have no issue with this (in some instances depending on the attractiveness of the men in question this can be rather hot), but there is a certain limit imo to calling another dude Daddy. If you can't refer to another guy without referring to him as "Daddy" you have a serious issue lmfao. Get some variety boy.

I have way more knowledge of this than mochi for many reasons. Not to rag on mochi.