it has more to do with how Straight men treat women too
in out society women are thought of as toys for men to play with, I.e. they're treated as nonhuman "things"
which causes straight men to view other men thinking they're attractive as being dehumanized by other men
when in actuality, the gay men in question are just complimenting how they look and are not trying to dehumanize them at all
straight people are too thoroughly brainwashed by their own invented rules of how men and women should behave around eachother to understand that same sex relationships and homoromantic people think of love in a different(and frankly healtheir) way