fuggstop Posted December 26, 2018 Share Posted December 26, 2018 My parents pretty much fed me and clothed me and did nothing else. Never helped me with my homework or taught me how to do anything. I figured EVERYTHING out on my own. If my brother asked them for help they would get mad and not help him saying "Candy gets good grades and never asks for help!" My brother revealed to me this year that he basically cheated his way thru school smh Anyway im saying all this because im realizing that my kid is smart..but she isnt precocious..or not as precocious as i was. That i cant be as hands off as my parents were with me. I realized this when i took her to the laundrymat and told her to put money on the dryer with a card. She had no idea how. I just assumed she knew cuz i did and no one ever showed me. I just knew. So in that i realized i have to show her EVERYTHING or she just won't know. And i also realized i was doing every little thing for her and not basically making her learn how to keep care of herself. The lesson hit hard. Now i have to retrain the way i see everything i do and realize that i have to teach her from scratch. That things that came easy to me wont necessarily be the same for her. And i mean i did all kinds of things when i was a kid that i didnt ask for help for. I just read everything i could and did it. From ordering from catalogues to catching the city bus to ordering my own contacts (parents refused)..i mean..ev.ery.thang! Totally fucking up my parenting now lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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